One On One

  • Wendy Question #1


    I have been mulling over my first question for the past week ~ I'm not sure where to start! So here it goes!!

    Over the last six years my health has declined, I've gained weight and I've lost my mojo. I don't have the drive I used to have to succeed – let alone know what my passion is. I used to have the Midas touch and everything I worked on or touched turned to gold. Although I feel like I have been searching for this new path ~ I often feel as though I (source me) am looking out through my eyes – not identifying with who I am anymore wondering how I got to this point. I tend to beat myself up because of this. Through your teachings and Abraham's teachings I am striving to be "easy" about this process ~ I am very impatient!

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  • Wendy Question #2


    9 out of 10 mornings I wake up with this extreme feeling of anxiety. It's almost a sense of dread. I don't have much, if anything, to do on a daily basis ~ back to my first question ~ I don't feel motivation towards anything. This sense of dread I feel ~ could it be from my feeling of not being able to "control" my day ~ not knowing what the day will bring? Not have a schedule to speak of? Judging my day as wrong?

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  • Wendy Question #3


    In my last answer you said "thank God." After listening to you and Abraham I was under the impression there is no "God" ~ only source energy. Will you please elaborate on this?

    You also said there is nothing for me to do right now but delve into this program. What more can I do to delve?

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  • Wendy Question #4


    It's funny ~ now that I have started the one on one program and am actively reading your books ~ a lot of my questions seem to be answered by the readings.

    I have noticed that I often have glimpses of my true self and I wonder how that self fits into the life I'm living now. Oftentimes I am very lonely and bored and when I glimpse my true self ~ this self is completely self-contained and self-content. Yet my day-to-day life is unfulfilling. How can I begin to bridge the gap between these two aspects of myself?

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  • Wendy Question #5


    When I learn something new ~ like the teachings of Joshua ~ if I don't get it right away ~ I'm failing. I have a tendency to look to others for the answers; shortcuts ~ look outside for someone to "fix" me.

    Why do I feel like someone else would know what is best for me? I'm afraid to take responsibility for the process for fear I will get it wrong. If someone will just tell me what to do I can do it. Then if it doesn't work ~ it's not really my fault ~ they told me to do it and it just wasn't right for me.

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  • Wendy Question #6


    Will you please talk more about deliberately lowering resistance? Abraham says the Universe only knows whatever script I am telling it ~ my vibrational script. Will you please elaborate on this? Maybe give me some suggestions on my new vibrational script.

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  • Wendy Question #7


    When we re-enter to the non-physical, do we recognize those we knew in the physical? Do we always have relationships with them on some level? Do we remember one life to the next ~ who we knew, what we did? Why don't we remember that now? Is the nonphysical where we "really" exist and this is just all a big dream?

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  • Wendy Question #8


    I get that money will come to me ~ in the amount I need ~ when I need it. What if I want to do something big ~ like remodel my kitchen ~ how do I manifest that kind of money?

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  • Wendy Question #9


    So I have been reading and re-reading your answers ~ I have been reading the books ~ listening to Abraham and listening to the podcast. I thought I was doing pretty well with my beliefs and looking at everything as good and right and eliminating resistance as much as I can. However, the past week I have been woken up around 2:00-3:00 in the morning with a migraine. When I asked you about the migraines before you said when I sleep there is no resistance. Why then if I am sleeping do I get woken with the pain? Am I resisting while I sleep? What can I do before I go to bed to release resistance?

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  • Wendy Question #10


    I've been reading the new book and going back through your answers to my questions. A common thread is: Feel good first, learn to feel good, find your joy, and relinquish control. This is all well and good ~ but what if I have forgotten how to do some of this? I've been shut down for so long, I'm not even sure what makes me happy. Where do I find my joy?

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  • Wendy Question #11


    Sometimes ~ a lot of times ~ I wake up in the morning with a sense of dread ~ an intense feeling of loneliness and sadness. I thought when we sleep all gets reset. Am I immediately thinking these thoughts as soon as I wake up? Why am I thinking these thoughts??? What can I do to eliminate these thoughts? I meditate and they are still there.

    I go to bed and intend to wake up refreshed and ready to go ~ but I don't. It's a tough way to start the day. Any insights you have will be appreciated.

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  • Wendy Question #12


    After reading your answer to my question #11 ~ I had these thoughts:

    I get the feeling of dread because I feel like I don't have anything of significance to do that day ~ nor do I necessarily want to have anything of significance to do that day. This is my fear ~ I will be insignificant and if I am insignificant no one will love me. I know this is a limiting belief without any truth whatsoever ~ a belief established in childhood.

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  • Wendy Question #13


    I pretty much have the opportunity to do just about anything I want to do right now. Why is it that I can't come up with anything that I want to do with any amount of interest? Also ~ I know I am holding onto resistance ~ I can physically feel it, yet I can't seem to shake it off - it is exhausting. I think this is why I don't feel like doing anything because I'm always so tired.

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  • Wendy Question #14


    I am working on wrapping my head around the idea that everything is right. Do animals create their own reality too? If so ~ why do some animals choose an abusive environment? I can hardly look at Facebook these days for all the postings of some animal being neglected or abused ~ this breaks my heart.

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    • Wendy Question #15


      I must say ~ I am getting better at recognizing negative emotions and analyzing them to uncover the limiting belief ~ thank you. However, I woke up again last night with a migraine ~ resistance. I have been doing my best to let go of resistance, judgment and criticism. Of course ~ I still have a lot more to work on.

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    • Wendy Question #16


      Listening to Abraham and they always say "what life has caused you to become." What does this mean?

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    • Wendy Question #17


      I have been doing fairly well with my attention and focus. However, every time I have some real estate task to do ~ or I get a phone call relating to real estate or a new lead ~ I cringe! I know I am not supposed to make any major changes during my one on one time period but I'm not sure how to handle this. I am on a team so I have a team leader that expects a certain level from me. I have monthly office fees I have to pay (even if I am not making any money) and it just brings up so much negative emotion! I realize I need to work through this emotion and I am doing my best to "welcome" these emotions. When I boil it down ~ I don't enjoy real estate, I have no desire to study the market, preview the homes, etc. I don't know if this is because of where I am at right now emotionally or if I just need to let go and move on.

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    • Wendy Question #18


      You talk about me moving out of fear and into love. What does this look like on a daily basis?

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    • Wendy Question #19


      Today I got an immediate sense of how the "journey " is more fulfilling than the result. I love college football - I root hard for the schools my sons attended. Today was the first day of the season. I was so excited when I woke up - I could not wait for the games to start - I was giddy with expectation! Once the games started - as time went on - although I was enjoying watching the games - my enthusiasm began to wane. I realized the build up to the games - the anticipation was what my excitement was all about ~ what I truly enjoy and watching the games play out was just the next logical step.

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    • Wendy Question #20


      When I am writing these questions to you - is my inner being communicating with you as to what it is I am really wanting? Sometimes I feel like words do not express to you what it is I am really wanting to know.

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    • Wendy Question #21


      I've been reading and studying your books and your answers to me. One thought that keeps coming up for me is I've held on so tight for so long ~ it's like my grip is frozen in place. I know what needs to be done, I understand it logically, yet physically I know I am still hanging on tight. I realize I have improved some as the migraines have diminished ~ yet I can still feel myself holding on ~ TIGHT!

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    • Wendy Question #22


      Last night I had a migraine. I haven't had one that bad in a long time. Today, I feel like I've been hit by a truck!

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    • Wendy Question #23


      I have no sense of smell. When I was in high school, I used a lot of nose spray and so I have always thought that I "damaged" my smeller. However, I do not remember ever really smelling before. I've always just accepted this. Occasionally, with a very strong smell ~ like lemon juice ~ I may get a small sense of the smell.

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    • Wendy Question #24


      A situation came up today that I would like to get your take on.

      My son and daughter in-law's dog comes over on Tuesdays and Thursdays ~ play days with Wally. The dog has been fighting a recurring rash ~ my son/daughter in-law have yet to figure out what it is from. The rash had gone away with medication and it came back this morning. So when the dog came today ~ he had the rash.

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    • Wendy Question #25


      Reading your book ~ A Radical Change ~ I am curious about something. In the chapter on Love, you wrote to love the thing (situation, person, etc.) as it is in the moment and still have preferences as to what I would prefer. Using my kitchen as an example, will you please walk me through this process?

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    • Wendy Question #26


      Lately, when I am thinking of questions to ask you ~ I answer them myself! The answers "feel" right ~ am I to understand this as guidance from my inner self?

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    • Wendy Question #27


      As I go through my day ~ focusing on being in the moment ~ I often feel as though I am wandering around aimlessly with no direction. I am focusing on letting go, stop resisting, and being in the moment and seeing it as perfect. Yet, I still get this feeling of wandering and that makes me resistant again! I do my best not to focus on physical pain in my body, but, the "wandering" almost amplifies it.

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    • Wendy Question #28


      I really enjoyed the call this morning ~ so many "a-ha" moments!!

      Thinking about all we talked about ~ I have a limiting belief that if I accept everything as being good ~ the universe will give me something to "test" my acceptance.

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    • Wendy Question #29


      So …. Since our Monday call ~ I have been getting more and more pain = resistance!! There was one sentence that I wrote down and I would like more clarification; "I'm using the pain to not feel good ~ the pain is because of how I feel = my vibration and general idea of life."

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    • Wendy Question #30


      Per your last answer ~ I focused on doing something different today. Unfortunately, my back is in spasms so I am limited. I started to work on a picture frame using old credit cards cut up into mosaic tiles.

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    • Wendy Question #31


      So ~ today I worked with succulents ~ replanting and making wreaths. I enjoy this very much.

      On another note ~ sometimes when I am talking to one of my sons about something ~ my husband will say something ~ something I already know and immediately my persona will take over as if I am being attacked. As if I am stupid and don't know what I am talking about. This is all made up in my head ~ I get that ~ it takes me back to when I was a child and my mom told me I was stupid.

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    • Wendy Question #32


      I have been feeling much better ~ I am able to keep my head above the line most of the time! I've been listening a lot to Abraham and I'd like to get your take on a few thoughts.

      I realize now that I have probably missed so many opportunities because I was just not a vibrational match at the time. I understand now I need to relax and let the process take place while looking for opportunities as they present themselves. I realize I am to reach for the best feeling thoughts and stay open and allow. I have been doing my best to not judge and let go of control and I am much more aware now.

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    • Wendy Question #33


      I had a really good week last week. Several negative emotions came up and I was able to stop, identify the limiting belief, and move forward allowing myself to feel good about the situation that brought up the emotions. I got to spend some wonderful time with my son and overall, physically, I am getting better and better.

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    • Wendy Question #34


      So I may have spoken too soon. I have a hard time when my husband gets mad at me about something stupid ~ his persona jumps at me ~ his persona likes to be RIGHT all the time!! I do my best to look at it from a higher perspective. I was not looking to argue or fight; I simply asked a question. Obviously, I hit a hot button for him.

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    • Wendy Question #35


      I am struggling this morning. I am feeling lonely and bored. I know these are low vibrational states of being and I am working to turn myself around. I have such an overwhelming feeling of lack of direction. I was feeling so good for a while and then I just fell down this hole. How do I deal with these emotions swiftly and move on? The only think I can think of is to just do stuff until I wears off. Is this the best approach?

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    • Wendy Question #36


      Why is it that even though I know what to do to raise my vibration/feel good, I still don't do it? Is it all fear of the unknown? Is it fear of change?

      I continue to participate in habits and actions that I know are not for my highest good, yet I do them anyway. It's like I am up above myself looking down at myself engaging in the things I do not want to do! For instance, I wake up and tell myself I am not going to eat any sugar today. Then I go to the store and Boom!! I buy sugary foods!!!

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    • Wendy Question #37


      Today I had an "offline" conversation with Kyla and I really enjoyed it! We talked about what I want to do when I grow up ~ LOL!

      Kyla asked what are the characteristics of what I am looking for. I said I like to feel a part of something bigger, I like to work around and be with fun people and I want to earn great pay for what I do. Somehow the subject came up how I think real estate agents are super competitive and I don't like that. Kyla asked if I am competitive and I am!!

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    • Wendy Question #38


      I am experiencing a manifestation event today. I woke up with extremely sore legs. This was a common occurrence/ symptom of the illness I had manifested. I've been doing so much better and when I have something like this it perplexes me.

      I understand the momentum I've built up on this for the past several years - if not more. I refer to the analogy you gave me of imagining my "boat" getting smaller and smaller so I am able to maneuver more easily. This analogy is soothing for me.

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    • Wendy Question #39


      Thank you for your last two answers ~ I really took a deeper look at myself. I now understand I have been holding myself against the current that life has caused me to become.

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    • Wendy Question #40


      Well ~ you were right (of course!!) I AM going to have grandchildren SOON ~ Next July!!! I could not be more thrilled ~ AND ~ I am already approaching it in my most nonresistant way, which is TOTALLY new to me. I am not EVEN beginning to try to control the situation!!! I am so excited to have a new non-physical entity come into my life!! I cannot wait to meet him/her!! Thank you!!

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    • Wendy Question #41


      I have hummingbird feeders in my backyard. I throughly enjoy watching these little birds. On occasion- like now - one hummingbird will take it upon himself (it has always been a male - so far) to "guard" one of the feeders just for himself - attacking any other bird who tries to drink. Occasionally he will let a female drink, but absolutely no other males!! It sounds like a battle field when they all buzz around trying to get past the guard!

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    • Wendy Question #42


      So we had a wonderful call this morning. It has been raining so I watched a movie and now that it has stopped raining I decided to take the dogs to the dog park.

      Even though it will probably be super muddy - ok - I can deal with it and the dogs have been really rambunctious so it will be good for us all to get out. I go out to start the car I use for the dog park, which is an old car of ours, and it won't start - dead battery.

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    • Wendy Question #43


      The past few days I have felt like there is someone/something with me. I've been feeling a presence especially when I am at home. Of course my dog is here, but it feels like more. Any thoughts on this?

      Also, as of late I have been glimpsing - ever so slightly - a view of my higher self. It's just fleetingly for a quick moment and I can't seem to capture it, but I definitely feel it!! I would like to stay with it for a moment - but it seems as soon as I notice it - it's gone - kind of like the presence I mentioned above. Thoughts on this?

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    • Wendy Question #44


      The past few days I have had some old feelings of anxiety creep up. I think it's centered around me not really having anything to do - I know ~ doing vs being. I'm having a hard time with just being. In theory, I really like the idea of just "being." I have always fantasized about it and now that I have this opportunity, I feel awkward like I don't know what to do. I have always been one who does and so being feels foreign.

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    • Wendy Question #45


      I am having a rough day. I went horseback riding this morning and once I got there I really enjoyed it. I had to talk myself into going and my one year old car even died yesterday to give me an excuse not to go, but I went anyway and I enjoyed it. I plan to make it a regular activity, so that is good.

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    • Wendy Question #46


      I still look around at all the stuff I "should be doing" – from stuff around the house to working and I'm not inspired to do any of it. I'm getting better at being lazy. I have much momentum built up opposing this. I realize I have a resistance to allowing what I really want.

      I am slowly letting go of limiting beliefs as they come up - I identify them – identify the fear – prove it false – and have faith in the process. I never really understood faith in the spiritual sense until now.

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    • Wendy Question #47


      Recently I have been bombarded with a lot of challenges, primarily around family issues. I'm working on letting everything be and allowing everyone to be who they are and everything to be what it is.

      It's interesting how the old habits pop right back in and I've even found myself feeling very anxious about the upcoming weeks. With Thanksgiving coming up and Christmas just around the corner, there will be a lot of opportunities for me to grow.

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    • Wendy Question #48


      I always have enough money, but how do I get more than enough money? I love to give gifts and I don't have more than enough money to buy the things I'd like to buy for those around me. Giving gifts makes me feel good. I guess I could explore that more to see if I could go deeper on those feelings.

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    • Wendy Question #49


      Listening back to our last Joshua Live, you said a couple of things that I would like you to elaborate on:

      First you mentioned ~ regarding migraines ~ to make the migraines go away one would have to experience the things they don't want to like facing their fears and letting go of the resistance. The migraines allow them to escape ~ have an excuse.

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    • Wendy Question #50


      In our last call, you told Kate to make what she is doing now fun first. Does that mean I should go back into real estate and try to make it fun? Do I have to do this before I can move on to something else? Thinking about finding my passion and the things I have done in the past, it almost seems like to go back to one of these things would be going backwards. I'm thinking maybe I could tweak it a bit or try a different approach? I don't feel inspired to go back to real estate, but am I just giving into fears?

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    • Wendy Question #51


      So my daughter in-law's mother is coming to visit next week. This always brings "stuff" up for me, which means a big growth opportunity I would like to work through. It has nothing to do with her mother ~ we have been friends since our high school/college years ~ we vacationed together as families when the kids were young ~ so that's not the issue. Why then do I have these feelings? Well, when I boil it down, I think it comes down to once again control and what people think of me (primarily my kids and their partners).

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    • Wendy Question #52


      Thank you for our last call ~ best one yet! After listening to the call again, I realized my passion is loving! I love to love those around me and take care of them. At this point in my life, this is not a full time gig!

      I'd like to explore with you the ways to build on this and incorporate it into everything I do. I now get that I truly am a being of pure positive love and acceptance and I am striving to make this my norm, more and more.

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    • Wendy Question #53


      Listening to your Abundance Meditation and based on what you have said in the past regarding abundance ~ and I'm talking financial abundance ~ you refer to the money issue with "need." Money will flow in the amount you need, etc.

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    • Wendy Question #54


      Well, I must say I have been handling these holidays much better than last year!!

      One thing has popped up. My husband has been ill with the flu the past few days. I find myself getting angry and frustrated with him. I have been sleeping upstairs to give him space and not "catch" his illness. I have done my best to make him comfortable (he is not an easy patient). I have tried to figure out what fears are presenting themselves here, but I can't quite figure it out. I have always not liked when he gets sick, so this is not new.

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    • Wendy Question #53


      This year I would like to eliminate the "stuff" we have accumulated over the past 16 years. We moved to this house 16 years ago and I did a purge prior to that, but in the last 16 years we have accumulated so much crap. I'm over the cluttered atmosphere.

      So much of the stuff has meaning and/or I may use it someday, hence, I have a hard time letting go of this "stuff." I've asked the boys what they want and they don't want much of it, so I need to clear it out. It's overwhelming!

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    • Wendy Question #56


      Well I ended up getting the illness that my family had last week. I worked my best to not have resistance and to just allow, however, somehow I still got it. I am feeling better, but now it seems as though I've fallen down that hole a little bit. The dark hole, the shit hole.

      How do I avoid this? I want to be able to quickly regain my growth when I have manifestation events like this. I have been reaching for better feeling thoughts, yet I feel like I've lost so much ground.

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    • Wendy Question #57


      I have been feeling very unsettled. It started last weekend. It subsided a bit, but it's resurfacing.

      I am doing my best to just "be" with it ~ lean into it. Is there something here I am missing?

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    • Wendy Question #58


      Regarding your answer to my last question:

      Feeling unsettled = fear.

      I have started to get back into real estate. It just felt like the thing to do when I received a call from a client telling me they are ready to purchase ~ big paycheck attached. I don't want it to be about the money. I want it to be about the experience. I want it to be a way to show love by helping people with their dream. I'm not sure I am capable of this because I don't know what this looks like ~ the not caring about money part. I want to enjoy the process without being attached to the outcome or worrying about how people judge me as a good agent or a bad one.

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    • Wendy Question #59


      My son asked me a question and I did my best to answer in the most Joshua way I could - now I would like to get your take on it.

      He has developed a habit of intense worry. Something will happen and he will have some thought and then he starts to worry about the subject and spirals himself down into a hole of worry. He has no reason to worry about these things. He feels his life is really good right now and he doesn't want anything to happen to mess any of it up. He is my son, so I see how he is worried about conditions and is trying to control the conditions.

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    • Wendy Question #60


      With all the stuff going on with the group and Steve and Martina (what a wonderful opportunity for us all to grow), I'm wondering, is it possible to regress? I feel as though I have learned so much and I'm wondering if some large manifestation event was to happen for me, could I regress? Hopefully, I know too much and that is not possible. Any thoughts you have on this will be appreciated.

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    • Wendy Question #61


      I find myself alone more and more. My sons are not close, my husband is gone basically from 6:15 a.m. to 7:45 p.m. each day, and now he is traveling more. I don't think I like this time alone. I know in the past (many years ago) I had asked for time alone (as I felt overwhelmed by everyone). Now I am alone the majority of the time.

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    • Wendy Question #62


      So my neighborhood is all up in arms because one of our neighbors has decided to turn their home into an assisted living care facility for the elderly. I think I mentioned this on the last Joshua Live call. They are totally within their "rights" by state law to do this and they have followed all the proper steps and procedures. Once word got out, the husband called a handful of us to explain what they are doing, why they are doing it, addressed any concerns and answered any questions. He expressed remorse for not handling it better ~ wishing they would have shared their plans earlier on.

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    • Wendy Question #63


      If I am supposed to do real estate, how am I supposed to find clients. Will they just come to me, or do I have to market for them? I do not enjoy making phone calls or door knocking or anything like that. I prefer relationship building, but I still need to find the people or they need to find me. I guess I have some fears about bugging people and them not wanting my services and me imposing them upon them. Also fears around them thinking I'm just pushing them to make a deal so I can make money.

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    • Wendy Question #64


      I was just re-listening to Episode 18 of the Joshua Live Podcast. This is one of my favorites. Steve mentions that everything is wonderful in his life and off-handedly says something like the calm before the storm. Well, he was right! This is one of my biggest fears. If I just let go and go with the flow, love everything and everyone, and adopt a Pollyanna type of outlook, it will just be the calm before my storm, and I don't want the storm!

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    • Wendy Question #65


      Ok - so in response to the last answer, I don't have fear around a situation like Steve and Martina's. My biggest fears lie with my son. If anything were to happen to them, I'm not sure I could handle that. By me being in the moment - going with the flow - calling all good - does this keep me a vibrational match to good things involving them? Or do I have absolutely no control over that and whatever happens in their lives is for them and I just have to deal with it? This is my BIGGEST fear.

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