Kyla Question #80

 

Joshua,

You were right on that Live call where you said that once I embraced my own awesomeness (i.e. worthiness) that I would have a long line of people who think I'm awesome and I would get to have my pick of them.

I've been told a few times lately that I put off a very sexual vibe. One man called it "raw, almost primal" and another said the sexy was "just fucking emanating" from me. I was even approached by a man in my complex today when I was out watching my kids play. He casually mentioned that he was in an open marriage and that I should "stop by to say hi" sometime.

I'm definitely enjoying all of the attention and opportunities coming my way. In fact, I'm having so much fun in this area that it's become even more difficult to feel inspired to do day to day "necessities" of being a responsible adult, including unpacking the rest of the boxes in my bedroom.

Will I eventually feel inspired to do those things? Or am I actually receiving and then ignoring the inspiration? Can't the universe just send someone to take care of the tedious things for me? Or is there a way to make them as fun as being pursued by a bunch of good looking men?

With love,
Kyla


Dear Kyla,

There are no inherently tedious activities in physical reality. It is all wonderful. It's just that in the moment you might prefer doing one thing over another thing. But you can be sure that for everything you consider tedious, there is someone for whom that activity would elicit joy. Yes, there is someone who would love to do all the things you do not want to do. Can you engage them to do all of these things for you? Certainly, but that involves reducing the intensity of some very limiting beliefs.

Can you have someone clean your home, unpack the boxes, put everything in order? Certainly. There are lots of people who love doing these sorts of things. Do you have to do any of it yourself? Never. You never have to do anything you do not want to do. You should never do anything you do not want to do. This is a reality based on the feeling of individuality and while that is a tremendous illusion because you are never and will never be alone in your body, you have the ability to be primarily concerned with self. This is truly a selfish reality.

Let's say you hired someone to do all this for you. How would you feel? How would you feel if your parents and your ex knew what you were doing? How would you feel about yourself? This is a feeling reality and how you feel about yourself is the most important part. If you were a millionaire, would you do any of the things you don't like to do? Would you care what people thought? If you were a millionaire, people would expect you to hire others to do the tedious things. But you are a millionaire, it's just that you do not value yourself, your abilities, your talents, and your potential the way that those who are abundant value themselves.

You are learning to appreciate your sexuality and you are feeling more worthy in this area. You must also learn to value your unique talents and abilities in the same way and you will receive the same results. Your fear causes you to limit yourself as you believe that what you create must be perfect. It need not be perfect because it will always be perfect for the moment and the situation. Trust that you can just get things done and those things you enjoy doing will be well received. You do not have to base your persona on your talents, achievements, or creations. They are not attached to you. They do not define you. They do not mean anything.

Let's say you created something that you felt proud of. It has nothing to do with you. It is your creation and you can set it free. If you appreciate it, then that is good. If others do not appreciate it, then who cares? If you are doing something for someone else and you create a masterpiece, but they want to change it, it does not have anything to do with who you are.

If you create a masterpiece and the world adores it, it does not define you. It does not make you good. It does not make you worthy. It is a separate thing. It stands on its own. You are not good because you created it. You are good because you are good. If people do not like it, it has nothing to do with you. If you create something and everyone calls it bad, they are not calling you bad, because the creation stands on its own. It doesn't define you.

You are attached to every creation and this paralyzes you. Those who appreciate abundance create things which stand on their own. They put in the least possible time and effort and allow the universe to sort it all out. If they are inspired, then the creation will find its place. But the creation never defines the creator. The creation stands on its own. The son does not define the father.

Joshua

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