Dear Joshua,
I am struggling this morning. I am feeling lonely and bored. I know these are low vibrational states of being and I am working to turn myself around. I have such an overwhelming feeling of lack of direction. I was feeling so good for a while and then I just fell down this hole. How do I deal with these emotions swiftly and move on? The only think I can think of is to just do stuff until I wears off. Is this the best approach?
With Love and Gratitude
~ Wendy
Dear Wendy,
For you, feeling lonely and bored are mild negative emotions. When you feel negative emotion, even when it's mild, it is an indication that your are focused in a way that is different than how your inner self is focused. You are slightly off course. It is like driving on the freeway and allowing your car to drift into the adjoining lane. You will feel the bumps in the road marking the edge of the lane. This is what the feeling of negative emotion is. It is alerting you to the fact that your perspective is going outside the lane. You must bring it back by changing your perspective so that it comes back in line with who you really are and what you truly want.
If you are to receive all that you want, you must live life differently than you are living it now. You must maintain your focus on what is wanted rather than constantly drifting into the lane of what is not wanted. This is why you have an emotional guidance system in the first place. It is good to notice when you feel mild negative emotion and then ask a question as a result. Many people would ignore the negative emotion and take some action to offset it. Maybe they would eat, drink, smoke, drug, etc. These are all urges that result from the desire to feel better, but are not aligned with what is truly wanted. In order to regain your alignment you must do a little work.
When you feel lonely, you can look at the feeling and see that it is based on a false fear. The fear is that if you were more worthy, people would be around you all the time. You would be more social, people would want to be with you, and you would be busy doing things with all sorts of wonderful people. The fear is false and the presumption is a bit off. Here's the truth: you are worthy, people do love you, you are fun to be around, you are special, and you could be surrounded by more people if you really wanted to. That is well within your power to create.
Your perspective is that in this moment you are alone and you have chosen to see that as a bad thing. Your perspective is fixed on some strange and weird thing that is not real. It is false. All you have to do to feel better is to change your perspective. Look at how many people are in your life. Write a list of all your friends. Look at you list of contacts in your book. It is plentiful. Do you really have time for more people? Do you need more people? There are a lot of people in your life who love you. If you want to prove that the limiting belief that you are lonely is false, write a list of people you know and see it as an abundant list. If you want more people, then set an intention to attract more people. It is your reality and you create it. You can create anything you want. If you want more people in your life, simply set the intention and then allow them to come.
Your irrational fear is based on the assumption that you do not create your own reality. We know that to be false. We know that you have created all that exists in your life now. We know that you manifested this relationship with us. We know that you attracted us. You did not plan it out and achieve it through action, you allowed it to happen. That is the creation process. You did it all by creating the desire and allowing it to manifest by being open and nonresistant.
Do you know that you can easily create anything you want through this exact same process? It is true. If you want to consciously create the life you want, simply intend for the things you want to happen and then maintain your perspective on the positive aspects of everything so that you feel good more and more of the time. When your perspective drifts into the next lane, you will be alerted by the experience of negative emotion. That's excellent. Now return your perspective quickly and easily by acknowledging that the negative emotion was caused by a limiting belief based on an irrational fear. Prove the fear is false and you'll return to the lane that will eventually get you everything you truly want. That's all you have to do.
With our love,
We are Joshua
