Dear Joshua,
I got the news this morning that my cousin's daughter died in a car accident last night. She would have been 20 years old next month. This same cousin lost her husband in another car accident about 8 years ago. So, as you can imagine, she is devastated.
This is a very rough reality we currently live in. Mom's losing their children seems the ultimate in emotional pain on this planet. What is the purpose? This has been going on for 1000's of years. Couldn't we have a reality where we don't have the big major emotional pains? I'm going to call it "La La Land" - and only minor bad things happen and most everyone is living a life that is joyous and fun. Do those realities currently exist? If so, did we deliberately skip those for some reason and chose to come to the this rough one? Is this rough one more full spectrum because you can't have super joy without knowing of super pain? I'm trying to make sense of my cousin's immense pain this day...
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
You can choose and you do choose your reality. You can consciously choose it or unconsciously choose it. Either way, you choose (create) your reality. If someone close to you chooses to reemerge into nonphysical reality, you do not choose that for them or for you, you choose how you define that experience for yourself. You can experience their transition as having them taken from you and feel like a victim or you can choose to see it another way. Either way, you choose.
You choose everything in this reality. You can choose to see things in a way that aligns with what you want, who you really are, and what is best for you, or you can choose to see things in a way that makes you feel powerless and out of control. It's your choice.
Now, we certainly understand that given your set of beliefs around what you call death, you're going to hang on to a negative connotation of that word. That too is your choice, but just understand that when you make anything negative and don't allow for the possibility of something positive, then you limit your experience while you are here living it. That makes no sense if you think about it.
There is no such thing as death. All anyone is doing is transitioning out of this experience of physical reality and into the experience of nonphysical reality. The nonphysical is your home, the physical is your temporary playground. If you take someone to an amusement park and they've had enough and want to go home, you can allow them to go while you continue to enjoy yourself knowing that you'll see them again as soon as you get home. It's no big deal. If you thought that your time at the amusement park would be ruined because they are not there with you, then your experience will not be as fun as it could. Again, that's simply a choice you choose to make. But you could decide that while you are here, even though they have decided to go home, you will still enjoy your time at the amusement park.
It's your limiting belief that the death experience is the end. It is not, it's just a simple transition from this to that. As long as you are going to choose to believe that death is the end of existence, you are going to limit the depth and breadth of the physical experience. That too is a choice, but it is based on a fearful, limiting belief that has no basis in fact and does not support what you want.
If you allowed yourself to believe that nothing bad happens when you die and that those existing in the nonphysical realm are forever tied to you and you cannot lose them and that they are here with you now, you can start to create a very deep and intense connection with them. They can communicate with you just as we are. You can communicate with them just as you are communicating with us. When you release the fearful thoughts of death and replace them with the good-feeling thoughts of pure eternal existence, then that communication channel is opened.
Would you create a La La Land where no one died, where no one was allowed to leave the amusement park when they were ready? Would you force everyone to stay longer than they wanted? Would you create a prison where no one could leave? Would you do anything to limit any experience that one chose to have in this environment just because you thought it was wrong? Transition isn't wrong no matter when it occurs or by what means it was made. It's not wrong at any age. It's not wrong because there is no wrong. If you choose to be sad, then you may be sad. But certainly, you wouldn't want to limit the experience of others. Their choice to end their time in physical reality must be allowed. Wouldn't you agree?
Joshua
