Hi. And thank you for your time! Joshua,

How do I help my husband who is in pain, and considering leaving me over past hurts though we got married and I thought we were past the pain? I’m working on myself, and I know he’s my soulmate, and he felt I was his in the past.

How do help him? He doesn’t “believe” in the creating your reality like I do. How do I help my marriage when he’s got to be a willing participant as well? How do I help heal us and our marriage? Thank you! Lots of questions!

Love, Stacey

Dear Stacey,

The only way you can help your husband or anyone else is by being in alignment yourself. All you can do is accept that what they are going through is for them. They can handle it. You cannot create in their reality, but you can and do influence them as they create their own life experience. The best thing you can do is be a shining example of love and acceptance and accept that whatever happens is for your (and their) highest good.

You feel like he is your soulmate, but the truth is you are soul mates with everyone you know. You are soul mates with your parents, his parents, your friends, his friends, your enemies, his enemies, etc. You are eternally linked with everyone you know. You cannot lose anyone. It is simply not possible.

Prior to your emergence into this reality you set many intentions. One of those intentions was to explore reality in a specific way with the one who is now your husband. You did not come together to be exclusive to each other for your entire life. You intended to come together, explore that and then see what happened as a result. If you were to have a life-long relationship, then that would be decided based on your vibrations at the time. If you were only going to be together for a little while, then you would make that decision when the time came. You are here to explore. There is much to learn and discover. You can be, have and do anything you want. You just can’t see how the future will unfold so you can’t really know what you really want. However, your inner self knows.?

So we say that the best way to deal with a situation like this is through the practice of love, acceptance, and patience. You can’t change anyone else’s mind. You can’t force them to do something they can’t do. You can only love them and accept that whatever happens is for everyone’s highest good because that is absolutely the truth. If you end up staying together, then that will be for your highest good. If you break up, then know that this too is for your highest good. We understand that it is hard to believe that something you think you want so much can be let go, but if it happens, then it happens for a very important reason.

If you feel negative emotion because something is happening in a way that you think is bad or wrong, you are resisting the natural course of events that must play out in order to bring you what you truly want. It may hurt, but the hurt is self-imposed. Did you ever experience something that seemed bad at the time but turned out to be good? In that case, you felt negative emotion and you wished for things to be different. However, had you known that everything would work out for your highest good, you would never have felt bad in the moment. Try to imagine the same thing happening now. Try to see everything from the higher perspective. Try to understand that it is working out just as you truly want it to, it just seems like it’s not.

You are a limitless being of pure positive love and acceptance. Believe that it is all good and that it is all right and that you can accept whatever happens as good and right and that everything will work out for you in the end.

With our love,
We are Joshua