Dear Joshua
Ok, a limiting belief is a limiting belief, no matter where it comes from - the only thing I need to pay attention to is the negative emotion, telling me I'm having a limiting belief, and then look for ways to reduce the negative emotion on that subject when I notice it. I can prove it's false, or I can choose to support it. We are back with the subject of choice again. Choice to stay in a grouchy mood or choice to change it, choice to change the limiting belief to a broader, nicer belief, or not.
The limiting belief behind the possibility of being unemployed is that it shows I'm not good enough in my work to find more work in that area. That I might have to move to a cheaper area (and away from my life here) etc. But you are right of course, plenty of people are unemployed and happier than I am often. It wouldn't matter that much to be unemployed, I have money, other things would come along, my journey isn't over yet, it might even free me to do things I haven't yet dared to do - no matter what, I won't find myself homeless or dead from it.
The limiting belief about the work strategy: I'll lose the clients I worked hard to get (and yet here I am learning that the best thing is to relax, enjoy and go with the flow). It doesn't mean that I would necessarily lose them as friends, or be less worthy, and I would get over it quickly enough.
I'm not sure why I'm so obsessed with work. I know it takes up a lot of my time, but I think I'm putting too much pressure on myself and too much importance into it. It is my identity when it really isn't. I'm proud of it, when in fact every job is good, everyone as you say is worthy. It's a lot of work maintaing all of that. My choice of course. I can listen to you and relax (which I had been doing), and everything will get easier and good, or I can resist. It reminds me all of "detachment". Doing with appreciation, but detachment from what others think, what others say, and possible consequences.
Kate
Dear Kate,
There are really only two options for life; one, you can try to coerce the conditions around you and get everything to go your way, or two, you can relax and allow everything to work out for you. The first option is resistant in nature and the second option is one of allowing. Resistance or allowing. Efforting or ease. Pushing or revealing.
Most people approach life utilizing option number one. They fight and struggle and effort their way in life thinking that they know what they want and they're going to fight to get it. They manipulate others in order to make them conform to what they think they want. They take no responsibility for what's going on around them. When things appear to be going right, they're happy and when they appear to be going wrong, they're unhappy. They look at the conditions and react. Their reactions are either good or bad based on the perspective they choose. They are completely out of control of their lives. Nothing they want can come easily. It is all created without the leverage of the universe. The good results are paltry and the the bad ones have been attracted due to their attention to that which is unwanted.
Few people live the life of allowing. In this approach to life, one understands that everything is always working out for them. Whatever happens is of benefit to them and is for their highest good. They understand that life is like a river and they simply flow downstream. They do not try to remove the rocks in the stream, they simply move past them giving them little thought at all. The do not paddle frantically upstream because they know that all they want will be revealed to them as they make their way downstream. They utilize the forces of the universe to assist them always. They do not take action unless it is inspired. They do not say or do things unless they are aligned with who they really are and what they really want.
You are not your work. Your work is something you choose to do because overall it interests you. Certainly there are aspects which you would like to see improved and you have the power to improve them. There are aspects you appreciate and as you allow yourself to gain confidence, these aspects improve as well. However, you certainly don't need this job or any. The job doesn't provide your income, the universe does. You are approaching this subject from a position of desperation. If you lose the job, you fear for the life you've created.
Everything you have now, matches your vibration now. You created it all. You created your friends, your boyfriend, your apartment, your job, your possessions and your relationships. Everything is a match to your vibration. If you loved and appreciated your job, you would be inspired to do things which would enhance that love. Yet, you mostly fear your job. You fear your bosses. You fear your performance. You fear your peers. You fear your clients. You even fear losing a job you fear.
People who love their jobs feel no fear. Wouldn't it be nice to go to work and feel no fear, only passion and bliss? If you felt no fear, you would feel only love and with love comes great alignment with universal forces, infinite intelligence, and powerful inspiration to action. This is the state of bliss and this is what you came here to experience.
So losing a job where you don't feel love would be a wonderful thing. Living as if losing your job would be a wonderful thing is rather freeing isn't it? If you lost your job, you might be released to find your passion. Maybe your job is keeping you from discovering that which you truly love. So now that you have nothing to lose, can't you release a little fear?
If you can be detached from your job, you can release the fear around it. Who cares what your bosses say or want? Who cares what your performance is? Who cares what your peers do? Who cares what your clients think? Now that you've released the fear, the job gets far more interesting. You can now do things your way. You can talk to whomever you like. You can research whatever you want. You can choose to follow your CEO's direction or not. If the company crashes and burns, who cares? You lost a job you feared and that's a wonderful thing indeed.
You are attached to your life as it now exists and this causes fear. So what if you move out into the country where it's less expensive? So what if you lose your friends or your boyfriend? You can't see what's next, but it could be incredible. We will say that you're hanging onto things that need not be grasped so tightly. You can't lose anything. You are always moving forward and you're eternally linked to everyone you know. Now it's time to release your anxieties and live life a little more boldly. This is your universe. Everything revolves around you. Think about that before another fear pops up. Everything outside of you is an illusion. Act like it's an illusion. Act with confidence and have faith in the universe. Allow things to flow easily and effortlessly and detach yourself from all of it.
You are loved and supported more than you can imagine.
Joshua
