Emma Question #4


Hi Joshua,

There is this guy I have been messaging who I quite like the idea of and am excited about him, but he takes agggeeeesssss to reply to messages. Like, days. I feel resistance towards this, I am pushing against it and making it wrong because I would really like our conversation to continue. I find myself frequently checking my phone for any messages. What is the meaning behind this manifestation? What am I supposed to learn from this?


Dear Emma,

Imagine meeting someone and having no resistance whatsoever. Imagine allowing him to be exactly as he is in every way. Imagine accepting him despite what he says or any behavior he may offer. It would be quite an amazing thing, wouldn't you agree?

You are a being of pure positive love and acceptance. We consider love and acceptance to be the same thing. You cannot truly love someone unless you accept that who they are being may not be who they really are, but it is the highest incarnation of them. It is the most evolved state of that person as he is now. And there's nothing you can do to change it. They are perfect as they are.

Imagine meeting someone new and allowing for the fact that he is perfect as he is right now. He may be evolving. He may change over time. But right now he is the highest representation of his inner self that has ever been alive in physical reality. From that perspective, he is perfect. So then, why would you want him to be different than he is? Because you think you would feel better if he was just a bit different. If he returned messages immediately, you would feel better. If he was different than he is, you would feel better. If the outside conditions were different than they are, you would feel better. Guess what, it doesn't work like this.

You are in charge of how you feel. You are in total control of the thoughts you think and the perspective you choose. If you want to feel better, then you have some work to do on the inside. It's not going to help if you change the conditions because the conditions are simply a reflection of how you feel. Feel better first. Feel better first. Feel better first, and then the conditions will change to match how you feel.

It is good to be excited. That means that your overall perspective is aligned with what you want. You are on the right path. However, when you feel negative emotion as a result of some action (or inaction) on the part of the other person, your perspective is out of alignment. Change your perspective until you feel relief and you'll be back on track.

Isn't it nice that you got a chance to understand how wishing the conditions were different doesn't help you at all? Isn't it nice that this came up before the real relationship starts? You don't even know him and already you are wishing he was different than he is. Imagine being involved in a full relationship. You would be wishing for all sorts of things to be different than they are.

Take the time now to practice the art of analysis. What is the fear at the base of the limiting belief that he must message you back more quickly? Why do you care? What does it matter? The fear is irrational. You are trying to move things faster than the universe. The universe has a plan to bring you everything you want. You cannot know how that plan will come together. You are trying to fill in the blanks. You are trying to drive the car blindfolded. Get in the backseat and allow the universe to do the driving.

This relationship may never get started, but it has created a desire. If you meet someone who is interested in you, you will know it because the message comes back very quickly. You now have something to compare it to. You are now receiving information and when the universe lines everything up, and you are a vibrational match to what you want, you will know it because of manifestations like this that occurred along the way. This event, like all manifestation events, is a step. The step creates a desire and as long as you go with the flow of it, your vibration is raised a bit higher. With each step, your vibration is raised as long as you do not dwell on it or call the event wrong.

The allowing approach to life is one where you see all manifestation events as perfect steps on the path to your desire. You can't really know what is in store for you. The complexities of your desires make it impossible to foresee how they will all magically unfold. All you can do is move through each manifestation event gracefully and understand that each one is a step in the direction of what you really want. If you can do this, you will receive everything you want in the most elegant and perfect form.

We want to take this a bit further. You are still attached to an outcome. Release your attachments to specific outcomes because you cannot know what is coming. Adopt an attitude of playful curiosity. This might not be the guy. This might be the guy. This relationship might never happen. This relationship might last forever. Who knows? All you know is that everything is unfolding based on the desires that have been created by you and are now being broadcast via your vibration to the universe. All you have to do now is allow the universe to do its work. When you stir things up by wishing things would unfold differently, well that's just resistance and if you continue resisting, you'll stall the manifestation process and you'll make the road a lot more bumpy than it really is.

We are having so much fun with you,
Love - Joshua