Kyla Question #77

 

Joshua,

A while back you told me that I could have a new experience with a different guy every night if I wanted to. I'm not quite there yet, but I do have a few different men I'm entertaining at the moment. This latest one has some very specific tastes, which happen to coincide with some very specific interests of my own. It's not something I've explored much up to this point, but I am certainly interested in doing so.

Our first encounter was quite interesting...I was immediately aware of several synchronicities and recognized how all of it was happening for me. He just happened to be tuned into several desires I've only just begun to admit to myself, let alone to anyone else.

We had tentative plans to spend time together tonight, but no time was set. When I reached out, he told me he'd be free around midnight. I felt a little fear crop up, as I agreed last minute to work tomorrow morning, but when I checked in with my gut, it was beyond clear that I want to go. And so I will. I worked through those fears, realizing that I can feel rested no matter how much (or how little) sleep I get, that this is inspired action since I am in a high emotional state at the moment, that I can choose to have fun at work tomorrow even if I do feel tired, etc. etc.

So now that I've worked through those fears, I'm having other fears pop up around this guy...he's much more experienced in certain areas, which is somewhat new for me. I am unsure how exactly to proceed with him (i.e. I'm worrying about scenarios that haven't happened yet and may never happen at all), so I'm doing my best to remain the most authentic version of myself possible, but I still feel fear around what he'll think of me even though I hardly know him and what he thinks does not affect my reality in any way outside of the few hours a week we spend together.

I created him in my reality. He exists for me. I love that I have a character like this, because it's something new and exciting to explore. I keep reminding myself that there's nothing serious going on here. But everything he represents is a *huge* challenge to my persona. If my parents had any idea what I am doing with this person...I get embarrassed just thinking about it. I am comfortable with what I'm doing (at least I think I am), but unsurprisingly I still have fear of what others would think of my actions. I know it doesn't matter in the slightest, but it doesn't feel that easy to just let go.

I am a being of pure positive love, and this being of pure positive love wants to do her thing without giving a shit about what anyone else thinks. Can you help make it a bit easier for me?

With love,
Kyla


Dear Kyla,

The subject of irrational fear is a tough one. We understand that completely. It is a powerful illusion. Let's try to break it down.

You have a desire to do something and when you are in a high emotional state of being and you receive inspiration to act, you can know that the action will result in an outcome that is for your highest good. Usually the outcome is wonderful and you look back and wonder what you were scared of. There was never anything to worry about. But, you have an imagination and the fear causes you to imagine the possible consequences of your actions. What if this terrible thing happens? So then ask yourself, "so what?"

So what if this terrible thing happens? So what? What will it mean? What could possibly come from it? How likely is that to happen? Probably, it's pretty unlikely? But what if something good happens? What then? What if I like it? What if it leads me here or there? What then?

In the case of rational fear the bad thing that could happen is the loss of life or injury to the body. The fear is real because it is warning you of a real danger. It is part of the survival instinct, but is rational fear really that real after all. No, because you are an eternal being. All you could ever lose is this life. So what? No big deal. It's just one life and you can live as many lives as you like.

What about irrational fear? If rational fear isn't really real then you know irrational fear is not real. It's limiting. It limits your experience. You came here for the experience of life. You expand through experience. You will never regret any experience you had once you've made your transition to the nonphysical. But here on Earth, will you regret the experiences you had or the experiences you missed? You'll probably regret the experiences you missed. Having said that, you have complete control over your perspective and we hope you'll learn to adopt the higher perspective when thinking about all past experiences.

Irrational fear is always false. Action taken from a high-emotional state of being is always beneficial. Most of the time the experience will be wonderful. Occasionally you might believe the experience was bad, but that's because your perspective is limited. The experience will always be beneficial and will always move you closer to your desire. Your fears are resistant and it is this resistance that muddies the water. It causes a wobble in your vibration. You have a desire and the universe is bringing you to that desire, but you are not going willingly and so the desire might be delayed a bit until you overcome your irrational fears.

Joshua

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