Joshua,
This isn't a question, I just wanted to share what I would consider a success story :)
I've been trying to live "You're right. I'm sorry." Not only have I been putting it into practice, I've been slipping the idea of it into conversations wherever I get the chance, with strangers at the coffee shop and with my friends and family.
Yesterday I was in a conversation where someone expressed a viewpoint I didn't necessarily agree with, but I just thought about it for a moment, then said "Hmm. You're right." He called me out and said "Are you doing that "You're Right" thing to me?"
We laughed about it, because I totally was doing that without even realizing it. But the thing was, I meant it. I could see how he was right in what he was saying. I was completely comfortable with our two different perspectives coexisting and *both* being right.
This is some life-changing stuff right here. I'm beyond grateful for the chance to learn it, and I'm having a blast sharing it with other people in my reality. So. Much. Fun. So thanks for taking the time to drive the point home with me. It's finally truly sunk in, and I'll carry it with me forever.
With love,
Kyla
Dear Kyla,
We love success stories, but then again all stories are really success stories from our perspective. The phrase "You're right. I apologize" is not only a true statement, it is completely honest and authentic as well. That's why it's so effective at disarming the other person and resolving conflict. The person who said what they said is right, because they must be if you heard it. What they said was meant for you. There was purpose to it even if the other person could not begin to imagine what the real purpose was.
If it was said to you, then it is right because you needed to hear it. It could have the effect of bolstering a beneficial belief or alerting you to a limiting belief. If you judge it as wrong, you've simply missed the message contained in the comment. When you criticize or come back at the other person trying to correct them for their apparent misunderstanding, you cause them to become defensive and conflict ensues. When you acknowledge that they were right, not because what they said was true or honest or anything like that, but it was right because there was something in you that made it wrong and that was caused by a limiting belief. You desire something and this limiting belief stands like a brick wall in your way.
If it was not for this statement made by this person, you might not have uncovered this limiting belief and you would not have altered your vibration so that what you want would manifest in your reality. So the person happens to be right because the message was necessary. When you acknowledge that your reaction prevented you from seeing how they were right, you can apologize to them and move on. Conflict resolved. End of story.
Now let's see you put this into practice when someone really says something that seems wrong.
With Our Love,
We are Joshua
