Dear Joshua,
More of an update than a question. I'm noticing I've been appreciating more lately. Really simple things like great tasting water from my reverse osmosis water filter anytime of the day! What seems like an unlimited supply of ice cubes from my ice maker without having to deal with refilling ice cube trays! An amazing home theatre system that the 25 year old version of me would die for. My family, job, cars, house, etc. When I imagine going back to the 20 or even 30 year old version of me and showing him my life now - that's the perspective that really allows me to appreciate where I am today and this FEELS good. This is a pretty big shift for me. A lot of my prior view was focused on what I had not accomplished and why there wasn't a Ferrari in my driveway yet...(that didn't feel so good) And I feel more calm and relaxed. Not so much in the rush to get somewhere or prove myself anymore.
This evening I received an email from my new boss upset that I had not responded to an email from a few days ago. My initial reaction was one of defensiveness (fear) because I had just dealt successfully with a major emergency at work over the weekend but one thing slips through the crack and he gets upset? But it was so obvious this felt wrong. So I thought about it from his perspective, apologized, and said I would follow up and get the information he needed. Done deal! I still had a little bit of "I should stand up for myself" but the way I felt so much better after just plain apologizing and moving on tells me it was the right thing to do. So I was able to maintain my good feeling attitude.
Appreciate the new tools...
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
We are extremely satisfied to see that you are enjoying and utilizing your new tools. When you can stop and look at any situation from the higher perspective or the other person's perspective, you gain a solid foundation and can operate from that higher vibration. When you understand your own worthiness and the worthiness of everyone else, you don't have to prove you're right or make them wrong. You can just understand that they might be operating out of fear and you can respond with fearlessness (love).
When you find yourself in conflict with another, you can recognize that there are discordant vibrations involved. Usually you are both thinking that the other should be doing something they are not doing. Your boss believes that you should respond to emails differently than you are and you believe your boss should be treating you differently than he is. This causes your vibration to be in conflict or discordant. If you believed that your boss should be exactly as he is, even if he wants you to be different than he is, your vibration would be aligned and there would be no conflict for you. Since it is only you that matters, all you have to do is understand that everything is always okay. We believe that there is a very powerful tool for resolving any conflict. It is a simple four-word phrase: You're Right. I'm sorry.
If you can say You're Right. I'm sorry the moment anyone is upset with anything, you can dissolve the negative vibration of the situation. You are not admitting to any wrong, you are simply acknowledging their perspective. You don't need to be right and you certainly do not gain by making them wrong. Your only goal is to resolve the conflicting vibration and this phrase will work almost every time. If you can say You're Right. I'm sorry as soon as any conflict arises, you will ease the tension very quickly and move on to things that are more important such as feeling good.
The 30-year old version of you would be amazed by this version of you.
Love,
Joshua
