Family and Friends

 

  • Christian


    I am entitled to more parenting time in my divorce and part of me wants to exercise it just to annoy my ex and part of it is so that I can be with my kids more. I am trying to navigate my limiting beliefs such that I am making a decision based on my highest best intentions and not fears. What is your perspective?

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  • Martin


    My best friend who I have known from school used to be a “happy-go-lucky” person..and a positive person who I used to love being around. But nowadays he is always moaning & groaning about anything & everything & he has a negative attitude. I used to enjoy his company, but now when I have been in his company I feel depressed, fatigued and tired!

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  • Siri


    The area where I am having quite a few negative manifestation events is in my home. I feel like I was kind of “invaded” by a friend who is living with me now indefinitely. She moved in around the middle of July. She is paying me to stay here but that doesn’t seem to be much consolation for me.

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  • Sarah


    I’m 37 and I have been trying to conceive a much wanted baby with my fiancé Charlie over the past few years. We have been through a round of IVF and we got 5 embryos. 4 didn’t implant which at the time was quite distressing and my last embryo implanted and I became pregnant but I sadly miscarried at 7 weeks. I really do feel like I’m meant to be a mother to at least two children and I’m wondering if I’m having to raise my vibration to let these children come in. I have been listening to your pod casts and I feel that I have found you so I can heal somehow from this journey. I do understand that everything is happening for me but in the quiet moments I’m also wanting to build my own family of light and I can feel quite overwhelmed with sadness. I do feel like myself and my partner have got stronger and we have learnt a lot together. I would love Joshua to please give me their perspective on this and if they see children for me and my intuition is right here? Also just any other advice or comments on this subject and anything they feel would benefit me.

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  • Debra Jo


    I have been living your statement to me “Acceptance is more FUN” but this total acceptance has really shaken my faith that I create my own reality! We talked yesterday about our preferences and you said the universe has created all the best for us. I thought I created my own reality!

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  • Shelle


    I’ve been struggling a bit lately with trying to link my previous “beliefs/faith” and my evolution to living on the leading edge and understanding all I’ve been learning in the boot camps.

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  • Cate


    Thank you for helping me understand my operating system better. I have a habit of what one of my therapists called collapsing — It is similar to quitting or maybe the same. It’s a whatever with depressive elements. It is my go to in most situations that have any bit of challenge to it. You had referred to my “whatever” as a form of control. I don’t quite get how it is control? It is such a huge habit. Thank you for whatever insights you have on this habit.

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  • Wendy


    I’ve been spending a lot of time with my son and daughter in law (DIL). Lately, I’ve been noticing how much my DIL has been really riding my son – like constantly pointing out how he is wrong and ridiculing him for the things he does, etc. unlike the me of the past – I haven’t intervened – I haven’t said anything to either of them – but I have to tell you it makes me really uncomfortable.

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  • Sue


    My question has to do with a dear friend of many years who has had many events in her life that she really does not understand and I see them all as pretty similar. She and her husband have “almost” come into some inheritance only to have it foiled, so to speak, due to other family members seemingly odd moves. One being a sister (his) who just couldn’t make a move on selling the family home for 10 years untll the value dropped, another having her entire family planning to give the family (hers) home to a brother rather than dividing the inheritance once their mom passed.

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  • Kimmie


    I was in between houses and finally have landed where I’ll be for a bit anyway, and I have a question that I cannot seem to find the answer myself, and am asking for your thoughts ….

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  • Pernilla


    Before every time I have to see my dad, it feels like one part of me goes into a defense alert state and I can watch how my body builds up stress the days before, until the visit is over. I have had done a lot of journaling and several written and mental fear inventories during the last years and it feels like I pretty much have the intellectual understanding of it.

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  • Sari


    First of all, thank you so much for the Unlimited Abundance Bootcamp, my mind has been blown so many times already. I am so grateful I get to be a part of this.

    The 5th week has started a bit differently than any others, so that is why I’m writing to you.

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  • Sirgun


    I realized after I read your words and Gary’s that I am now a little confused about what being an allowing parent looks like. Does it mean allowing my 6 year old to light a fire in the woods (as he wanted to last night when he found a box of matches), or simply allowing him to feel negative emotion when I told him we weren’t going to be doing that (as I did)? Does it mean allowing him to watch whatever TV program he wants to watch, eat whatever he wants, etc… because it seems like he needs some element of cooperation from me in order to accomplish many of these things. For example, he is asking me for money to purchase the candy, or for me to connect my computer to WiFi so he can watch. I know I will let him to interact with people as he sees fit and play with his brother as they like. There are certain things that seem a bit more nuanced from where I stand. Could you help me clarify?

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  • Sue


    Sometimes it just seems like you have numerous negative beliefs going on at one time. My grandsons teamed up today to do as many things as possible to get yelled at and ended up with threats of various punishments, which only escalates things more. When it comes down to the threats, my oldest grandson begins to be super fresh and heaves things around the yard and calls his aunt a bitch (just enough to be heard). I can see how it starts to grow and becomes worse so I pretty much step away and let my daughter do her thing, but that doesn’t make it better.

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  • Sirgun


    I have a question about raising my children from the perspective of allowing. There are many situations, especially now that we are traveling through Europe, that my children act in ways what many would call “unruly”. I know it isn’t my job to make other people comfortable, but it does seem like there should be some awareness about being in small spaces with friends whose houses we are staying in, or in trains and restaurants. I would like my children to be aware of their surroundings. Is there anything useful about them understanding what expectations are in certain types of environments? What would being fully allowing look like?

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  • Lizi


    I wanted to ask you about a constant negative emotion I have around people who need to be the center of attention or the “look at me” stuff. Is it a reflection about an aspect of myself that I don’t enjoy? Can you help me uncover the limiting belief? I would appreciate it, it’s been with me a long time.

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  • Melissa


    I have been working on exposing limiting beliefs around some manifestation events that seem to be intertwined. In short, there have been a few occurrences where someone perceives my actions (or inactions) to be rude, not appropriate, uncaring, etc… So I am thinking my limiting beliefs are about being worried about or insecure about my own actions. Or judging my own actions as wrong. Can you help me clarify or dig a little deeper with this?

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  • Sue


    I seem to be having a hard time “accepting” my grandsons’ disruptive behavior. They spend a great deal of time at my house and their Mom has a hard time managing their rowdy behavior. Some of the challenges are…

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  • Pernilla


    I have walked around for some time and tried to formulate my questions about how to find more ease around food and eating. I guess you know exactly what you’ll tell me and what I need to hear now, but here are some of the questions I walk around with:

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  • Sue


    My daughter lives with me, so we see each other daily. She’s easy to live with, quite a Godsend for all she does, amazing housekeeper, takes care of her nephews often, seeing that I’m at my business most of the day, she lightens the load for everyone.

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  • Fabienne


    If there is nothing wrong in this world and I get upset because someone says something to me I initially see/choose to see or interpret as unkind or mean and see it as bad. For example my boys say something to each other that I view as unkind or as asking each other to behave in a certain way to control is fear, I now know and completely get that I see it from a lower perspective and that everything is FOR THEM and RIGHT.

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  • Melissa


    Yesterday, I had a huge trigger/manifestation event. I know it was perfect timing to deal with this now, on the eve of starting the boot camp! I have been estranged from my brother for a couple of years and really feel good about it. I have attracted abusive behavior (mostly verbal and some physical) from him since childhood, and about 2 yrs ago I decided to cut off communication with him. Then about a year ago, as I was having an energy work treatment, I felt a flood of emotion/forgiveness for him and I sent him a message letting him know. He was not so open, and claimed I owed him an apology. I felt then, that my forgiveness was really for me, and it was okay if he wasn’t ready to forgive me for whatever wrong he perceived me to have done to him. So I left things at that.

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  • Matt


    The relationship I feel the Law of Attraction has manifested for me two years ago has ended. It was kind of a fluke how it happened. But logistics due to long distance, and a difference of world views broke us up. So, now what? What was the purpose of manifesting this relationship? Was it to lead me to an even more perfect match? She was everything I was looking for in a woman. But I guess the perfect match would be that and no long distance, logistical issues, or worldview differences? What do I do now to get rid of this empty feeling of being on my own? I was fine before, but after experiencing this relationship now I feel the lack of not being in a relationship like the one I had.

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  • Melissa


    I need clarity and guidance about my precious 9 year old daughter. About 10 months ago, and again just yesterday and all last night, she has ‘fallen out of alignment’ and into some sort of anxiety where she feels completely unsettled to the point of throwing up, saying ‘I’m dying’, and moving around from room to room, trying so hard to get back to a ‘normal’ state. When this happened last year it sent me into a terrible anxiety myself that lasted about 4 days, even after she had regained her balance. It was the worst feeling in the world.

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  • Melissa


    I am hoping you can help me identify the lesson in a reoccurring manifestation event. I am negatively triggered when I feel my daughter is being disrespectful and even physically aggressive toward me at times. Please help me see the lesson here so I can make the inner shift. Also what else can I do or stop doing that will allow the best for my daughter in finding her own path?

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  • Joshua


    Last week I found out about the law of attraction and found how it’s been heavily controlling my life for a long time except in the opposite…? Anytime I would thank and fully believe a negative, that’s the only time I would have a positive outcome. I found out that the LOA works both ways, you just can’t have conflicting thoughts. If your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are going one way, then you get a positive outcome.

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  • Anonymous


    I would like to ask a question for the group collectively. I know what I will get when I ask the universe! How do I be more allowing to individuals in my family when there are parenting obstructions at hand. I am frustrated over the level of contribution from everyone concerned. Simply put, I feel that everyone declines in contribution to family responsibilities, i.e. chores, or respect or lack thereof. Because of this decline, I see the repetitive antics of trying to so-to speak (Joshua) it and not let this Frustrate the living SHIT out of me! I then lash out in retaliation for it. After time this over repetitive cycle of ups downs and COME TO JOSHUA MOMENTS! I’ve become calloused to this now and I’ve almost built up a wall and do not know how to prevent this, and can not seem to change the way it makes me feel inside. I don’t like that feeling personally because it has become a societal norm for one to change their surroundings, you will get a different result!

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  • Maura


    I am an Army wife and mother of three swimming deep in the waters of your teachings. I am so excited to send this question to you! My question today is about my oldest son; he’s 8, we adopted him at the age of three weeks and he is deeply angry. He seems to be triggered by just about everything his dad and I do. I believe he is mostly angry about the circumstances around his adoption but it manifests as mean spirited barbs and increasingly violent tantrums.

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  • Priya


    My daughter sent me a note last night (after a party with her friends) that she still is not comfortable with the feminine side of her and wants to officially change her name now that she is approaching 18 next June. I don’t feel ready to share this with anyone else yet, but I’ve copied it here with you and wonder if Joshua might be able to share some wisdom with me.

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  • Nicole


    My eldest sister died at 40 of cancer followed two months later by my father. Today my younger sister is affected by Charco’s disease. I’m conscious that no medicine has answers, I made requests to Audrey. Although her answers were obvious, I still hoped that a miracle would occur through meditation, faith, and the law of attraction, until I became aware of the last decision of my sister who chose euthanasia.

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  • Kimmie


    I am currently experiencing very challenging times with both of my neighbors. They play off of each other, and I sense that the one neighbor is jealous of the relationship that was built between myself and the “other” neighbor. I dream of having really great boundaries with both of them, since they both like to just walk into my house whenever they want. I will often tell them not to do that, but then, something changes and they go back to just walking into my house. I am not happy with this. I want to run away at times, even just take my dogs and not come back, but I can’t do that since all of my stuff and my life are here. HELP!!! What am I supposed to be learning here???

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  • Tasha


    I have a situation that I know I am trying to control and that the control is based in fear. A quick background as to why I am controlling this specific situation. My daughter has annual birthday sleepover parties and while it takes a lot out of me, they usually go pretty smoothly. Last year, there were a few new faces and things turned out to be less than perfect…at least in my perception at the time. One of the girls is a known ‘bully’ and unbeknownst to me, she did bully another girl at the party last year. There was also a clique with the new girls that excluded many of the other girls.

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  • Tasha


    I am struggling with trying to ‘love’ someone who was a friend and who has pulled away from me. Usually, I would get angry and say ‘fuck her’ but the more enlightened me is trying hard to feel more love so that I can remain open to receiving from the universe! I get it, but I’m struggling so I need help please! haha

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  • Loretta


    I think I may have to disagree with this one (your answer to Reidun’s question #59), well, disagree AND agree, somewhat.

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  • Nikki


    I just got some shocking news and would really appreciate some guidance on this. My best friend with whom I have shared so much with over the last 4 years has begun to pull away from me. It couldn’t be worst timing (or could it?) as things have been shaky in my marriage and I am considering divorce. I have also been through many things with her and I would say that we have been equally intimate and vulnerable with each other.

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  • Tasha


    I’m coming back to you with a question concerning my son and our style of parenting. I’m actually not questioning my choice of parenting because for me and my family it seems to work well. Just a brief description of our style: we are very aware that our children have the ability to make their own choices and as such we pretty much function here without rules. My kids are homeschooled and we also take a very laid back approach to learning as well. Our children pretty much learn when they want, what they want, and how they want. People are often surprised that our house functions so well without discipline and that my kids are learning so much despite our approach to parenting and schooling. I feel we have a wonderfully respectful, smooth and loving environment and we all get along well.

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  • Heather


    Please help my husband & I have been trying to conceive a baby for the last 2 years. We did conceive last year but lost our baby at 9 weeks. Can you please help me vibrate the correct way to attract our beautiful healthy child.

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  • Victoria


    I need help regarding my marriage. My husband has been married twice before, has three daughters from those marriages, and we have a daughter and son from ours. I often have feelings of unworthiness, which I understand come from the inside out, but when I see my husband treating my children differently from his others, I find it hard.

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  • Vivi


    It’s my pleasure to have this conversation with you. I have sons (1 is 26 and 1 is 30). Both of my sons have shared with me that their opinion of their life has been sheltered and controlled by me or rules of society. At the age of 4 and 8 respectively, I parted from my husband and took care of the children on my own with no assistance physically or financially.

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  • Astrid


    I am stuck on the thought that I hurt other people. I know on some logical level that we are all responsible for our own feelings, but I still restrain myself in what I say and do because I am so worried that I will be the cause of other people feeling bad. I know their reaction to me is based more around themselves and their beliefs than on my actions, but I still feel a huge amount of pain when I think about how I could hurt them if I say the wrong thing.

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  • Mary Kay


    My husband and I have been able to manifest many great things together in our life. Sometimes it’s a little scary how easily we co-create at times. I have also attracted some negative things so I try to be very conscious of my thoughts because I am very aware of how easily I can manifest things. I feel like this is a great blessing, although at times it can also be a curse when I am not in a positive place.

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  • Sue


    I have an 8 year old grandson. He has always been extremely active, and exceptionally good at all sports. He currently plays soccer, football, and baseball, usually 2 sports going at one time. He is also breezing through school academically, loves learning and from what the teachers tell us is a wonderful student. He seems to have endless energy.

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  • Kelley


    I’ve been following your Q&A for some time now, and have loved them all, but today’s Question of the Week asked *exactly* the question I had, but from the point of view (POV) of the attorney. My POV is as the adult daughter of the attorney’s client: an elderly person in guardianship. I understand why you advise Michael (the attorney) that this is all a game, and that he should not be dragged down by the low-vibrations of his client.

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  • Lis


    Please help me get a positive spin on what is happening to my 11 year old son. He has a painful bone tumour on his neck and we are not sure how to help him. Normally I can put a positive spin on anything but I am terrified. Please help.

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  • Fabienne


    First of all, I wanted to thank you so much again for your last response to my question. I am writing to give you an “update” and to also ask another question, if I may? Your reply has made a big difference to the way I look at things now and I am getting better and better at stopping when I get a “negative” emotion or feeling in the pit of my stomach because I know that it is there to tell me that I am not aligned with my “inner guide” who is not seeing the event in the same way as I am.

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  • Tasha


    I have a question about education and choices. My family is what people label as unschooling. My kids are homeschooled but are given complete freedom to learn what they want, how they want and when they want. I feel confident that they are learning and growing everyday and will turn out to be exactly what they desire to be. I believe this partly because I believe in this system of learning but also because I believe in this whole thing we all call Law of Attraction.

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  • Annilia


    How can I help my children at a young age become conscious of their path early? They are ages 4 & 7 right now.

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  • Tasha


    I’m not sure if I can get help on this issue but I’d like to try! My beloved dog passed away yesterday and I’m missing him terribly. I feel like I get it that there is another level/ place that our souls all go to once we leave the physical. I guess I’m wondering a couple things. First, will our souls meet again once I leave the physical? Do animal and human souls get to reunite at some point? I’m almost afraid to ask that question as I hope very much that we do.

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  • Fabienne


    Thanks for the reply to my first question about my children. I now understand that they have their own guidance system and their own vibration and that when their vibration is a match to your teachings they will find them.

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  • Fabienne


    First of all I would like to thank you both for sharing your wonderful messages. I have just discovered (2 weeks ago) your teachings after spending some time studying with Abraham Hicks and Bashar in particular. I meditate daily, usually both am and pm and find it extremely useful. I understand and usually am able to apply most of the 15 codes in my daily life but sometimes I get caught up in the drama and the situation and become annoyed or start judging a situation or people around me.

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  • Kim


    My 8 year daughter is struggling with making connections with her peers at school. She often feels left out and doesn’t understand why. She is a sweet, kind, and funny child. It perplexes me that she struggles with making friends, especially because I see how wonderful and amazing she is at home. How can I help her achieve her goal to connect with her friends?

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  • Lis


    My son is ever so slightly different to other 11 year olds and has few friends because of it. He has a hearing and processing disability which means he can’t interact easily with others. I am not sure what to do to make his life easier.

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  • Tasha


    Thanks for taking my question! I have a fear that keeps me from traveling far from my kids. We are raising our 2 children (13 and 9) in a unschooling home. It’s a style of homeschooling and parenting that is rather uncommon (yet growing) and this is the issue that keeps me connected close to home. If something should happen to me and my husband (while we are away traveling) no one in my family would raise our kids the way we do. In all likelihood, they would end up being sent to school.

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  • Elle


    My thing is the muggle echoes reverberating in my mind that it is not possible, I am deluding myself yadda, yadda, yadda, while my higher self laughs it all off and winks at me, telling me not to worry, sugar. How to stick with the latter?

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  • Shira


    Thank you so very much for this amazing website, it is truly a gift. You explain things with so much clarity, and I just cannot stop read your words. I have been listening for the last 10 years to so many people and channelers, and I love them all, but never with so much clarity and I love when you give specific examples from our world, which shows your understanding and not so much pushing and pressure to be on the high vibe, and that alone brings me on a higher level. And I so appreciate that.

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  • Kirsten


    Thank you Joshua for the understanding I KNOW I will receive! I am struggling at present with aligning myself with being a working Mum. This work is not just about earning money, but about doing MY thing, finding my way and being me. I have found work that fits around my kids but every time I get some work to do one or both are ill! I can see that there is something in this for me to learn, about believing that I can be a good mother and work too. And I am working on that belief. But I also understand that kids sometimes just need time away from school, and can at times believe they are ill because they would prefer to be at home. My question really lies in how I allow my children to find their own way, be themselves, and not force them to conform, and still be able to work and do MY thing? I am struggling to see how it would all fit together.

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  • Debra McFadden


    Thank you very much for your invaluable message to my last question. I have found it extremely clarifying and helpful. As a result of your recent answer, the following relative question came to mind: Assuming that all living creatures are governed by the universal law of attraction, as well, I don’t understand how it comes about that some animals live a life with those that love and care for them, such as our beloved pets and there are those that suffer horrible abuse throughout their entire existence here on earth. I can’t imagine that animals resist whatever manifests in their lives, moment to moment, so why is a farm pig’s experience void of love and compassion and riddled with abuse when other animals, such as my two cats are experiencing a life of love, comfort and respect?

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  • Cherie


    A little family history is my only brother (older) has been on a different path for a long time. Twice in prison, both for robbing banks. Been diagnosed as bipolar but only after doing meth and other drugs for a time. Parents tried to help him, but he seems to blame them for his path. This has been going on for over 20 years. Just recently he checked himself into a hospital and then had a major stroke. My issue with it all is now my mother feels obligated to again visit and help him everyday. I realize that it isn’t really any of my business. I know I should feel love for my brother. I don’t feel any pity for him as he is the one that chose this path. I do feel anger though that he has brought his victim self back into the family. Before this he was not in touch with anyone (living the homeless life) which included his parole officer. That was actually a lot easier at least on me. I’m sure it wasn’t for my mother. So I do realize that this path is something he and my mother need. I need to take myself out of it. I live far enough away I really don’t have to deal with it except for my phone calls with my mother on his progress. Any help would be appreciated.

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  • Karren


    Thank you very much indeed for your message for me which I received yesterday. Here are my thoughts in response.

    I guess it’s hard for me to understand how, after experiencing so much abuse, and spending a long time working through it – I spent most of my 20s in support groups, counselling and therapy, and in this way began to develop a workable personality as that type of information had not been available to me before – then I studied and practiced Buddhism for 15 years, in the course of which I received worse abuse (from my sister) which left me with post-traumatic stress symptoms… It’s hard to find out, after devoting my life to healing in this way, that it’s all my fault and I’m just not trying hard enough! Because I really have been (almost!) everywhere with it, to the edges of everything – for example with the hurt of the abuse from my sister I tried so hard to work through it and in the end had to admit I was not Jesus, and that’s why I couldn’t easily forgive or get over the devastating hurt she inflicted, though I have been able to love her again. (It was a situation where counsellors and teachers had nothing to offer me except an acknowledgement that this was a really difficult situation – they couldn’t see a way in which I was not handling it well, or tell me something that I could change).

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  • Karren


    Hello again! Thank you very much for your help recently. I am dealing with a situation that I find difficult and think that you would be able to shed some light on it. I’ve realised that my mum seeks to keep everyone in the family dependent, ill and incapable so that she can ‘care’ for them by doing things for them that they could and should be doing for themselves. Family members’ lives seem to shrink to house-bound and they have problems with their health, addictions, anger and abuse. My mum gets to be the capable one in this way.

    Her self-esteem is so low that this is all she seems to hope for – a life of domestic slavery and martyrdom. She likes to complain about how she is treated, and she holds the belief that there are lots of evil people in the world – but she forgets the physical abuse and emotional neglect she gave to me as a child. She has a lot of denial and doesn’t listen to what I say about the situation, even when I am begging that she changes in order to save my sister’s life (she is alcoholic and has already suffered liver cancer– my mum is the co-alcoholic who makes everything “ok” for her).

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  • Pollyanna


    My daughter has a peanut allergy. It’s something we discovered when she was 4 years old. However, knowing that there is an underlying metaphysical reason for everything, I am wondering how this ever came about? Could it be something I have unknowingly ‘wished upon’ her as an over-protective Mum before I was aware of the Law of Attraction and the power of our thoughts? Now I know that everything comes into our lives as a result of our personal thinking and feeling, then my daughter must have somehow attracted this herself. But it’s something I struggle to see the spiritual reasoning behind. Why would she? In the ‘real world’ I myself had allergies as a child… not to nuts of any kind but E numbers, cats, house dust. Have I passed these down to her through my thoughts? Is such a thing possible? Or am I completely overthinking! I want to be able to relax around the issue but obviously it is something to be taken seriously… she has an Epi pen for emergencies. There are trials being carried out in other countries and I would like to have a glimmer of hope that she can overcome this some day, despite this crazy 5% recovery ‘statistic’.

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  • Bruce Hurley


    As I’ve read the advice and insights from your books and e-mails, I find that I resonate with some things and push back against others. I guess that’s to be expected when the ideas are so “radical,” as your latest book title suggests, but I would still like to get some greater clarity, especially since I see so much truth in your wisdom.

    I can get on board with the “nothing is wrong” philosophy. I came to that perspective on my own many years ago and it’s been very helpful. Instead, I believe that there is just effective and ineffective, supportive or destructive. For instance, I don’t think it’s wrong for someone to row upstream, but if their desired outcome is to be downstream somewhere, then that seems like an ineffective approach.

    If the rower is me, then the answer is easy–turn around! But what if the rower is a loved one or, more particularly, my child? You have said that it is never appropriate to offer guidance or input of any kind to another human being–regardless of your relationship–because to do so would be to try to force one person’s limiting beliefs on another, which we can’t do because we each have our own unique vibration.

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  • Valeria


    The day of Joey’s transition is coming, June 16, two years ago. I know now, that without a year reading and listening to you and Abraham, I wouldn’t be here “standing”, hoping, believing. I really try to focus in Joey’s presence and not in his absence, and I actually feel him and maybe I hear him. I meditate everyday. I am also planning to do something fun on June 16, like going to his favorite roller coasters. But sometimes I have mix thoughts.

    First, some days, I feel that the phrases some people say like “he is in a better place” or “god needed an Angel” (like you have to be very special to die), it’s like you and Abraham saying ” there is no death” “it is a transition” “it is a place without resistance” “very happy and positive” (like it is much better there than here) I feel like those phrases are the same?! If there, where we transition, is a perfect place, so special place, etc etc, why people who say that, do not want to die, or why they don’t want their kids to die so they can be in a better place too? and then I think, if I would have been in alignment before my son’s leaving maybe this wouldn’t have happened…do you think that any parent who lost a child could ever say “I agree for this to happened”?!

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  • Jacky Exton


    My question is one of the concept of Family Responsibility. My father has varying degrees of narcissistic tendencies and as a result was a self-involved, cold and often cruel parent who was mostly absent and not pleasant to be around when he was present. As a result I don’t have any emotional relationship with him and I’m quite happy with that. I did unwillingly interact with him when I visited my mother – whom I did have a relationship with – but since she died 3 years ago I’ve had little desire to have anything to do with him. He is living comfortably in a retirement village and wants for nothing. He has friends as well as a lady-friend and is generally busy.

    His health is now deteriorating and the village where he lives caters for that entirely with daily full-time care if/when necessary as well as a medical facility. I still prefer to have little to do with him but my dilemma is that of what my responsibility towards him is spiritually as his health gets worse. I don’t like him, that is my truth. I feel a physical repulsion towards him when I am in his company. He, on the other hand, feels a sense of entitlement as my father and even believes completely that he was the “Perfect Father”. I completely accept that he’s entitled to feel and believe whatever he wants and have no desire to dispute this with him on any level. I simply want him to leave me alone. Please can you shed some light on this for me?

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  • Sienna


    Recently, I’ve been having very similar experiences in different parts of my life that give me the same feelings. I get the feeling I’m being left out and somewhat unwanted. It happens many in different ways, but here are a couple: I am standing in a circle with my friends and they either cut me out of the circle somehow or they walk away, making me follow them. I don’t like to be a follower, I want to be the one that they are following.

    So in order to counteract this uncomfortable feeling, I decide not to follow them and just stay where I am, amuse myself with other things, and try to be at ease with being alone. This doesn’t work though, I still want to be included in the friend circle. Clearly this is something that needs to be addressed because it has happened with each one of my friend groups. I would greatly appreciate it if you could shed some light on my situation and give me some advice on what to do about it.

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  • Pamela Massey


    My question is regarding my relationship with my mother. For most of my life I have been extremely dominated by my mom. She is very critical, manipulating and very dominating. I allowed myself to be dependent on her mentally and financially. You could say she crippled me with her wealth. I never got a career or went far in my schooling. I always believed that all money or stuff could only come through her. She made me to believe that.

    For the first part of my marriage my husband put up with her constant meddling and controlling personality. When our son was born she got even worse. I allowed her to be in my marriage and have a heavy hand in the raising of my child. It was always stressful for me and ever since I was a little girl I felt to be in horrible bondage by her. I was very unhappy. My husband did his best to get along and allow her to have time with our son at her convenience.

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  • Pamela Massey


    My burning question to you is why my husband and I have never been able to have more children. We have one amazing son who is now 15 years old. I am now 48 years old and we tried for over 12 years but nothing came about. Doctors could not find any reason for my husband and I to not conceive another child. In my heart it pains me so much that I will not have another. I always hoped that one day it would happen.

    How do I move past this deep desire of mine? Our son is truly a wonderful child. He’s always been described by others as an old soul. Brilliant, compassionate, funny and so very wise. He is also very content, happy and secure. Never once has he asked for a brother or sister. Is this the reason for no more children? All my focus should be on him and helping him to become the great being that I think he is?

    Thank you for your teachings. I found you a week ago. I am on this leading edge experience alone. No one I know follows these teachings.

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  • Valeria


    Since my son left, or transitioned, every month of that day number, 16, I go to the place of the accident and I light candles. So every 16, I try to control my thoughts more than any other day, try to control sad thoughts. I meditate every morning now. I try to do things that I like and be busy, but in the middle of the day.

    I bent down to pick up something on the floor, and then the sciatic nerve pain came suddenly and severe and I couldn’t straight back, well I did, but I had a severe pain all day, and today with Advil and resting, the pain is slowly going away. I had this back pain before, but not too often, the last time I think it was maybe 4-5 years ago, before Joey’s transition. I am a kind of person that I don’t like to be sick or with pain, I like being healthy. I like to think “this pain will not defeat me”, and I try to not pay attention to the pain. But this time, it hurts, and it makes me angry with myself.

    So, does this pain has something to do with the loss of Joey? Or the pain of not having Joey? If this has to do with my “resistance” to things that happened? But I tried to not resist, I try to accept, consciously every day, but maybe it is not enough, right? How can I ever going to accept this as “perfect”?

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  • Valeria


    About “perfect timing” for things to happen. I understand that I can find the meaning when things occur in a specific moment, manifestations events. Is it a “perfect timing” for the day we transition too? Like it happens in a specific day for a reason? The day of the accident of Joey, it was my mother’s birthday. My mom died exactly 20 years ago, in 1993, from the day of the accident, in 2013. Joey was 12, and my mom died on March 12, 1993. Joey’s birthday is March 21. could this be a sign for me from my mom, reassuring me about her presence, and that Joey was going to be OK? or I am imagining to much?

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  • Valeria


    About my husband, or future ex-husband since we are getting divorce. We don’t live together, I left the house because after Joey’s transition I felt I didn’t want to try anymore that the marriage works, I lost all “desires” to do “things”. Now, I think that besides that I also wanted to leave too. Anyways,

    The question is, he doesn’t believe in all this, he does believe in the eternity of life after death. Is he in all this to learn or to desire the same as me? Such as “the strong desire to reconnect with Joey”? He is not following this path of beliefs. His beliefs and desires were and are different from mine. Then, where and what is the point where we coincide? We are totally different, we grieve in totally different ways, but does he has to learn the same as I am learning? If what happened to us, losing a son, was not an accident, was intended, then he “agreed” to this to happen too before we came into this physical reality?

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  • Bruce Hurley


    I have a belief that failing to “call” people on their bad behavior makes it easier for them to continue it. This seems like a bigger responsibility than just looking at it from how it affects me. Most people don’t have an enlightened guide to help them change their perspective. Do we not have an obligation (or at least the right) to protect our fellow beings from bullies and jerks?

    Re-reading the above, I guess the highest path is to not see their behavior as bad in the first place. This is something I have often shared with others: that there are no bad things in the world; only things. Labeling them as bad is the first misstep.

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  • Hugh Bodley


    I have recently experienced a conflict in my association with a church group. I was about to quit the group as I deemed their treatment of my presence was not a welcoming one. I was about to email the group individually and inform them that I was quitting because I felt like a teenager attending a new school, mid semester, where all cliques were in place and friendships established and I was forced to pay my dues before they accepted me. I further felt ostracized when, for all the established members each meeting resembled a class reunion. This affected my participation in a negative way.

    So, as quitting is not an option, I will follow your teachings, change my attitude and have a positive approach toward the group.

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  • Valeria


    I would like to ask another question to Joshua, if you have time. Maybe you don’t remember me, but I asked a question regarding the loss of my son Joey, he should have been 13 now, he left last year at his 12 years old, in a bicycle accident.

    I feel that despite all the things I want to believe like eternity, law of attraction, expansion, etc. I feel that there is a point where I can’t cross, where I feel “stuck”, a point where there are things I need to feel, and think in order to expand. As parents, we would die for our kids, right? If the only thing we have to eat is a piece of bread, we wouldn’t share, we will give it to our kids without thinking, we don’t care about us.

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  • Debra Jo Bright


    First let me just say how amazing it is to have a friend like you to turn to with these physical questions!! WOW, how lucky I feel!! And so appreciative to come to this awesome place in my life.

    This question just came up yesterday. I have friends that I was extremely close to through the years. We stay in touch on at least a monthly basis. One friend is celebrating her 10 year cancer-free anniversary and a bunch of us girls who have known each other for 20 – 30 years are planning on a trip to celebrate.

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  • Valeria


    I have two children, my daughter is 8, and my son, Joey, would have been 13, but he died suddenly last year, in a bicycle accident, on June 16, 2013, when he was 12. He crossed the street without paying attention because he was talking with his friends, and a 80 year old woman, without an appropriate reflex reaction, hit him. And nine months later, I found a person who introduced me to these “beliefs.”

    So, if what I think and feel create my reality, what should I do with the guilty feeling? Guilt because even when was unconsciously I led my life to that point, and Guilt because believing means that I will look for joy/happiness/etc. How a mother could want to be happy and feel joy when his son is not here? I should want to feel miserable, right? And Joey, he was careless, he was reckless of danger, so how he could have created that reality for himself. Before Joey, I remembered to live thinking and feeling that I was going to lose somebody, I felt fear all the time. So, in my reality what happened made sense, but Joey, he was not living with fear, that for sure, he thought he could do anything, and he was not afraid. How could that accident happened to him? And, is it possible for Joshua to perceive Joey? What might Joey be feeling/thinking?

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  • S.J.H.


    There is a consistent theme in my childhood/adulthood with family belonging. Awkward is an undercurrent. Most of the time I feel like I’m not truly seen, heard, or accepted. And even with “tapping” to release emotional triggers, I am not getting past it. The frustration that manifests as rage is wearing me out.

    I don’t want to go to extremes and leave this family behind, but the feeling I get consistently is like weird emotional abuse. I just cannot figure out this family that I was brought up with. (Step family, having one half sister/same mother, whose loyalty fluctuates, where sometimes I trust her and sometimes I don’t.)

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    My grandmother died today. My mom is suffering pretty badly. Could I ask a favor and ask Joshua two questions on my mom’s behalf? I just asked her if she could ask her mom anything now, what would it be. She said: “Are you happy?” and “Do you forgive me?”

    Do you think Joshua could tap into my grandmother and give my mother a personal message? I am not sure it’s possible and I hope you don’t mind me asking. My mother is very open minded and this could bring her significant comfort.

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    Our cat, Tigger, made his transition to nonphysical this morning, as a result of our decision to stop the stress. We were unable to find another solution. He is de-clawed so we did not feel letting him out was a humane option.

    Is he okay? And if it is possible to do so, please relay our love and sadness?

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  • Jen


    Help me to understand the reason this man with this illness would enter my life?

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    Thank you for that response… I am very tickled by it and it excites me incredibly. I’m sure I need to ponder it more, and will, but I’m hoping you can give me perspective on my limiting beliefs. I feel that I am pretty open minded but acknowledge that, like most humans, I have beliefs that are hindering my progress. Can Joshua help me to pinpoint which beliefs are holding me back the most at this point? Since you framed your answer to lead me in the direction you desire, am I on the right track?

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    We have a cat who has been a part of our family for about 10 years. Our new neighborhood has many feral cats that torment him. To add insult to injury, a kitten was lost and needed a home so we took him in. Not sure which incident (or both) is causing his new behavior, but he has been “marking his territory” by urinating all over our house.

    This is a new house, we have new furniture and carpets and so naturally, this is very upsetting to us. It’s been going on for months, we’ve attempted to medicate him (vet approved) but he refuses the pill – no matter how creative we get with ways to give it to him.

    We are frustrated and now considering having him put down. Even the vet assistant has said that it may be the more humane option if he is so distressed and unhappy. However, I am personally struggling with this option for obvious reasons. What do we do?

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    Since everything in our physical experience is a reflection of our inner world, are all other beings (human and animal) real (meaning they are having a physical experience just like us), or are some of them illusion?

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    Since each of us perceives and translates vibration differently, do some of us do it the same – or are we all specifically unique? For example, the color blue that I see may not be the same color that one of my daughters sees. Is it possible that my other daughter does see it the same as me?

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  • Jennifer Arsenault


    My daughter has bouts of anxiety, mostly over being separated from me. It happens mostly at bed time, and she’s had issues with sleeping her whole life (she is 5). How can I facilitate her finding her own connection with her inner being and allow her to feel more secure?

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