Dear Joshua,
Here is a specific example of a situation that has come up with my boss that has caused me negative emotion. A direct report of mine is an absolute star and extremely valuable to the team and the organization as a whole. He has expressed an interest in attending a week long technical conference that is being held in Las Vegas this year. It would benefit him and the team with the knowledge he would gain from this and it would be a nice perk to show him he is appreciated. I believe that a company should invest in their employees by investing in their training and growth. Therefore, I have made it a goal of mine to get this approved for him. However; every time I bring it up with my boss, he comes up with all sorts of excuses why it probably won't happen.
I can really work myself up over this - to the point where I would love to have this star employee and myself both get other jobs if I am ultimately unsuccessful in making this happen.
So in trying to analyze this... I'll try to dig up my beliefs:
It's wrong for the company not to support their employees. The company is not supporting my decision by not approving this. An effective manager takes care of his direct reports. Therefore, if this doesn't get approved, I'm not effective in this situation. I feel powerless in this situation with my only power being my ability to quit. I want to make a "mark" as the new manager of the group as someone who can make a difference. My boss must not see my intentions as important enough for him to push for this with his boss. It's extremely short sighted of the company. They should be doing everything in their power to keep this employee happy! My team's abilities would be greatly diminished should this employee leave... This would impact my overall effectiveness.
I'm having difficulty seeing the false beliefs here. I'm probably too close to the situation. Can you assist me?
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
You are a freedom seeking being and you believe that anything you want should and must be manifested into your reality. And we agree completely. However, you have a belief about the ability of others to restrict your freedom and your ability to create what you desire. This is a limiting belief, but we can see how the illusion of reality has caused you to come to this belief. You believe that if only you had the authority you desire, that you could create whatever you want. You believe it is the narrow-mindedness of your bosses and their bosses that prevent you from manifesting certain things. You also believe this reflects poorly on you and you are very much concerned with how others perceive you. These are your limiting beliefs.
First of all, you must know by now that you have the ability to do, have, and be anything you want and no one can create in your reality. Do you have this very beneficial belief? If so, then let's break down this situation.
You enjoy a certain amount of authority and freedom in your work environment. You also enjoy a certain amount of freedom and authority in your home life. The levels of which are remarkably similar, wouldn't you agree? At work you have some control over the actions of others and your work environment. But that control is limited. There are certain things you want but cannot have. There are certain restrictions you have allowed to be placed. You believe that these restrictions are fair and appropriate for the most part. For example, you believe it is appropriate for your employer to fire you if you don't come to work or if you get another job.
At home you allow the imposition of certain restrictions as well. There are some things you just cannot do within the agreement of that family structure. You believe it is appropriate for these restrictions to be set in place and you also believe that if you step outside the lines of these restrictions then certain ramifications would be appropriate. For instance, you believe it would be appropriate for your wife to divorce you if you married and moved in with someone else.
Therefore you have agreed to most of your restrictions. When you feel some restrictions are not appropriate, you feel negative emotion. Suddenly it occurs to you that your freedom is being unfairly impinged on. You feel powerless and from this contrast, great desire is created. Now you yearn for additional freedom. But the perception of your freedom is entirely up to you. You create your reality, so you can create the amount of freedom you wish to explore.
You would not be happy with total freedom because in allowing this to occur, you could have no attachments whatsoever. All attachments restrict your freedom. You could not be married, could not enjoy time with your children, could not have a job, could not work in a co-creative environment, and could not own things. Total freedom means total freedom from attachments. You certainly do not want this.
And so you must negotiate a balance between freedom and attachment.
Realize that anything you want is achievable must must be done within the framework of your beliefs and what it is you really want. You can have it all as long as you realize you already do have it all. You currently enjoy a perfect balance between having possessions, relationships, and interests and having an abundance of freedom. Your vibration has caused the balance to be perfect.
So you have a new desire for more freedom. What will this desire bring? What will you trade for the experience of more freedom? Which attachment will you sever and cast off? Maybe the attachment to this job will be removed from your experience and the new level of freedom will cast you in a new direction. Maybe you will realize that your attachment to the job is worth more than the feeling of freedom, but what will your subordinates think about your leadership abilities?
From our perspective this manifestation event has come to help you clarify your feelings of freedom versus attachment. If you can understand that the conditions do not dictate how you feel, they cannot control what you want to create, and they have no power over you, you can learn to create anything you want within the framework of what is important to you. There really are no restrictions, just realize that you have set up these conditions well in advance and they perfectly match who you are now. If you want them to be different, then you must be different. But don't blame your boss or these conditions.
You are loved more than you can imagine and you are just beginning to glimpse behind the curtain.
Joshua
