Dear Joshua,

How do we know, if we are not delusional? When a delusional person tells you that you are deluded, the confusion grows. How do I know, if I am not the deluded one? How can I tell if what I know to be Truth, is indeed the Absolute Truth, and how do I know if I am not just deluding myself?

I wonder this, as some people around me call me “crazy”. I say, “if being awake and not in delusion means to be crazy (to a delusional person yes I would look crazy to think there is more to life than what they see), then call me crazy!” But I pondered a while, if perhaps I am deluding myself, It gets to the point when I don’t know anymore. I don’t know if I am the Truth or the Delusion or if they are?

I fully believe that I am following the truth, but am I deluded?!

Please help!

Dear Tistrya,

Yes, of course you are deluded. That is the purpose of physical reality. There would be no purpose to this experience of physical reality if you already new everything. This is an environment of exploration and discovery. How can you be an explorer if you already know the landscape and have written the maps? The thrill is in the discovery of that which is new. As an explorer, all you are doing is moving in the direction of that which is interesting, exciting, and fun.

Does anyone else on the planet know what is really going on? Does anyone have the secret? Does anyone hold the key? Does anyone really know themselves? No. You are deluded and they are deluded. You are seeking the truth and so are they. You are living partly in fear and partly in love and so is everyone else. To say that you are deluded is quite a deluded thing to say for certainly they could not know that. To say they are not deluded is a fantastic thing to believe. Do they really know the truth? If so, please ask them to share it. Do they have it figured out? Of course not. We can assure you one thing that is absolutely true. As soon as anyone finds the absolute truth to this reality they will make their transition to the nonphysical, because this reality will no longer have a purpose.

Do you feel like you are on the right track for you? Then that’s all that maters. Do you enjoy your path? Then that’s all that ever matters. Are you working on feeling good? Then that means you are constantly processing your fear and in doing that, you are using your emotional guidance system. The delusional one does not realize the guidance that naturally comes from within. The delusional one will try to change the conditions and control people. The delusional one will blame their existence on conditions outside themselves. In doing that, they must become the victim. As a creator, you are choosing to perceive everyone and everything as right as it is. Why do you do that? Because you have no control over the conditions, but only over the way you choose to interpret and perceive those conditions. If you believe something is wrong, you are saying that the conditions are not there for you, but only there to make you feel good or bad. The conditions and the people cannot make you feel anything. You have control over how you choose to perceive everything that exists in your life.

If your lover says something, you have a choice in how you want to perceive the statement. You can perceive it as a negative comment and you can ask him to never say those words ever again as long as you live. Or, you can choose to see the statement as neutral. If you perceive it in a positive way, which is your choice to do so, then it is proof that you have some highly beneficial beliefs about yourself. But if you choose to perceive it as a negative statement, and you feel negative emotion, then all that can mean is that you have just uncovered a limiting belief. It’s not the statement, and it has nothing to do with the intention of your lover, it has only to do with the existence of a beneficial or limiting belief. You can stop and look at the belief. You can say to yourself that the beneficial belief is true or the limiting belief is false. It is not outside of you, it is all contained within.

If you are the creator of your reality and you decide that you are going to choose how you perceive your reality in a way that feels good, then we think you’re on the right track. If the other person chooses an approach to life where the conditions make him feel a certain way, then he is simply stating that he is a victim to fate. It is out of his control. In order to feel good, he must control you, everyone else, and every condition that exists. If he thinks he can do that, then who do you think is the delusional one?

With our love,
We are Joshua

Dear Joshua,

If I keep vibrating a certain quality or feeling and it keeps appearing through mates that are like my father, same qualities etc.. Is it possible it is my father who keeps coming back through these mates? Can those who have croaked come back over and over again?

I understand you either attract people because you feel that way or you Definitely don’t want anyone like that in your world The later resonates with me.


Dear Trisha,

You have asked a question that will help many, many people and we want to address the entirety of your question as well as the individual parts. First, you wonder if you are attracting people like your father because your father is coming back to this reality in another incarnation. While he may come back if he wishes to do so and he may even interact with you in some regard, he has not come back in that way and would not do so. This would be too confusing for you and he is aware of that.

We will start by saying that everyone you know or have known in this physical reality you also know in the nonphysical. You interact there and here. You make plans for there and here. You love and adore each other in the nonphysical and you come together in this reality to explore various aspects of your relationship just for the fun of doing so. At times you may not think it’s fun here, but you will definitely have a laugh about it from your nonphysical perspective.

You are not attracting your father as a mate but you see certain aspects of your father in the mates you choose. Let’s see if we can bring that into clarity for you. Imagine the personality of your father and how that personality carried forth into the nonphysical after his transition. In physical form he was love, appreciation, tender, hard working, supportive of his family, caring, and many other wonderful qualities and these are the aspects of his personality that he carried with him to the nonphysical. In his physical body he also carried some traits that were in the form of human baggage. He might have been insecure, fearful or worried. He might have been defensive or overly protective. He might have been angry or disappointed. These traits did not follow him into the nonphysical.

So when you are thinking that your mate has some qualities of your father are you thinking of the loving aspects or the fearful aspects? You get to choose. There is only one person in this world you need to love. It is not a mate or a parent, it is you. You must learn to love yourself and from that standpoint of self-love and selfappreciation, you will attract one who sees in you what you see in yourself. If you love yourself, you will attract someone who sees what you see. If you are insecure about your love for yourself, you will find someone who is insecure in your love for them. Until you change how you feel about yourself, you cannot attract anyone, friends or lovers, who see you for more than you see yourself. Love yourself first. Really own it and mean it. Do not love yourself in order to get someone who will also love you, love yourself regardless of what happens.

So how does one come to love themselves. It is simply a matter of realization that who you are is perfect in this moment. We see your perfection and you must come, over time, to see it as well. You are perfect whether you think you are or not. We use the term “perfect” rather than good or worthy because we want there to be no levels in this meaning. When we say worthy or good you can compare yourself to another and believe yourself to be more or less worthy or good than another. In this case you are perfect and there is no room for improvement. All others are perfect just where they are as well. There is nothing you can do to become better for you are perfect as you are.

You can’t be better and then start to love yourself. You can’t be more beautiful, successful, confident, smarter, more spiritually evolved and then love yourself. You must love yourself unconditionally now, as you are and the side effect will be those other things.

Don’t ever compare yourself to others, only compare you to you. Look at who you are now and see the progress from who you were. See your own evolution and see how< much you’ve grown. The you that you are now is ready for you to love yourself. Until you do, no relationship can manifest in the way you want it to.

Are you starting to understand how this all works? Can you see that the mates you attracted were not like your father; they were like you. They loved you in the exact way you loved yourself. They treated you how you treated yourself. They will always think of you in the exact way you think of yourself. They will always, always be a reflection of who you are being.

Your true desire is to be who you really are. Once you do that, you will attract a mate who sees the best in you. They will love you unconditionally because you love yourself unconditionally. It will not be possible for them to love you in any other way. However, if you continue to love yourself conditionally, it will not be possible for a new mate to love you any other way. Your mates will always be a mirror to who you are being. This is the law of the universe and it cannot be any other way.

Fortunately for you, you understand the mechanism of physical reality better than almost anyone you know. You understand more about this stuff than 99% of humanity. You have the tools and the desire to create your own reality. But it’s an inside job. Meditate, appreciate, and learn to love yourself unconditionally. Don’t dream about the mate, don’t hold on to a picture of what a happy relationship looks like. Forget all that stuff. Work on how you feel about yourself and everything will come from there.

It is simple to imagine and become who you really are. You accomplish it in stages.

Stage One: Understand that who you really are is who you would be in the nonphysical. Just as the personality of your father left behind the fearful aspects of his nature when he transitioned to the nonphysical, you must look at those aspects of your personality that you will leave behind when you make your transition. Any though or behavior that stems from love will be carried forth to the nonphysical and any thought or behavior that stems from fear will be left behind.

Stage Two: Act like the highest version of yourself now. Do not fear, only love. Do not protect yourself for that is a stance of fear. You cannot be harmed by words so stop living life by any other standards than your own.

Stage Three: Go inside. Spend time meditating. Communicate with your inner self. Speak to your guides. Imagine yourself as perfect, strong and courageous.

Step Four: Look for signs of growth and development. When something happens that you don’t like, look at it and see the message, the lesson, the new understanding that comes from it and appreciate it. We’re talking about all events, large and small. If someone honks their horn at you or gives you a rude comment, don’t react in the old ways. Look for the message!

Step Five: Focus on the aspects of your life that are going well.

Step Six: Compare the now you to the old you and see how far you’ve come. Never compare yourself, or your situation to another; compare you to you.

Step Seven: Believe, believe, believe. Believe that all things are coming to you because they are meant to come in order for you to expand. Believe that everything that comes to you is right and is part of the journey and the process. Believe in the power of your mind and your abilities. You are more powerful than you know. You are doing better than you think. Come to terms with the you that is and love every aspect that is you now in this moment and in the next and the next.

You are loved more than you can imagine. You are never alone. We see your amazing perfection. It’s time for you to see what we see.