Isabelle Question #22

 

Hi Joshua,

So my daughter Schoochie Woochie also known as Madeline is facing some fears. She loves cheer leading (since five-years-old) and we went to a meeting for her to sign up for cheer leading in High School. Then this past Saturday she went to a tumbling class to work on her jumps for the upcoming cheer leading tryouts. After the class she told me she is no longer going to try out. I told her try not to let her fears prevent her from doing something she loves. She told me it was too much for her and then shut down.

I was inspired (I think) to reach out to one of the coaches but then I wondered if I was meddling? It is hard for a mama bear to sift through the difference. I'm too close. Do I let it rest and allow things to unfold? Reach out to the coaches? What do you think?

Love,
Isabelle


Dear Isabelle,

Yes, you are meddling, but as a mother all you really do is meddle. You can't really do anything else. Mothers and fathers and grandparents and teachers and peers and everyone else who thinks they know something better than the child is simply a meddler and really nothing more than that. You know you have your inner self and a perfectly good emotional guidance system. Did you know that your daughter also has an inner self and her own perfectly functioning guidance system? That's right. We understand that you think you want to be her guidance system, but what you truly want is for her to learn to use her own guidance system.

You might ask if we are meddling in your life. That might be true, but you invited us. We didn't notice that you were struggling and then came into your reality. You birthed a desire and the result of that desire caused you to find us. You asked us for our perspective and we happily gave it. We know that you have your own guidance system, but you are interested in universal laws, the mechanism of physical reality and a new approach to life. In this new approach to life, you allow everyone to walk their own path.

If your daughter comes to you and asks you a question, then you might share your perspective. All we do with you is share our perspective. We see you as perfect as you are and so our perspective is given from a place of pure positive love. If you face a manifestation event and endure some contrast, we are not sad for you. On the contrary, we are happy that you have an opportunity to flesh out some fear and limiting beliefs. We know that the contrast will cause you to see things from a new perspective and change your vibration. Manifestation events are wonderful things.

You cannot know how things are going to unfold. Cheerleading my be part of an old vibration. There might be something new coming with this change of heart. She might be inspired to a new interest. While certainly there might be some fear there, we think that this opportunity to try something else might be what she needs at this time. Your role as a parent is not to dissuade her from any experience or push her toward any experience, it is to allow her the freedom to explore whatever catches her interest in the moment. The more she is able to explore interests, the more likely it is that she will be led to her passion. What you truly want is for her to live a life of bliss. She will do that when she finds her passion. It is not wrong to jump from interest to interest at this stage (or really at any stage) of her life. She is here to sift and sort and define preferences while birthing desires.

Another thing to remember is that your daughter comes in at a higher vibration than you do. She is preparing herself for the world that will exist when she becomes an adult. Cheerleading might not be as important in that word as it was in other times. There might be something she is much more interested in. You might not think it's interesting or even worth pursuing because you are not a vibrational match to it. But if she finds it interesting, then she will be a match to it and worthy of pursuing it and that's really all that ever matters.

With our love for you and Schoochie Woochie,
We are Joshua

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