Relationships with Mates
Oneness is the truth. Separation is the illusion. In the nonphysical, your mate is eternally linked to you. You know them fully. They know you completely. There are no secrets. You are completely authentic. Your nonphysical relationship is based in pure love and acceptance. You are equal. In the physical, things seem a bit different.
In physical reality, you and your mate come together on purpose to discover more about who you are and who they are. The physical realms seems real. It seems finite. It seems like there are structures in place. However, it is simply a game. It’s an exploration. You choose to explore who you truly are or who you are not. You can be fully authentic in a relationship or completely inauthentic. It’s always your choice.
It would take some courage to be fully authentic in any relationship, because this contradicts your belief system. If you were fully authentic in your relationship with your mate, your mate might not like you. You might be rejected. Your mate might leave you. This is all based on limiting beliefs. The truth is that unless you are authentic in your relationship, your mate has no opportunity to get to know you.
If you are inauthentic in your relationship with your mate, you are doing so out of fear. You are trying to be someone you are not. Why would you do this? Because you believe there is something inherently wrong with you. If your mate were to discover who you truly are, he/she would not approve. They might want you to be different. They might only love you if you behave a certain way. If your secrets were to be discovered, your mate might reject you. But unless you are authentic in this relationship, who is your mate really in love with?
Prior to your birth, you set the intention to meet your mate. This was a pre-birth agreement. You might have decided to come together to have children. You might have intended to be mated for life or for a few days. You might have intended to find one true love in this life or to find many. The intentions you set prior to your birth are powerful. Those intentions will play out over the course of your life.
Fear often interrupts the natural flow of your life. You often stay in relationships longer than you intended due to fear. You might even miss the opportunities to meet your mate(s) due to fear. Without fear, your romantic relationships would come and go just as you intended. Since your pre-birth intentions are strong, your experience in relationships has likely been exactly what you intended. If you could see that, you would be at ease.
Imagine if you discovered one of your mates in high school. The relationship would be your first true romance. You would discover things about yourself in this relationship. It would be fun at first. Then, of course, you might start to take it seriously and become attached to outcomes and ideals. You are not yet authentic and you believe that this person has the power to make you feel something. If they adhere to your idea of what you think you want in a relationship, you use this as your excuse to feel good. If however, they do or say something that triggers a limiting belief, you blame them for how you feel. And so you choose to control them and yourself in order to maintain the relationship while avoiding any possibility for negative emotion. When you eventually split, you feel intense negative emotion.
Why did you feel negative emotion when the relationship ended? Because your perspective was limited. You did not have all the information. Had you known how it would all turn out, you would not feel intense negative emotion. You lacked information. You choose a limited perspective because you believed that something wrong happened. There never was anything wrong. It all turned out perfectly. You can see that now. But at the time, you chose a limited perspective based on limiting beliefs. If you had no limiting beliefs in that area of your life, you could not feel negative emotion.
Your mate cannot create in your reality
He/she cannot make you feel anything. Your feelings are always based on your perspective. Choose the limited perspective by believing something is wrong, and your inner self sends you a message in the form of negative emotion. You always create how you feel by either choosing the limited or higher perspective. The other person has nothing to do with it.
Your default mechanism abides by your beliefs. But you can be conscious of this in the moment. You can know when you’re in or out of alignment. You can understand the fear and process the associated limiting beliefs. You can become more authentic. You can see it all from the higher perspective.
From the higher perspective, you can understand what is going on here. You are in a relationship with someone you love on a soul level. That love is infinite. You have come together to explore yourselves and each other. It is a wonderful opportunity for growth. Yet you still believe that they have influence over how you feel. Why? Because you’ve adopted limiting beliefs. Those limiting beliefs can be softened, but not removed. As you process them, they become less intense, but they will always remain in some form. You will always be triggered to a degree. However, since you know more now, you can consciously choose the higher perspective. When you do this, you will feel a bit of relief and return more easily to alignment.
If you could understand the bigger picture and see that you are truly eternally connected, you would exist in a state of love in the moment. You could drop your attachment to future outcomes or past regrets and resentments. All you truly want to do is connect with your mate at a deeper and more meaningful level. All you truly want to do is accept them as they are. In the nonphysical, there would be no purpose to asking them to change in any way. In the physical, you might perceive that you would feel better if they were different. But this is the illusion. In truth, they and you are perfect.
Your relationship with your mate (and all of your past mates) is based in love. However, since you and they are on a journey of self-discovery, they come to help you along on that journey. If you are resisting your journey, you will face manifestation events. If you are choosing a limited perspective, your mate will help you by providing you with manifestation events. You might perceive that your mate is being wrong, since you will perceive they are the source of your emotional pain. However, as you well know, they have no ability to create in your reality. They are never the source of your emotional discomfort. They are simply the catalyst to cause you to discover and then process your limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs maintain the illusion of separation
Since you truly want connection, the limiting beliefs must be revealed. Your mate will help you discover many limiting beliefs. As you process your limiting beliefs, you’ll gain clearly and connect more deeply with your mates. You will also be able to heal your past relationships.
You are holding onto your limitations unless you discover and process your limiting beliefs. Those limiting beliefs are the root cause of separation. Your mate has come to help you. If you can see that, you can see what is happening in the moment and relax your need to control any aspect of your relationship.
Past manifestation events occurred prior to your understanding of these laws and ideas. When you felt hurt by past partners, you did not understand the mechanism of limiting beliefs and your journey of self-discovery. You carried the emotional pain with you into new relationships. You wanted to control those relationships in order to protect yourself from pain. The desire to mitigate future possibilities for pain caused you to enter relationships with trepidation. Once you were in a new relationship, you were guard to a degree; never allowing yourself to fully accept the other person. The fear of emotional pain was too intense.
This week we will offer you ideas that will allow you to see the dynamics of romantic relationships that align with the laws of the universe. You will be able to see those relationships from a much higher perspective. You will more easily be able to heal past wounds, which will enable you to be more authentic (and fearless) in your current relationship. This will lead to deeper connections in love.
With our love,
We are Joshua
This Week
Complete the Plots and Daily Spiritual Practices exercises each day to help you discover and process key limiting beliefs that block your ascension. You can complete these on-screen and print or save them for your own records. Or you can print the empty forms if you prefer to handwrite these.
You don’t have to complete manifestation event forms every day during this segment, but we’ve added the form so you can complete one as you need it.