Dear Joshua,
Regarding your answer to my last question:
Feeling unsettled = fear.
I have started to get back into real estate. It just felt like the thing to do when I received a call from a client telling me they are ready to purchase ~ big paycheck attached. I don't want it to be about the money. I want it to be about the experience. I want it to be a way to show love by helping people with their dream. I'm not sure I am capable of this because I don't know what this looks like ~ the not caring about money part. I want to enjoy the process without being attached to the outcome or worrying about how people judge me as a good agent or a bad one.
Fears:
Real estate will consume me.
I won't have time to be the person I want to be ~ the person I am growing to be.
I will be at the beckon call of my clients and they will dictate my time.
I will have to work when I don't feel like it or when I'm not inspired to.
I want to find my passion
How do I look at real estate from a position of empowerment?
I switched agency and now I have a bunch of stuff to do and learn that I don't like to do
I immediately go to a feeling of being overwhelmed when I think of real estate
I know these are all irrational thoughts and I can go through each one and prove it false. I guess my real question is ~ is it really just a habit? Is it just something I've done for so long?
I know now I have so many devices I can use. I can intend the transactions to go the way I prefer. I can soothe myself. OK ~ I think I'm getting it ~ right?
With Love and Gratitude
~ Wendy
Dear Wendy,
Let's imagine that you can get everything you want simply by pursuing your interest in real estate. Again, you are imagining the ending before you've even taken the first few steps. Let's go back to the first step and then talk about the next few logical steps without rushing off into the unknowable future.
Step number one involved your realization that you are a loving being and you want to express your love by helping people. Step two: a young couple you already know reaches out and asks you to help them find a home. These two steps occurred one right after the other. What is step three? You simply play your part in the process. You are there to show your love. Are you there to help them buy a house? Maybe yes and maybe no. At this point, you cannot know what your role is. Are you attached to a certain outcome? Do you want the big paycheck? Do you want to find them the perfect house? Do you want them to get a great deal? Do you want to help them in some other way? While all of these desires are perfectly acceptable, why not just go with the flow, do what you're inspired to do, and see how it all turns out?
Slow down and think about what you have accomplished so far in this One on One conversation with us. You have realized that you are worthy and unique. You have come to place how you feel above everything else. You have learned that you cause your own stress. Your feelings of unworthiness cause you to worry about what other people think. Your fears prevent you from stepping out of your comfort zone to try new things. Once you've pushed through your fears you are moved to discover what it is you are all about. You discovered that you feel best when expressing your love and caring for others. Here's your opportunity to do just that.
What else is required? You simply be with the people who have entered your life and express your love in any way that you are inspired to. You are there to serve them. You may serve them by helping them navigate the home buying process with love. You are there to assist them with anything else they may need with love. You are only there to because they attracted you at this time in their lives. You can't know what the reason is, you can only know that you are there in service, whatever that may be.
The next logical step is to show them some homes. That's all you have to do. There is nothing else to think about. You may imagine them living happily in a home if you want to. You may imagine the commission check if you want to. You may imagine whatever makes you feel good. But don't become attached to any of that. It will all unfold in the way it is meant to unfold for all involved. You are part of the process and you can receive that which you need if only you will not believe you know what it is you need. Anything can happen. Why not just play your part and see what happens without going off into some unknown future which causes you to feel stress?
With our love,
We are Joshua
