Kate Question #25

 

Dear Joshua,

Work is still complicated too. I sit right next to my boss who plays video games on his phone 60% of the day. He has been bypassing me for this young colleague for the last few weeks, just sort of ignoring me to talk directly to him with ideas etc., which is something he didn't use to do. So, ok - not sure why that is happening but I can get on with my work.

Yesterday, he says to me: I don't hear you talking in English much right now (which is a way of saying "I don't here you calling English clients right now") and I get super resentful. In part because I think I work hard but am not seeing the results I would like to see so he is pressing on a super sensitive spot. In part because I feel he is sort of running me into the ground. In part because of his own behavior. In part because this young colleague is actually doing quite well but I can't see what more he is doing than me, so why are his results different? And how can I change mine. I even dreamed that this young colleague had beaten me to getting his CFA (Certified Financial Analyst accreditation), which neither of us are doing!!

Part of me wants to give up (and see what happens - but that is scary). Part of me wants to fight. And I do understand that getting to a place of appreciation for all this would be the best thing, but I'm obviously not there. There must be tweaks or exercises or something I can do to improve my feelings around this.

Kate


Dear Kate,

Everything you have stated in your question is reasonable given the vibration we see coming from you. We will start by saying that what you are feeling is perfectly acceptable and that you are coming to a place where you will make a big decision. Will you stay and work it out or will you give up and try something else? We will also say that either decision will work out for you. However, since we are here working on your vibration and having a conversation about the laws of the universe, we want you to look at the whole picture from another perspective.

You have an inner reality that is being projected on the canvas of your outer world. How you are feeling on the inside creates conditions and perceptions of your reality that reflect those feelings. You feel a certain way and the world is arranged in such a way, with all the people in it, to create situations which make you feel the same on the outside as you do on the inside. If you felt something different on the outside than how you actually feel on the inside, there would be a disconnect. You would not feel like you were part of your world. Your world would feel eerily strange to you. You would feel out of place.

You feel comfortable within your environment. Most of it is very good. You like the city, your neighborhood, your apartment, your friends, the restaurants you go to, and the stores you shop. You feel very comfortable with all of it. You also feel comfortable at work, with your colleagues and even with your boss. If you think about it, there is a level of familiarity there. It all matches how you feel on the inside.

If you want your outer world to change, you must first change your inner world. You must change that feeling on the inside and it will be automatically (though not instantly) reflected on the outside. It is just how the system works. It may take a little time for the outer reality to match up to the inner reality because your feelings won't suddenly shift overnight. It's a process.

If you look at your life now and interpret the outside world by how you generally feel on the inside, you can actually see your feelings represented. There is some love, some insecurity, some joy, some interest, some satisfaction, some envy, some stuff that feels good and some stuff that feels bad. If you can really be honest and accept that how you feel is actually represented by what you interpret with your physical senses and how you perceive your world, you can see that the inside feelings come first and the outside world is morphed into line with those very same feelings. All you have to do is change the way you feel and your outside world will match it.

The tricky part is that your outside world confirms your inside feelings and so you must learn to perceive what is happening in your reality in a way that serves you. If you choose to see that your boss is ignoring you or that a younger colleague is doing better than you, then the feelings created by that perception will reinforce and validate how you feel on the inside. However, when you change your perception of the outside world so that it allows you to feel better, then you will have a disparity between your inner feelings and your improved outer feelings. Your inner feelings will improve to match your new perception of things and so your outer reality must reflect those new feelings which feel better. It is law.

The universe will not make the outer changes immediately. In order for your outer world to match your inner feelings, you must maintain your better-feeling inside world long enough for the outer world to catch up. It is this constant attention to how you feel and the practice of shaping your perspective so that events no longer feel bad that will cause the shift in your reality to take place. You must practice feeling good, feeling secure, feeling confident, feeling worthy, loving others, appreciating the conditions, accepting the present moment as perfect, and finding the positive aspects in everything. You must feel ease and enter the state of allowing. When you seek to control the actions of others or the conditions that surround you in the present moment, you are in the state of resistance. When you let all of that go and accept what is as perfect and trust that as you feel better your world will change to match your feelings, you enter the state of allowing.

Remove the wrong from your perception and everything will be right inside of you. When it is all right inside of you, the world will match how you feel. It will be good.

Joshua

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