One On One

  • Kate Question #101


    I know I should know this by now but as you say, the habit of reacting/thinking a certain way is just that – a habit… so to shake it means implementing a new habit – which means, thinking a thought over and over and over until it's a habit and then a belief (and then a knowing).

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  • Kate Question #102


    I diligently wrote out the appreciation lists, and typed them out last night (I like homework J).

    I noted a couple of things ….

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  • Kate Question #103


    Dear Steve told me there are 3 of us doing this work with you and Gary (one on one) out of x amount of people on the planet, and I feel of course more than blessed, more than appreciative, and I'm wondering - how did I get here? When I look at my questions (and your books) and where I stand energetically (I'm just judging based on what I know of my thoughts and emotions), it's not as if I can see anything outstanding other than a strong desire – but others must have that too, no? But the honor is mine of course.

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  • Kate Question #105


    Thank you for your answer to my last report where you followed up on asking to see the gratitude list. I would really appreciate your insight and guidance on the pockets of resistance I can have... I am attaching it here.

    I am in Vancouver now (and moving around a bit for vacation with my mum, and my sister is coming out to join us). I spent a crazy week coming up to the vacation with more things to get sorted before leaving than I ever have, and I'm wondering why life seems to get busier as we get older (more things to take care of, like administrative stuff)?

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  • Kate Question #106


    These people here in Vancouver are very much into living life... Chatting to strangers, moving after 30 years in one house, investing and playing poker and charities. Their kids, who are adorable adults, are similar. Lots going on and achieving. I guess I'm looking at my own "achievements" and energy and thinking "these people are doers." It is inspiring and a bit scary at the same time because I think I could be doing more, but I really can't in terms of hours in a day, so it's just a very different lifestyle. I appreciate seeing how energy, activities, etc. can be very different from one culture to another. But I rather envy them their get up and do energy. In fact it's more than that. They take risks - they lean forward into life, and I'm attracted to that because I feel I could potentially get pulled along like the wagons behind a locomotive. But what for if not for the fun? We come back to the reminder for me that I am worthy no matter what I do or don't "do".

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  • Kate Question #107


    Thank you for your answer to my last report where you followed up on asking to see the gratitude list. I would really appreciate your insight and guidance on the pockets of resistance I can have... I am attaching it here.

    I am in Vancouver now (and moving around a bit for vacation with my mum, and my sister is coming out to join us). I spent a crazy week coming up to the vacation with more things to get sorted before leaving than I ever have, and I'm wondering why life seems to get busier as we get older (more things to take care of, like administrative stuff)?

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  • Kate Question #108


    You talk about inspired action, but I'm wondering if, set in my "ways " (out of control and fear?), I'll be able to receive and acknowledge inspired action, or is it something that is unconscious, or de we have to be aware of the inspired action? Why do I not seem to have that many? Do I get the inspiration and shut it down, or is it just not very frequent because of where my vibration is?

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  • Kate Question #109


    I'm finding my meditation less satisfying, less focused than a few years ago. I'm wondering why that is? Of course I'll keep going. I know the positive effects of meditation can be subtle and it is called "practice". Maybe it's just a question of me learning more patience... With myself but Olson more generally. And what are the causes of impatience, generally?

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  • Kate Question #110


    Can you help get a bit more clarity on this overwhelment response, please? When you say "stop doing, start being", do you mean focus less on what "needs" to be done and more on just feeling good?

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  • Kate Question #111


    Fabulous answers. Thank you. I will start meditating in the morning before work to help me get centered for the day.

    I've been reading a book, while on vacation, by someone who touches on topics you talk about : events are neutral in nature, our thoughts and beliefs around them make them "good or bad." He focuses solely on how to reduce the negative emotion around a situation (fear), and his method is to basically question our belief/thought and bring it to a place where we are aware that our thought might well not be the "truth" thereby reducing or eliminating the negative emotion around it.

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  • Kate Question #112


    When two people in a couple both want somewhat different things, is the best solution to appreciate what is right now, take life a day at a time and see what unfolds (following inspiration - going with the flow), while the universe works on both our desires for the perfect solution? I would imagine this is the case.

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  • Kate Question #113


    My main other focus right now is to work on reducing my fear at work. I mentioned it in a conversation with my sister who pointed out that this has been a theme for the last 20 years (or more). It would most certainly be a big success to reduce that to the level of "no big deal." You said things would start to move when I reduce that, so now I'm doubly motivated (not quite the same as actually implementing, but on the right track).

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  • Kate Question #114


    I think I nearly get it. I can sort of feel myself on the cusp. And I love the thought of having faith that it's all working out. The faith part is a BIG deal, because it takes nearly all the pressure off me (us) to say to myself "cancel, cancel" on a thought. I more easily say " it's as it should be, it's working out" and believe it more.

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  • Kate Question #115


    We have had a most amazing vacation so far... Blissful.. Laughter, perfect weather, whales (yes whales. That was so exciting.) Smells similar to those of Corsican maquis, beautiful nature. And I created all that? I know. But I still feel very grateful. I wanted to say that for you, Gary, me, others. I'm very grateful.

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  • Kate Question #116


    While the holiday was great, there was the occasional tension I felt toward my mother – who I adore and nonetheless got frustrated with (negative feeling). Its ok – she won't be reading this… lol. I think the fear behind my frustration (which I was a bit to quick to show and react on) was that she is getting older, and more dependent. She hears less well, doesn't really see without glasses, and is more needy for little things (like asking a stranger a question etc), while she used to be (and to a certain extent still is), a strong independent woman (who still jogs by the way).

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  • Kate Question #117


    I was voted number 10 out of approximately 100 sales people, by the fund managers on a yearly vote. My young whippersnapper colleague was voted number 9... and the other sales people in my company arrived behind. Of course I'm delighted (and that whippersnapper and me are so close, it would have been embarrassing to not be) and it does give me a bit more confidence in my skills so that is good.

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  • Kate Question #117


    I was a bit jet lagged Friday apparently - or something .... I have bought a cushion for my back at work (it was explained to me that posture is everything - it helps tension, carpel tunnel, etc.) So I've had this cushion for two days. By the end of Friday, I was feeling nauseous and in pain and was wondering if it could be this whole posture thing, but I should know better, that it is my thoughts. Was it the effect of coming back to work (I didn't get that impression), or was it the tension of two days of work after two amazing weeks of relaxation (well, for the most part - see above).

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  • Kate Question #119


    I want to be happy here - not more so on vacation but all the time. I'm fine and I'm quite content, but I want to be happy (and wealthy). I've spent quite a bit of money these last three weeks. I would like to either stop the spending or (and I'd prefer this) see an increase in cash coming to me so that I can keep spending on things. I could write a list of the things I still want right now: an identical lamp to go with the one I just got, repair the screen of my Ipad, a rucksack, etc.

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  • Kate Question #120


    Yes, start appreciating - I thought I was, but maybe not enough. Over the last two days I have been stopping a lot more frequently to just check in on my emotional state and say to myself "nothing is more important than what I'm feeling". I've felt a bit more on top of that action. I also just got a glimmer that I'm a bit afraid of checking in on my emotional state in any more depth than that, because if its not great, that then requires some investigation which might lead to more negative emotion. So I sort of skirt and slide around the subject. But rather than skirting and skidding, what I could be doing is "facing the fear", and reducing it. It is one thing to put one's hand on the hot stove and quickly take it off and not go back to the stove if possible. It is another thing to learn to manage the stove. A lot more helpful. I think I probably need to take pen to paper a bit more frequently to go deeper into the investigation, otherwise my thoughts don't stay on it (by choice I assume).

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