Dear Joshua,
Possibly a silly question, but here goes - My teenage son has had a history of having electronic devices stop working around him while I have had the opposite experience of electronic devices being very reliable. So recently a hard drive that was hooked to his computer failed and I (half jokingly) told him that I have removed the hard drive from his "sphere of destruction" and placed it in my office where I will give it love and caring and bring it back to life. I then asked him what it was about his belief/vibration that causes electronic devices to fail around him. He responded saying it was MY vibration causing the failures because of my belief that electronic devices fail around him so it was my fault. Could he be right? Is it purely me and my belief/expectation regarding my son and electronic devices? Or could it be a blending of both of our beliefs and expectations. Or do hard drives just fail sometimes and I shouldn't try to read anything more into it.
Thanks!
Steve
Dear Steve,
What a wonderful question and we know our answer will be fun for both you and your son. We have to ask you, "who's reality is it anyway?" If you are experiencing you son's breakdown of electronic devices, who is having the experience, you or your son? In this case it is your experience and you have an expectation that your son is causing the problem and so the problem happens. It is you who has the expectation that these things happen to your son while you enjoy reliable electronic devices.
This is an interesting topic, but one that may be hard to understand. You believe that when you see something happening to another person, it is happening to them, not you. However, you are the one who is having the experience of it happening to them, so it is your experience. Oftentimes, the experience will be more impactful, more extreme, more intensely felt for you than the person actually having the experience.
You could watch a mother give birth and this event seems almost traumatic for you as you could not imagine being able to bear the pain and suffering, while for the mother it is a completely different experience that you are unaware of. In many situations, as you try to understand the event from the perspective of the other person, you really can't do it. It is so foreign that you have to accept that you are experiencing one thing, while the other person is experiencing something completely different.
As you have read and now understand, your world is completely unique to you based on your personal perspective. You perspective is always unique to you because it has been created from your life experience, your current set of beliefs and your personal expectations. This is how your unique reality is formed. But oftentimes, people think they share the same perspective on a given subject. Your perspectives might be close enough for you to agree, but they are never the same. Most of the time, your perspectives are radically different.
It is amazing to us that you are able to function in relationships given your unique perspective which is very different for each subject. This is especially true of parents and children. Have you ever tried to imagine what life must be like for your children who are being born into these modern times. Just a few short years ago, there were no hard drives, cell phones, internet or the abundance of other electronic devices. You grew up in a time where you were relatively disconnected from others. If your parents wanted to call you and you were not home, they had to track you down by calling each of your friends at home until they found you.
This aspect of life was comfortable and normal because you knew nothing different. You did not know that something like a cell phone would even be preferable to your way of life. Yet, to your children who grew up in this age, to not have a cell phone seems like the strangest and worst thing imaginable. They think about how you grew up without one and the thought seems frightening. What you perceive and what your child perceives are vastly different.
Now let's talk about the idea that you are able to consciously maintain an environment where electronic devices perform reliably, yet your son creates an environment where they break down. We are going to have some fun with you only for the purposes of adjusting your perspective on what is really happening, so please stay with us and do not think we are casting judgment, because we are not.
You cannot create in your son's reality and he cannot create in yours. You can and do influence him and he can influence you as well. When the both of you interact, you become co-creative partners and stuff manifests into your shared reality. Manifestation occurs based on the predominance of your individual and shared beliefs. When you believe that things break down for him, but not you, that's what happens. He might be influenced to believe the same thing, yet he is wise enough to know that it was you, not him. Even if he believed that electronic devices are unreliable and so they break down, you influenced him to this belief. It did not occur naturally. Left without your influence, he would not hold this belief. It could only come by your attention to what was wrong and this led to the beliefs which led to these manifestations.
However, you cannot fix this situation either by wanting your son to create in his reality in a more conscious manner or by trying to influence him to do so. Remember that this is your reality. You only have control over your thoughts, beliefs and reactions to events. You cannot try to change him, for in doing so you remind him that he is not perfect as he is, which is a false premise. He is perfect just the way he is.
We want to reiterate that we are simply having fun with you and we know that you are a wonderful father who is far more conscious than the vast majority of those living on your planet at this time. We know this because of the heightened conscious awareness of your children. We are talking to you so that you can gain an even more expansive understanding of the mechanism of physical reality.
It is fun to poke fun at others when something goes wrong and to blame them. You don't need to be serious about any of this because nothing can ever go wrong. But, your question brings up a nice example of how manifestation works. You see something going wrong in the life of one you love and you wish that they were more conscious so that they could sidestep this problem. However, nothing is ever going wrong, it is simply a manifestation event that has the power to alter one's beliefs and therefore change the course of their life so they can rendezvous with what it is they want.
The hard drive breaking was a manifestation event co-created by you and your son. This event has much power within it, even if it seems like a trivial thing. It really shows that no manifestation event is trivial. Each event has within it the opportunity for growth. In this case it is not necessary or even advantageous to try and figure out what it meant for your son. It is only helpful to understand what there is for you to learn. So let's take a look at that.
The first is that you can learn that when something happens in the reality of another person, and you are a witness to it, it is also happening to you. You have also created the event. If you are aware of it, you created it. We want to express that creation can be accomplished by many people, but if you are experiencing it, you created it. Even if you see something on TV, you were a vibrational match to it and so you created it for you. Your perception of the event is your creation and is the only thing that really matters.
You created the relationship with your son, you influenced the beliefs that surround the event, and you created the break down of the hard drive so that you could feel the joy in having your beliefs be right. Can this be right? Is there satisfaction to be had in seeing how the universe proves that what you believe is right? Absolutely, but it is simply a basic element of physical reality that is adhering to your perception of the world through your beliefs. If you threw a ball into the air, you will have some satisfaction as it returns to earth and lands in your palm.
This means that even when unwanted things manifest into your reality, there is satisfaction to be had as the unwanted thing aligns with your beliefs. It may be somewhat unconscious, but you do like saying "I told you this would happen."
Hopefully, this conversation has led you to a new place, even if it's a little scary. You have such control over your environment and what happens within it that it can be a little frightening. You must be aware of your beliefs because they will prove themselves to be true. You can have, be or do anything you want as long as your beliefs are completely in line with your desires. Shit can also happen when you believe it can happen. This is the reason we ask you to identify your limiting beliefs and then change your perspective so that the intensity of the belief is diminished.
This is your work. Seek to feel good so that anytime you don't feel good you really notice it because this is the time when negative emotion alerts you to a limiting belief. If you feel bad most of the time, you won't be so aware of negative emotion and you'll remain unconscious to your limiting beliefs. Don't be so quick to judge things as right or wrong, simply stand in neutral observance of them and think about what you're feeling. You can't get it wrong, so don't worry too much about it. Just have fun and see where your beliefs are contrary to what you really want.
You want your son to be right. You want things to be easy for him. You want him to grow even more conscious than you. But you like being right sometimes even when the unwanted makes you appear right.
You are doing great and we are so proud of your tremendous progress.
Love,
Joshua
