Dear Joshua,

Thank you for the answer to my first question about aligning with a love relationship. I fully accept and understand the answer! My question now is about a reoccurring dream in which I find myself behind the wheel of a vehicle moving smoothly but I soon fear it’s going too fast for me to handle a fast approaching curve. My fear starts to increase while I’m thinking I’m going way too fast to make the curve and sure enough I’m going off the road. I know it’s over for me at the same time I’m silently praying it’s a dream because I don’t want my life to be over. I usually awaken or the dream just stops- I don’t recall ever actually crashing in the dream.

Another similar reoccurring dream is that I’m behind the wheel at nearly a standstill like at a traffic light where there is always another vehicle stopped in front of me. I have my foot on the brake but for some reason my car continues to inch forward and I push down harder and harder on the brake to no avail… I’m then cringing and embarrassed and perplexed why the brakes aren’t working as I end up bumping the other car. I know my dreams are indicative of what’s currently going on in my vibration. Can you please help me gain a clear perspective on this?


Dear Melissa,

You either live a life of allowing or control. In this reality that is designed to support you and bring you everything you need when you need it, there is no need for control. Control is simply an illusion. Those humans who feel like victims of fate seek to control their outside conditions. However, the outside conditions (and your dreams) are simply a mirror to how you are approaching life.

Physical reality is simply a mirror. It allows you to see how you are operating, If you are living in fear, you will seek to control your environment and the people in your life. However, it is not possible to control the mirror, is it? If you look into a mirror and don’t like what you see, it does no good replacing the mirror with another one. You will still see the same thing you are projecting.

You feel as if your life is out of control and it is. Since control is an illusion, it is not possible for one to ever control the conditions and people enough to feel in control. The only way to really feel in control is to completely let go of all control and trust that everything is always working out for you. The purpose of physical reality is to allow the individual an path of self-discovery. Imagine that who you really are is a limitless and magnificent being of pure positive love and acceptance. Who you are being now is the limited version of that. Physical reality is the mechanism by which you move from limited to limitless. It is the design of the system. You move through your journey not by watching every step and being cautious so as not to step into some danger, but by moving forward in the faith that everything that is happening is happening for you, not to you. The creator understands this process and does not try to make things happen or play it safe. Instead, the conscious creator maintains a high emotional state of being so that she may be guided by inspiration to the next step in her journey. If something happens, it’s not a good or bad thing, it’s simply a means by which she can understand more about herself.

You, like most, are trying to control the conditions that already exist (car bumping into the car in front) as well as the conditions that are coming down the road (car careening off a cliff). There’s no need to control any of it. The premise of control in this reality is false. Give up needing to know what’s going to happen and simply embrace what is happening in the moment. Do not complain or judge the conditions and people as wrong, simply find a way to accept everything as right. When you learn this new approach to life, you will cease these dreams and what you are really here to explore will come into view.

With our love,
We are Joshua