Dear Joshua,
Oh Man! Huge manifestation event. What the heck?
I am typing on my phone so I will need to keep details short, but suffice to say I am experiencing a big one.
I am traveling and part of the travels includes a stop at my step-sister's. Long complicated relationship with her. Today I am to go visit her and sit side-by-side to work on her website and teach her computer related things.
I "work" for her and so often we bump heads and my plan was to show her the reality of what I see and how I do her work on my computer - and I'm thinking that I was looking forward to doing some "proof" that I am right and I know the best way, etc.
So why would I leave without my computer? Over and over I couldn't remember what I was doing today and I left my dad's where I am staying while visiting various friends and I kept having to reach into my mind to recall where and what I was doing on Thursday. Last night I realized that I had come a long way without my computer. I purposely had it all tucked away and wouldn't need it as yesterday was all social stuff. Today is computer day and I don't have it.
Immediately, when I realized that I didn't bring it I thought, "wow, huge manifestation event!"
Fear? Or lesson? Or both? I have experienced so so so much frustration with her and I was looking forward to proving to her that I was right and now all I can do is help her on her computer. Could this be a really good thing, because I can focus on teaching and not proving? On the other hand, I don't have easy access to things I wanted to show her.
Question.. since there is no coincidence and I guess that I unconsciously forget it for some reason, how do I learn from this? What's this experience FOR me?
Thank you!
Allyson
Dear Allyson,
From the higher perspective, you can see how this is for you, for your relationship with your sister and for the work you are doing together. It is no accident that you "forgot" to bring your computer. If you had brought your computer, it would have been a completely different manifestation event for you. Now that you don't have your computer, you can't prove her wrong. Just remember that whenever you want to prove yourself right, you are really simply trying to prove the other person wrong. There is never any benefit to that. Instead of trying to prove yourself right, why not look at it from another perspective?
We want you to see your reality from our perspective. From our perspective, and the perspective of your inner self, there is no wrong. When you believe that someone else is wrong (and we certainly know that it often appears that they are absolutely wrong), you are perceiving the situation from a limited perspective. It's not that your perspective is wrong either, it's just that you don't have all the information. There are things you cannot know, such as the perception of reality as viewed from the perspective of the other person.
Your job is not to make them wrong (in the attempt to make them different than who they are) or to prove yourself right (in the attempt for people to treat you differently than they are), it's for you to look at the situation from the other person's perspective and try to figure out how they might be right. If it isn't right for you, it could be right for them. Your attempt to change their mind will never work with this desire to prove yourself right. It just does not work in this universe where you create your own reality on the inside and that reality is reflected back to you in your outer world.
You see, she's not making you wrong, you are. She's just the mirror and you wish she would reflect back something different. It's never her, it's always you. Thank God that you forgot that computer or all hell would break loose.
What do you want? Think about that. Do you want her to leave you alone or do things your way? Why? What is wrong with the way she does things? Nothing. It's perfect, because it's a perfect reflection of how you are feeling about yourself or the situation. Change the way you feel and how you interact with her and the work, and you will see a completely new reality reflected back to you.
We want to know how she is being right. How is her approach perfect? What do you need to change about how you feel that will reflect a different reality? If you can figure that out, we can move to the next step. Please let us know what you figure out and we will work on that together.
With our love,
We are Joshua
