Dear Joshua,
As I was pulling out of my driveway, there was a guy walking his 2 dogs and he was letting them go onto our lawn so they could do "whatever". Now personally, I think this is rude and there has been several times in the past where I have seen dog crap on our lawn. I've wondered what rude owner has allowed this to happen without picking up after their dog and immediately this came to mind when I saw this man and I felt anger. When he saw me, he was all smiles and waved (he didn't look guilty at all so apparently he never got the memo that letting your dogs go on the other people's lawn is rude) so instead of me saying anything, I just waved back and drove off. (I should mention that I did not see the dogs taking a dump. They were just sniffing around and there could have been a chance that he was prepared with doggie bags)
Now I was trying to define what my fears were in this situation:
1) he was disrespecting me and my yard
2) he was allowing his dogs to damage my lawn
3) he was possibly causing work for my family to have to clean up after his dogs
So the 1st reason I felt wasn't true after I saw the man's friendly demeanor. He is just clueless. But then wouldn't it be a benefit for me to explain how I feel to him so he stops this inappropriate behavior? But then that goes back to him having to behave in a certain way to make me happy, which doesn't ring true with me. For reason #2, the damage is minimal and the lawn can easily bounce back, so that's not a biggie. The 3rd reason bothered me on multiple levels because I am busy enough in my life without having to take time out of my day to clean up after his dogs. This goes to my belief that I don't have enough time (which I'm trying to soften) which I know is a false belief but I still have work to do on this.
Ultimately, I'm trying to strike a balance between thinking you can't just let people walk all over you versus just letting everything slide... I obviously attracted this manifestation event and it must be for a reason. Is it true that once I am past this lesson, the dog crap stops happening on my lawn?
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
We are delighted that you are able to so easily step back, in the moment of a manifestation event, and take a look at what's really going on. This is a feat few humans are able to do, but it is wonderfully powerful. Now that you have allowed yourself to observe the event rather than react to the event, you can analyze it from the standpoint that asks "what is there for me to understand in this event?"
While the man allowed his dogs freedom to romp on your yard, you felt negative emotion. This was your indication that there is some limiting belief based in fear that presented itself in this occasion. What do you really have to fear? Nothing. Therefore this fear is irrational, although it feels rational. Should you allow this man to let his dogs run around your yard? If you allow this guy to walk all over you, what about the next guy who might take it even further? When do you set boundaries? When is another person's behavior wrong?
Since there is no wrong anywhere in the universe, your perception of wrong comes from your limited perspective. When you believe someone is doing something wrong, it's because you feel fear in the form of negative emotion. You believe this person has the power to affect your life in some detrimental way. You believe they have the power to create in your reality. This is a limiting belief based in fear and there is no evidence to support it.
So then what should you do? When you realize that fear has been activated within you and you realize the fear is irrational, how do you respond to the current situation? You observe it just like you did and you try to determine where the fear comes from, just as you did. Now there are three possible choices based on your analysis of the situation. They are: 1) disrespect, 2) Fear of loss (damage to your yard), and 3) lack of time. If you look at these three possibilities, one outshines all others because the fear affects your persona.
You have created a persona and your ego protects that persona just as your survival instinct protects your life. To your ego, your persona is like your body and if the persona is damaged, it's just as if your body was injured. To your ego, this attack on your persona is real and the fear is rational. However, you realize that your persona is just a simple construct of your beliefs and nothing more. Your persona need not be fixed and actually must change quite drastically for you to become the highest version of who you really are. You do not need to protect your persona even though it feels like you must.
Your ego felt that your persona was being attracted by the man with the dogs. The feeling of disrespect is fear that the persona might not be as powerful or as important as you thought. If you were who you thought your persona was, then this man would not be acting in a way as to disrespect you. The ego wants you to alter the man's behavior so that he does respect you. It is just fear causing this reaction within you.
If you can realize the fear is irrational, you can choose to react to the situation just as you did. In the moment of the event, you reached for the higher perspective and saw what was really going on. You were able to analyze the situation and identify three possible sources of the fear you felt. Now that you have had time to think about the event, you can see that the universe is working to modify your persona. This is a giant step forward.
Let's say that you have faith that the universe is molding you into the version of you who will be ready for whatever you want. You have asked, and now the universe is answering. And for the first time, you are allowing by not reacting negatively to these manifestation events. You are going with the flow. This is how you receive all that you want. This is the key to the deliberate creation of your life. You do not need to identify what you want specifically, you have already done that with your vibration. Now you have faith that it will come in the most elegant manner possible and you are in the process of allowing.
This manifestation event gives you insight as to who you must be to receive what you really want. Can you see it? You must be someone who does not need to be respected. This is a very important aspect of your personality which must be modified in order for you to get what you want. But of course, you want to be respected. Who doesn't? If you're going to be in a position of power, wealth, and prestige, doesn't respect go along with that? Certainly, respect is a side effect of all that. It will be a natural part of who you are at that stage. Yet, it will come as an aspect of who you are, not as a requirement of who you are.
You cannot make others respect you. When you feel disrespected now, it is an aspect of your insecurity, not your confidence. If you felt truly worthy, you would not even notice how others treated you. You would realize that it's their issue, not yours. You would assume that all respected you and if it seemed like someone was not respecting you, you would simply know that they had some issue to deal with. So for you to move to the next level, you must start to realize that you are truly worthy, that people absolutely respect you and when it seems like they are not, it's just them, not you. Your reaction must be that you are worthy, not that others are not treating you as though you were worthy.
This is a very intricate and delicate concept and it might take many more manifestation events for you to learn what is being taught here. If you felt totally worthy, you would forgive those who could not see your worthiness. You would not feel negative emotion at their slights, you would feel compassion for them. You would not ask them to change their behavior and you would not see it as wrong, you would simply know that they do not know what they are doing. This is operating from the higher perspective.
Does this approach to life seem like a good one to be or a bad one? This will depend on your current set of beliefs. You have already asked for what you want and the universe is bringing it to you. You must be changed in such a way that you will be a match to that which you have asked for. If you resist, you cause tension and stress. If you allow your beliefs to be modified, you go with the flow and what you want will make its way into your reality. This is the basis of the Law of Attraction and when you work with it, you leverage the power of the universe.
Love
Joshua
