Emma Question #50


Hi Joshua,

So since I have lost a fair bit of weight now, I have started to have a lot of people notice and make comments about it. I have had a few guys at work ask me if I have lost weight, and then tell me I look good. This is a complement and should make me feel good, but it doesn't! It makes me feel bad because I think: shit - they must have thought I was really fat before I lost weight. So then I just feel shame for the way I used to be. I know this is not how I want to feel, and I am scared that feeling bad about my past self like this might make me manifest more bad feeling things, like gaining weight back!


Dear Emma,

When you feel negative emotion, it means that your perspective is not in alignment with how your inner self feels about the same subject. Your inner self is focused on what you want and is holding the perspective that will bring it to you. If you can find and hold that same perspective, you will manifest your desire easily. When you choose a different perspective, one that will not make you a vibrational match to your desire, you are alerted by your inner self with a message. The message is the negative emotion you feel. It means you're temporarily traveling on another path away from what you desire.

Imagine taking a trip to another city in Australia. You get in your car and set your GPS for the destination and it plots the best course. You drive down the road and you come to a stop sign. The GPS asks you to turn left. You look to the left and for some reason you decide you don't like what you see. You judge that direction as wrong and so you turn right and head off in another direction, away from your chosen destination. Your GPS alerts you to the fact that you are heading the wrong way. Is it a big deal? No, it's just a message and you can chose to ignore it if you want. But if you truly want to make it to your destination, you will have to listen to the message and change your course.

So here you are moving toward your desire. You are getting feedback that you are on the right track. You are receiving evidence that what you are doing is working and if you were aligned with your inner self, the complements would feel good. You're just choosing to see the roadsigns telling you that you are heading to where you want to go as wrong. As soon as you get the message that it's not the signs that are wrong, it's just that your understanding of the signs is a bit off. Take another look at those signs and see that they are indeed right. When you feel better, you will have found the perspective that aligns with what you want.

Notice that when you are driving, the roadsigns will indicate how many kilometers to your destination. They never say how far you've come. They never tell you when you'll get there. They never remind you where you've been. Do you know why that is? Because it has no relevance. It doesn't mean anything. Whether you have traveled just a little way or a great distance, your destination is still out there in front of you and you are on your way to it. You might be traveling fast or at a snail's pace. That doesn't matter either because it's never the destination that is the important part. It's always the journey. As soon as you reach your destination, you'll choose a new place to visit and you'll once again set your GPS to focus on that that new place and off you'll go on a new journey.

With our love,
We are Joshua