Dear Joshua,
Regarding sexual relationships - you have stated that being in alignment with your higher self is the feeling of love that you feel with another person and also that we have the capacity to love everyone. What exactly is sexual desire then? I do not believe it is the equivalent of love, as you can have feelings of love for a person but not be sexually attracted to them and vice versa. I understand that sex is vital for the continuation of the species, but it seems like there is a whole lot more going on there. Energy to be exact. And lots of it. Can you describe from a nonphysical perspective how sexual attraction and relations relate to spirituality and connection with your higher self?
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
You have the ability to love anyone because the feeling of love is the feeling of alignment. What you do is look at someone and either see their positive aspects and feel love (because that is alignment with your inner self) or you look at them and see something you judge as wrong, or bad, or inferior, or missing, or annoying, etc. and you cut yourself off from that alignment and you do not allow yourself to feel love. You are looking at something that has already occurred and then you react to it. If you would just feel love and then look for the things to love in your environment, you would begin to feel alignment in everything and then your reality would radically change to match how you are predominantly feeling.
Now, sex is something else altogether. Sex is one of those aspects of physical reality that is necessary for survival. We will consider three such aspects and they are food (and water), sex, and comfort. Sex is really the least important of the three aspects, but you have built up such beliefs around sex that it looms larger in your lives than it really should. You spend far more time thinking about food and comfort than sex. You spend far more of your life eating and being comfortable than you do having sex. You are far more extravagant in your meal preparation and you creation of comforts than you are with sex. But sex appears to have far more energy within it than almost anything else you can think of. This is due to your mixed up beliefs that have been created mainly out of fear.
You society accepts certain behaviors as normal. Mostly anything goes. You can listen to outrageous music, watch extremely violent movies, eat lavish meals, drive incredibly extravagant vehicles, live in opulent mansions, and dress in any manner you choose and your society will accept that as normal and acceptable. However, your beliefs are quite constricting when it comes to sex. Compared to what is possible, most of you limit yourselves to an incredible degree. What you do sexually in limited by your beliefs. Much of your beliefs are based in fear.
This fear is created by your society and one generation follows the next adopting these limiting beliefs. You have gained some relief in the last generation, but mostly sex is quite subdued. It starts in childhood when natural curiosity is deemed unacceptable and any behavior out of the norm is quickly and severely punished. As children experiment with their sexuality, they do so in secrecy fearing what the adults will think. They want to behave in a way that allows their parents to approve of them and to continue to love them, so out of fear of loss of this love, they inhibit their own natural curiosity about sex. This restriction of a natural interest affects most people for the rest of their lives.
Certainly you have agreements for what is acceptable within the terms of a relationship. It is not appropriate in certain circumstances, if both parties have agreed, to have sex outside that relationship. However, this too is based in fear. The fear that your partner might fall in love with another and then decide to leave the relationship. This fear is irrational since you are eternally linked to everyone you have ever had a relationship with. It is also irrational because you lives unfold based on the vibrations you offer, not on the agreements you make. To love unconditionally means to allow everyone else the freedom to explore what ever interests them and to love them for that reason regardless of the outcomes.
In a natural setting, free from the influence of society, parents, or peers, one would be free to explore sexuality in a way that was most pleasurable. Without fear, all kinds of sex would be enjoyable. If you had a different outlook on sex, you would be having more sex, with more people, in more settings and you would enjoy it so much more. You have millions of places where you can go and enjoy wonderful meals in beautiful surroundings, but you have few places to go and have sex. Isn't that interesting?
The energy of sex is similar to the energy of food. it is a natural part of life and can be very enjoyable. It is no more important and there is no mystery to it. Sex happens to create life but food happens to sustain life. One is no more mysterious than the other. They are both aspects of physical reality and like everything in physical reality there is a wide spectrum from good to bad based on your judgment. It all could be wonderful if you focused on the wonderful aspects of what you do have.
Now, understanding our perspective on the subject, you might decide to abandon you current approach to life and go off in search of wonderful and open sex. You could find it and it would be wonderful and extremely enjoyable if you could alter your belief systems to allow it. You would then be guided by the Law of Attraction to others who share your views and your sex life would be changed forever. But this is an extreme change and you would likely have to leave your old life behind. If you have attachments to your family and friends, it might be too much of a tradeoff. You might enjoy your new lifestyle of open sex, yet you might also miss the relationships you had in your past life. Often times the grass appears greener because you are not fully appreciating what you have now. Your sex life can improve in the life you are living now if that is your desire.
You have complete control over the thoughts you think and the desires you hold. When you want something, you must be careful not to want it because you don't like what's going on now and you want to change the conditions. That will most often backfire on you and turn out in a way that you will not like. You must think about what you want because you want to experience the feeling of it, not the actual experience itself. You choose a feeling you would like to explore and the universe will manifest that feeling in your reality.
The feeling must be true. Your desire must be toward something wanted and not away from something you don't like. If you have faith that the universe knows best how to bring you the feeling you want, and if you realize that you cannot see how this will all play out because your perspective is limited, and if you do not resist what is happening in the present conditions by judging them as bad, wrong, or lacking, then what you want will unfold in a way that will be quite surprising to you. You can have whatever you want if you just think about the feeling of it and allow the universe to do its thing.
Your resistance is the thing that keeps you apart from what you want. It has nothing to do with anyone else. The conditions in your life now are the perfect place for you to begin to receive everything you really want. Your belief that the conditions must change is not serving you. Believe that everything is right, think about what it is you want (not what you don't want) and allow it to come to you. You allow it to come by believing that e ery little thing that is happening in you life is there to support you, to alter your beliefs, and to change you into the version of you that will recognize your desire when it arrives. That's all that is ever happening. When you judge anything as bad or wrong you stall the process.
You are loved more than you can imagine.
Love,
Joshua
