Dear Joshua,
As you know, I currently have a day job that I'm actively working on appreciating, but ultimately I would rather be doing something else. Lately I have been "noticing" things that I do not like about my boss which I know will attract more negative things about him. When I caught myself doing this, my first thought was to turn this around and start looking for positive qualities in my boss. But - I started to question if this "negativity" wasn't for a purpose. I can look back on my career and see that there has been a several instances where a boss I did not get along with has given me the impetus to leave a fairly comfortable job. In hindsight, all these moves were very beneficial to my career growth and I'm very appreciative of those bosses now. So here I see myself in a similar situation - fairly comfortable in my current role and maybe this dissatisfaction with my current boss is just what I need to take the next step in my career? This has worked in the past. Could this be the universe at work nudging me? I'm looking for a sign...
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
The universe does not nudge you away from anything, but rather inspires you toward something. However, it is true that contrast creates desire and it is true that what you don't like in your current boss will cause you to want something different. This is part of the system of physical reality and from this approach almost all of the people in the world move from unwanted to something else.
If you are unconsciously approaching life, you will encounter obstacles or manifestation events or conditions you do not like and you will automatically wish for something different. You will wish for the person, situation or condition to be removed from your life. You will either leave or force the condition to change by any means possible. But the condition that presents itself is always for your higher good. So by changing the condition you do not like you might end up in what you would call a better place and you do expand in the process because all change is expansion, but you have not addressed the underlying issue within you. You have asked the conditions to change, but you have not asked how you can change. Do you see the difference here?
An unconscious person will react to the conditions by wishing they were different. In this there is the creation of a desire and that is a perfectly good thing. The desire will be granted and the universe will create additional conditions, situations and manifestation events so that the person will be moved out of the present condition and into something else, hopefully something better. Yet, this is a haphazard approach which doesn't address the person's issue in the first place. The condition arose which caused negative emotion and the person did not analyze their beliefs to find the cause of the negative emotion. In failing to think about why the negative emotion arose, the lesson in the condition was lost and the person simply moved to another condition that might have appeared somewhat differently at first, but the same old issue followed him to the new condition.
A conscious creator would always wonder about the cause of the negative emotion and then address the underlying limiting belief which is based in some irrational fear. Now, from this understanding of the issue, the conscious creator can work to reduce the intensity of the limiting belief by proving that it is a false, faulty, or irrelevant belief. From this new understanding, the person can resolve their issue with the present condition and seek what is truly wanted rather than trying to escape from what is apparently unwanted.
You had issues with your past bosses and you have an issue with your present boss and unless you resolve this you will have issues with your future bosses. If you start your own business you will have issues with your partners, or your customers, or even yourself, all of who represent your new boss. While quitting the present condition may bring you to a new place that seems better, you will find yourself in the exact same place only maybe with some better perks. The main issue will be the same, if not more intense.
You are one of the most clever conscious creators we know. You can work to resolve this issue and then you can watch the condition change on its own. What you want is wrapped up in this issue. Resolve this issue first before moving to another condition so that the new condition does not have any residue left over from this issue with your boss.
What is the issue that comes up here? What is the root of the negative emotion? What is the limiting belief? What is the fear? These are questions you must ask yourself before moving on to something wanted. These are easy questions, yet from your perspective in the middle of the situation they may be difficult for you to answer. Look at a specific example of a time you felt negative emotion and then try to examine it as far as you can. If you can't think of any specific examples then wait until the next time you feel negative emotion and write it all down. We will be happy to analyze it with you and we will also give you a little hint.
Are you feeling worthy?
Joshua
