Wendy Question #36

 

Dear Joshua,

Why is it that even though I know what to do to raise my vibration/feel good, I still don't do it? Is it all fear of the unknown? Is it fear of change?

I continue to participate in habits and actions that I know are not for my highest good, yet I do them anyway. It's like I am up above myself looking down at myself engaging in the things I do not want to do! For instance, I wake up and tell myself I am not going to eat any sugar today. Then I go to the store and Boom!! I buy sugary foods!!!

I know all the tricks, don't go to the store when I'm hungry, only buy what is on my list, etc. But the urges are so strong!!! Will you help me get a handle on this?

With Love and Gratitude
~ Wendy


Dear Wendy,

The only thing you have to do is intend to feel good. When you wake up in the morning, intend to feel good today. Before you go shopping for food, intend to buy foods that will make you feel good. Before you make a phone call, intend to feel good during the call. If your primary concern is how you feel, you'll be inspired to do things that cause you to feel good.

You can't make a plan not to do something. Not is something that doesn't fit in an attractive universe. You can't avoid anything by placing your focus on it. All you can do is move toward what you want (to feel good), not away from anything unwanted. There are no tricks. Simply focus on what is wanted. Feeling good is really the only thing you want. If you felt good, what more do you need than that?

The intention to feel good will cause everything to line up with feeling good. You will have inspirations to keep feeling good rather than urges that distract you from feeling bad. The only reason you get the urge to buy sugary foods is because it will distract you from how you feel. The only reason you would watch the news is to distract you from feeling bad. The only reason you would gossip is to to distract you from how you feel by talking about someone else's problems. The only reason you would talk about your own problems is to get sympathy, which would distract you from how you feel, but would not move you towards what it is you truly want.

We would say that the only thing you need to focus on at this time is your desire to feel good. You do not need to be more specific that that. Simply practice feeling good in every moment. You want to bring your normal state of being above the line. Focus on things that make you feel good and remove your attention away from anything that causes stress or grief. Momentum will set in and you will start feeling better and better. From this higher emotional state of being, you will begin to receive inspiration. You will receive thoughts and ideas. Of course, a little fear will always pop up, but you will move through that fear and do the action that has been inspired.

It is important to move to this higher level. Start feeling good by concentrating on your sleep. Take whatever steps are necessary to sleep well. Intend to sleep well. Sleep as long as necessary so that you wake up feeling good. Meditate as soon as you can in the morning. Do not rush this time if possible. Feel good when you wake, meditate, and come out feeling good. From this stance in the morning, think about what you could do to keep yourself feeling good until lunch. Maybe you go for a walk, a bike ride, or an exercise class. Maybe you drive to the beach or go see some horses.

At lunch, notice what you are inspired to eat. Eat what feels good, not only while you are eating it, but in hours afterward as well. After lunch, think about what you will read, who you will talk to, what you might do to improve your surroundings, or even if you feel good enough, what you might do to clear the clutter that exists in your life.

Later in the day, when you spend time with your husband, make things easy. Do not try to control the situation. Make things fun. Go out to eat, or cook what he wants. Do what he wants to do. Watch what he wants to watch. Take a walk with him or play a game. Do not hide from conversation, but engage in it. Do not allow yourself to become attached to anything specific. Do not allow yourself to feel fear in anything he might say. Be easy and go with the flow. Do this tomorrow and see how you feel at the end of the day. Do this for a week and see how you feel at the end of the week. Maintain your focus on how you feel and if you feel any negative emotion, analyze it and find the false fear. Prove it's false and return to feeling good.

This is all you need to concentrate on for now. Improve your mood. Increase your happiness. Enjoy things. Have fun. Elevate your state of being and from that higher state, you will begin to move in the direction of what is wanted. You do not know what you want now because you aren't feeling good enough to receive inspiration. You think you want certain things, but this is an illusion caused by your lower emotional state of being. As you raise your state, you will receive ideas and these ideas will be new and exciting. Until that time comes, all you must do is work on feeling good.

With our love,
We are Joshua

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