You live in a physical environment with great variations in climate. You live in an economic environment which has enormous variations from rich to poor. You live in an emotional environment which fluctuates between joy and sorrow. As you navigate your environments, you seek comfort. Your life may even be dedicated to becoming more and more comfortable. But this is a trap. The comfort you seek may rob you of your purpose for being here.
Your world is more comfortable than your society has ever experienced in its history. You live in lavish homes filled with luxurious furniture and fabrics. Your technology has made life easier. You travel in comfort and safety. You have so many options for ease. Your entertainment allows for the numbing of your minds. You can easily avoid all sorts of discomfort as you navigate your daily lives.
If you do not believe that you live a very comfortable life, just imagine the lifestyle of the average person in your town just a hundred years earlier. It was quite different indeed. Imagine their living conditions compared to yours. Imagine their homes, furnishings, and appliances. Did they have a refrigerator? Did they enjoy air conditioning or central heating? Imagine how they traveled. Did they own a car? Could they fly around the world as you can today?
Your society is driven to create higher and higher levels of comfort and this is a good thing. However, as you seek external comfort, you begin to desire comfort inside as well. The physical experience was not designed for you to seek comfort; it was designed for you to experience life. Sometimes these experiences are uncomfortable, but often there is a great reward for enduring a little discomfort.
Physical experience is a feeling experience. The only thing you are ever really doing is feeling. How you feel on the inside is the only thing that has any relevance. You do things because they are fun, and fun feels good. You like to fall in love because love feels good. You like new clothes because they make you feel good. You like to win because winning feels good. Anything you want is wanted because you think it will feel good.
You will make choices based on how you think you will feel as a result of the choice. Sometimes you do things that you believe are wrong because they feel better than doing the right thing. If you have ever shoplifted anything from a store as a child, you did it because it was exciting and excitement feels good. The good feeling of excitement was worth the risk of getting caught, which would result in a bad feeling. So, sometimes you are willing to gamble that the result of your actions will feel good even though there is the risk of feeling bad.
As an adult you will be less likely to shoplift for the feeling. The gamble is just not worth the risk. The level of excitement is less than the pain of embarrassment you would feel if caught. The disgrace would be an awful feeling.
You have learned to calculate the odds of feeling good in everything you do. You may not realize it, but every decision you make is made in the hopes of feeling better. If you are conscious of this fact, if you can understand that the feeling of anything is its reward, then you can deliberately make decisions based on what you want rather than what you think you will feel.
Since comfort feels good, you tend towards any decision that makes you feel more comfortable. You choose furniture, cars, modes of travel, lodging, and many other things based on how comfortable you think they will make you. This is easy to observe with anything physical such as furniture or homes. But you do the same thing with experiences. You choose experiences based on how comfortable they are.
It’s one thing to choose your furniture based on comfort, but it’s another thing to base your experiences on comfort. There are certain things you are here to do. Sometimes, you must go outside your comfort zone to experience what is necessary for your expansion. If you hide out in your comfortable dwelling safe from uncomfortable experiences, you’ll miss the most important aspect of physical existence. You expand as a result of your experiences, and you’re here to expand.
You are familiar with the term “comfort zone.” You understand what it means to operate within that zone. But do you really understand what you’re feeling when you step outside that comfort zone? All you’re doing is facing emotions that you deem unpleasant. It is the fear of these emotions that keeps you trapped inside your comfort zone. But what is there really to fear?
Physical life creates desire. You go through life developing preferences. Your experiences lead you to know what is wanted. As soon as you birth a desire, that desire is given to you. This means you are on a path to that desire and as long as you go with the flow of life, you will be delivered to that which you desire. But for you to have anything, you must become a vibrational match to it. You have to be ready for it. If you do not have whatever you desire in your life right now, it’s only because you are not ready for it physically or vibrationally.
If you were a vibrational match to your desire, you would have that which you desired. Since you’re not a match to it, it is still a dream. The way to become a match to your desire and to have it manifest in your life is for you to change from who you are now to the version of you that matches it. The thing you want does not change to match you; you change to become a match to it. It’s a very simple system.
If you want something, anything, you must change to match it. Therefore, your feelings, beliefs, expectations, and thoughts will have to change. If the thing you want is big, you will have to radically change. If it’s small, then you will only have to change a little. Your perception of a big thing compared to a small thing is the indicator of how much change is needed. The trick is that there is nothing for you to do to make the change. The universe will change you.
You just have to be willing and allow the change to happen. In order to do this, you will have to go outside your comfort zone. You will have to risk feeling bad in order to one day feel very good. You will have to endure a little discomfort in order to experience that which you truly want. The result of this will be your expansion.
To get anything you want, you’ll have to change. In order to get something big, you must change into a higher version of you. You cannot change while living inside your comfort zone and you won’t do anything consistently if it’s uncomfortable. That’s why most people don’t change and why those people don’t get what they want. In order to change, you must expand your comfort zone first.
The first step in expanding your comfort zone is analyzing what you believe to be uncomfortable. Let’s talk about public speaking. This is a very common fear. Many people believe that public speaking is extremely uncomfortable. Why is this?
When you imagine someone on stage talking to a group, do you see any physical discomfort? Are they hotter or colder than the audience? Is it windier up there? No, the discomfort can only come from the inside. The only discomfort can be in the potential for embarrassment. But is embarrassment really something that can harm you? Or is the pain something you make up?
We understand the fear of public speaking, but we also see it as an irrational fear. It is irrational because you cannot die of embarrassment. Fear is meant to protect you from life-threatening situations. Fear of falling or being eaten is a rational fear. Fear of failure or embarrassment is not. So why are you entertaining these irrational fears? Why are you letting them hold you back?
Let’s say that you were given the assignment to sing in front of a large group of your peers. Some of them you knew and some you did not. There are no instruments provided, no band to back you up, no other singers, just you and your voice. Everyone in the audience has paid to come and hear you sing. They all dressed up and were told of your amazing talents. They fill the theater and chatter in anticipation of your performance. You enter the stage to a standing ovation. The crowd quiets to hear every note and you open your mouth to sing.
What do you think would be the actual ramifications of this? Would they laugh? Would they heckle and boo? What would you feel? Why do you think you would feel this way? Why do you care what they think? Have you ever thought about this? Have you ever really analyzed why something like this would be so painful? Do you realize that the only real pain, the only way you could ever feel bad, is by making yourself feel bad? It’s only ever you who punishes yourself on the inside.
Now let’s say that you were offered $1,000 for your performance. Would you do it? What if it was $10,000 or $100,000 or $1,000,000? Would you do it then? Choose a number and that’s yourcomfort zone. Reduce that number and you’ve just expanded your comfort zone. When you can come to perform a song in front of this group for just a dollar, you’ve expanded your comfort zone enough to manifest anything you desire.
The key to expanding your comfort zone is perspective. When you look at a fear and use a new perspective to understand that the fear is irrational, you can reduce the intensity of the fear and expand your comfort zone. It is all in your mind. Perspective helps you see what you’re doing to yourself. Change your perspective and you’ll see discomfort as much less intimidating.
With all our love,
Joshua is a group of nonphysical teachers channeled by Gary Temple Bodley. Their practical teachings provide a greater understanding of the mechanism of physical reality, the Law of Attraction, and how to leverage universal forces to enhance our lives. Joshua’s first book “A Perception of Reality” explains the nature of reality using plain english in an easy-to-understand format. This book is the next step for those awakened individuals seeking higher levels of consciousness and awareness.