Wendy Question #62

 

Dear Joshua,

So my neighborhood is all up in arms because one of our neighbors has decided to turn their home into an assisted living care facility for the elderly. I think I mentioned this on the last Joshua Live call. They are totally within their "rights" by state law to do this and they have followed all the proper steps and procedures. Once word got out, the husband called a handful of us to explain what they are doing, why they are doing it, addressed any concerns and answered any questions. He expressed remorse for not handling it better ~ wishing they would have shared their plans earlier on.

There is so much fear flying around I am finding it difficult to not get wrapped up! I understand where the neighborhood feels their anger is justified. This was a surprise no one knew about it and everyone's feelings/egos are hurt. But, I just can't seem to get behind it. They are ostracizing the "offending" neighbors and asking all to do the same ~ basically trying to shame them into changing their plans. There is a group text where everyone can share the information they find, as well as share the ways they think we can "shame" them into submission. The "offending" neighbors are feeling the wrath of the neighborhood. My initial reaction is to pour love out to all of them in hopes to help alleviate their fears. I drove by some other homes like this in the adjacent city and took some pictures to share with my neighbors showing that it is no big deal. No one acknowledged my photos and just kept ranting about how we need to shut these people down in order to get them to stop the process going forward.

On the other hand, I find myself inspired to reach out to the "offending" neighbors and express my love to them and the confidence I have that all will be good. I have fear around this; if I reach out in a supporting way to these neighbors, all of the other neighbors will reject me. I don't like conflict, so I don't like to be involved in it. The post- Joshua Wendy especially does not like conflict, nor do I see a need for it. I'm feeling resistance building up and I don't like the way it feels.

I'm not sure how to move forward. Do I just ignore it all? Go about my day as if nothing is going on? Do I reach out to the "offending" neighbors and express my love and acceptance? I love my neighborhood. In the past I have not appreciated some of my neighbors and the post-Joshua Wendy has moved passed all of that and I've accepted them all for who they are. I know this is a manifestation event happening for me ~ right? I just can't put my finger on how to learn from it. I am having a hard time analyzing the fears that are coming up:

1. Fear my other neighbors will no longer like me and come at me like they are coming at the "offending" neighbors.
2. Fear my "offending" neighbors are feeling scared and alone.
3. Fear of loss of property value, although this fear is getting weaker all the time. I know I can never lose anything.

Looking forward to your perspective on this! With Love and Gratitude,

With Love and Gratitude,
~ Wendy


Dear Wendy,

If you feel negative emotion, you've had a manifestation event. There is fear here, but the fear is irrational. You've chosen a slightly limiting perspective, one that is not shared by your inner self and so you've experienced some negative emotion. Let's take a look at the facts.

Your neighbors have chosen to create a sanctuary for some elderly people in your community. Is there fear around this? For you, not so much. For your neighbors, yes. What is the fear? The potential for some reduction of property values. Is this fear rational or irrational? It is completely irrational. They will not die as a result of a one or two percent reduction in property values. Are they expressing love or fear? They are expressing fear. Why? Because their perspective is not aligned with who they are or what they want. They, like you, are beings of pure positive love and acceptance, but they are not acting like this in this situation and so they feel negative emotion because their perspective is off. That's all that is happening here.

In reality, why would anyone fear the presence of elderly people in the neighborhood. Do these people party all night long doing drugs, riding motorcycles, and playing rock music at extremely high volume? No, they are part of the fabric of your community and deserve to be taken in with love and acceptance. In a natural world, free from the fears of your fearful society, you would love, care for, and honor these people. From our perspective, fearing them (or anything that may come from their presence) is irrational and unnatural.

You can see this and therefore your fears with them residing in your neighborhood are minor. However, you still fear what the neighbors will think of you if you embrace the "bad" neighbors. You must pick a side in this debate and we will help you. If you can learn to follow the procedure we are about to describe, it will help you with all such decisions. There are two sides to this issue: fear and love. Which side will you choose? You must always, always choose the love side. The fear side will always bring up more fear. The love side will always be for your highest good. In this case, the fear side is completely irrational. If you express love, you believe your neighbors will express fear toward you. However, that is not of any concern to you. You are a being of love. You can only be love. If others cannot love you as the authentic version of you, it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with their own fears based on their unique perception of reality.

hoose to express your love fearlessly and this will lead to everything you want. When you can be your authentic self, even in times of fear, you will engage the powers of the universe and you will become a shining example of alignment. You will be more powerful that all your neighbors combined.

Now, as you choose to express your love for the "bad" neighbors and for the new residents to your neighborhood, the other neighbors might resent you for it or they might secretly admire you for it. You can be a beacon of reason and this will work to soften the conflict. They cannot maintain their position as strongly when there are those who choose the love side. When you stand up for love, you encourage others to reevaluate their fears. Their fears are illusory and you know that. They cannot see it yet, but as their fears are eased (possibly through the rational analysis of the truth) they will feel better. As they begin to feel better, they will naturally return to love. Give them a little time and very soon this will all sort itself out.

Your neighbors who live in fear are not wrong. They are just feeling the negative emotion that comes with fear. They, unlike you, do not know what negative emotion means or how to analyze it. You do not need to focus your attention on them or call them wrong. Simply focus your attention in a loving way toward that which you want; harmony.

We see the magnificence that is you,
Joshua

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