Dear Joshua,
I discovered a belief today. I believe that if I spoil my children, they won't be motivated in life to support themselves. And this was really hidden way down there along with all the other "this is just the way it is" beliefs. And I don't believe it anymore.
This morning I was driving my car into work and noticing how dirty the interior of the car was. This bothered me because I let my son use my car whenever he needs one and I pay for all the expenses including gas and insurance and I think the least he could do is wash my car every couple of weeks in return. I had asked him to detail the interior of the car over a week ago and it still had not been completed. We have an onsite car detailing service at my work so I thought to myself I would have these guys detail the car and then just charge my son for 1/2, sort of as a punishment for dragging his feet and as motivation for the next time I ask him. Perfect plan.
Then when I picked up my car after being detailed, I noticed the passenger electric window would not roll up. This is what got my attention! That window not working I recognized as a manifestation event and that I had caused it. That baffled me, why would I have created that? I was then focused on figuring this out. Hours later, this hit me - I was trying to teach my son to follow my guidance over his. If he wasn't motivated to wash my car, then he should not. It's me that wants the car washed. I know that he should follow his guidance, so my actions to punish him into following my guidance must be wrong. So then I questioned why was I believing I should do this in the first place? Because if I just give him the use of the car with nothing in return, this will be "spoiling" him and spoiled kids are not motivated. And that's when I knew this belief must be false!
This feel good. I'm just sharing because I think I'm going to start spoiling both my kids and I wanted to know if you have a similar perspective on this subject.
And also, since the broken passenger window has sent it's message, it is no longer necessary. Can we have my window working tomorrow?
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
We are so excited by your response to a situation which you would have previously seen as wrong. When you noticed that your window was broken, you thought that it was a message and you used the event to uncover a limiting belief. Bravo! This is a wonderful thing indeed. You are one of the few people on your planet who have reached this extremely high level of consciousness and we are thrilled to be a witness to it.
Yes, the window broke so that you may uncover a limiting belief. Yes, it was the passenger window which made you think of your son. Yes, unconditional love means loving your son even though he's acting in a way that you do not prefer. Yes, spoiling your children is placing absolute faith in their guidance system. You do not need to guide them because you cannot guide them from your limited perspective. Your job is to become a master at following and interpreting your own guidance system and allow everyone else to learn to follow theirs as well. The only guidance you need to provide to others is your example of alignment. That's really all you can do.
Just imagine, if you will, how a parent's guidance breaks the laws of the universe as you know them to exist. The universe has been designed for your specific growth and expansion. You were born into the world and your vibration matched the Earth at that time. As you lived your life, you expanded through experience. Your view of the world, your perspective, your vibration, and your perception of reality is unique to you. You see the world in a way that is different from every other person who has ever or will ever exist. From this absolutely unique point of view, how would it be possible to guide another? They see things differently than you. They have a unique perspective and a unique vibration. It is simply not possible to help anyone else through your guidance even if it feels like you know better.
This is the tricky part for those who have yet to awaken to the reality of their unique reality. To them, it feels like they know more. Most parents believe they know how to navigate the world better than their children simply due to the fact that they've been around longer. However, they don't understand that their child was born at a higher frequency and that they have their own guidance system. If left alone the child will follow their inner guidance, but when confronted by a parent, the child will follow the parent's guidance over their own. They will assume that the parent knows best and will fall into that cycle of limiting belief with their own children.
You have the opportunity to break that cycle. You have the ability to create a different experience for generations to come. You can now act as if your children have their own inner guidance and you can observe what will take place when you stop trying to coerce their behavior so that it conforms to your preconceived notion of right and wrong. When you understand that they are doing what's best for them in every moment, you can relax and allow the natural progression of the manifestations of their desires to come to fruition. It may not always look like things are working out, but there are steps that are a necessary part of the process of their evolution.
So, now it's time to step back and allow them to be, do, and have whatever they want. Won't that be interesting? You will no longer have an opinion over what they are doing or saying. For you, it will now be all good. If they do something great, then that's good. If they do something that you would have previously considered bad or wrong, it's now good too. They can't be wrong and now you can't experience negative emotion because in your eyes, nothing they do will be bad or wrong. Can this be possible for you? We think it can.
As you become aware that there is no wrong anywhere in the universe and you acknowledge that your children cannot be wrong either, you must be aware that other people will continue to judge them as wrong. Your wife, and the people in your life, will continue to make your children wrong, just as they have always done because they believe this to be their role. You must allow them to continue because you cannot bring them you your level of consciousness. All you can do is be an example of your own alignment. You must allow them to be as they are without making them wrong. You are now beginning to allow your children to be as they will be without judgment and without making them wrong. The next step in your journey to consciousness is to expand on the love for your children to the love for your wife and to all others.
You feel true love for your children. You feel a different kind of love for your wife. You feel a different kind of love for your friends. You categorize love based on your perceived closeness. In reality you are just as close to one you perceive as an acquaintance as you are to your children. Your love for everyone can be the same as your love for your children. In reality, in the nonphysical, there are no distinctions. You love everyone absolutely the same.
You are loved more than you can imagine.
Joshua
