Kate Question #46

 

Dear Joshua,

Limiting beliefs yesterday with anxiety:

There aren't enough clients.

My boss will make life difficult for me if I'm not bringing in enough money.

I'm not as good as the others in this work and the only thing which helped me until now was my English, but I'm replaceable.

I'll never find another job here which pays this salary.

Clients will stop talking to me because I'm too anxious and unclear.

I don't understand this stuff. I'll be seen a fool (by clients and colleagues).

I'll have to go back to doing badly paid, boring jobs.

I don't have enough good ideas, I have no visibility on where the market is going and therefore can't make any phone calls to clients because I have nothing to say, while all my competitors are making calls (who knows?)

Our company is being squeezed financially as it is and every year in an effort to stay alive. Our bosses remind us of that and our performance.

I'll be judged by my two bosses and say yes to most everything they say and then the pressure will be on for another couple of months. I will always get subtle or not so subtle pressure to perform better from my bosses, and it's tiring because I really can't perform so I'm shutting up but pissed off at myself.

I succeeded up to this level, but I cant really go any further because I don't have natural sales skills and I'm not willing to spend my free time studying more on this subject so I can't progress much more etc etc etc. and probably fear comes into this too.

I have no entrepreneurial ideas or skills, so I couldn't start my own business - I'm dependent on companies with bosses to make a living and that gets more difficult to find with age.

These are all my irrational fears that came up yesterday. Irrational because, well, I don't know what is going to happen, and I've been taken care of so far (by source) and in ways I couldn't have imagined - but my big irrational fear here I guess, when all is said and done, is that my future and well being all depends on me (which it does since it's my thinking) and that is scary because I have no control over people places and things.

Kate


Dear Kate,

So many more wonderful limiting beliefs based on irrational fears. The fears are real, they're just irrational because you cannot die from the result of these fears. That understanding alone should help reduce the intensity of these limiting beliefs. However, we would like you to take each fear and write a paragraph explaining why they are false. Find evidence to prove that each fear is untrue, that each belief is false. If you can't find examples in your own life, find examples taken from the lives of others. You might have to do a little research here. Make your evidence compelling. The more evidence you find, the more you'll reduce the power of these beliefs.

With Love
Joshua

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