Dear Joshua,

I hope it’s okay to ask this question, because I’m starting to feel disillusioned about the whole manifesting thing.

The things I try to manifest don’t work. And the things I don’t even try to create do happen.

I was pray rain journaling for a new boyfriend, and got a surprise tax refund instead. Then I set an intention for a good doctor’s appointment, which didn’t turn out well at all; and instead manifested a promotion at work which I wasn’t even trying to get and am not really sure I want.

What does that say about law of attraction? I’m getting things I’m not even focusing on and while they’re cool things, they aren’t what I’d like to be manifesting.

Thank you,

Dear Anonymous,

Everything that comes to you is a match to your vibration. Whatever you really want will come to you when and if you allow it. You cannot see the path to the unfolding of all that you want, but if you can get out of your own way, it will come. As you are just learning about the laws of the universe and your ability to create your life, you expect that ability to be fully realized very quickly. But, since you have been creating without deliberate focus for so long, there is much for you to learn and practice.

You are the creator of your life and your creation is you. That’s all there is to it. When we say your creation is you, the only thing you need to focus on is yourself. What you want comes to you as you emit vibration from who you are being and what you believe. To create the life you want, you must create the version of you who is ready for all that you want. You don’t create by changing the conditions outside of yourself, you create by changing the conditions inside yourself. You create by altering your habits of thought and your system of belief.

Generally, you resist that which you truly want. You are not really resisting the thing you want, in this case the new boyfriend, instead you are resisting the change that must be made to who you are being. In oder for you to experience the new boyfriend, a new you must emerge. Since the current you does not have a new boyfriend, you will have to change. This means your thoughts and beliefs about relationships, love, intimacy, freedom, etc. will have to become different than they are now.

The good news is that there is nothing for you to do. The universe knows what you want and how to cause the change that’s necessary to bring about the vibration that will attract the new boyfriend. As long as you do not resist the change, the new boyfriend will emerge into your reality. When you try to make things happen, you believe you know the way to the creation of that which you desire. Since your perspective is limited, you cannot see how it will all unfold. You cannot see the events that will take place for your beliefs to change so that you will start to emit a new vibration. And so you worry that things will not change and this stalls the manifestation.

When you did not try to make things happen, you allowed them to happen. When you ask, it is given as Abraham would say. That means there is nothing for you to do because there is nothing you can do. The universe will create situations that test your beliefs. In these times you will feel negative emotion. This means you have a belief that is out of alignment with what you want. If you can reduce the intensity of the belief, you will change your vibration in a way that moves you toward what you want.

While focusing on what you want is good, you often feel the lack of it at the same time. It is more effective to realize that you have a desire, but you are just not quite aligned with the vibration of that desire yet. If you can trust that the universe will naturally bring you into alignment, you can adopt the stance of anticipation and curiosity. Events will unfold that will challenge your belief system. When you feel negative emotion, think about the fear that is at the basis of a negative belief and then work to reduce the intensity of the belief by realizing that it is untrue.

You are doing better than you think and we believe you are well on your way to allowing everything you want to manifest in your reality.