Dear Joshua
I tend to forget that I create everything in my reality. Sure, I go to the victim position often (but am more aware of it in me and others), but I also see or have something happen where my initial response is "that is their issue." But if I'm living it and affected by it, I created it, correct?
My girl friend is sulking (probably justified, at least in her mind), so that is her issue, or I created that and it is mine (it definitely affected my thinking for a while )? I created that following an action I took a week ago? My vibration from a week ago, or my vibration right now? Is me being the target her sulking now a message to me now to look at my vibration now?
The limiting belief is fear of loss of her friendship, fear of my vibration, which I thought was ok, but not balanced and calm, since I had a couple of super busy and somewhat stressful days.
The reality: This isn't the first time... It has usually sorted itself out. I might not be connecting with her or others enough so I could make a bit more of an effort. That might be something that was unconsciously bothering me but everything is perfect and this is exactly as it should be, Maybe she needs a bit of a break from me. Maybe she had a bad week. This passes. We have a solid friendship.
Appreciate always,
Kate
Dear Kate,
If you witness something in your experience, your reaction to it is your creation. If your friend's behavior causes you to feel upset, sad, annoyed or whatever, that reaction is your creation. You can chose to create something you prefer or something that feels bad. Again, it's your choice and the resulting feeling is your creation. Everything is your creation.
Did you create your friend? You attracted her into your life and so that is your creation. Did you create her behavior? Not necessarily, but you created or attracted a response from her based on your vibration. How you feel as a result is how you felt and how you feel as it actually happens. It's the same.
Your inner feelings had a lot to do with how you reacted to her actions. It's just the Law of Attraction at work once again. Can you see how events happen and you immediately and unconsciously take a certain perspective which either causes you to feel good or bad depending on your vibration? It is difficult to get caught up in an event and then suddenly choose something that is completely different that what you've been broadcasting through your vibration. You feel a certain way and something happens to confirm it and then we ask you to reexamine it and to react to it differently. We know, it's not that easy, however, this is the work. How you react to the same old situation will have a tremendous impact on what unfolds for you down the road.
It is not enough to think happy thoughts all day long. The universe doesn't believe you. It wants proof that you've changed. It wants some evidence. It's nice that you're starting to choose better-feeling thoughts, but when you chose to react differently in times of stress, that's when you show you've changed.
If you normally get defensive when you're in an argument, that's fear. When you withdraw yourself from the fight, see it from the other person's perspective, choose a perspective that helps you feel better, and then react with compassion, that's change. Do this often enough and your vibration will really change. This is the evidence the universe needs. If you're not really changing, the universe can't bring you what you want.
Show that you've changed by choosing what you create. When you create the same old shit, even though you've put lipstick on it, you haven't changed much at all. Create what you want at all times. Create the perspective that serves you. Create the set of beliefs that serve you. Choose how you react. Create reactions based in love, not fear. When you create in this manner, you'll create a truly magnificent life.
The universe responds to your vibration. Sometimes the response is instantaneous, but usually there is momentum behind it and it takes a little time. However, when the manifestation occurs, it is always a match to your vibration in the moment.
Let's say you've been miserable for a week and the universe is responding by causing you to miss an appointment and the effect of that will match your feelings for the last week. However, if you wake up on the day of the appointment and you honestly feel good, then the event need not materialize for you. You see every event is created for you when you need it to learn something. Every event is a signal. Good-feeling events signal positive progress and events which cause negative emotion signal that there's a limited belief which is causing resistance.
It's all good, just practice acting like it's all good. When you do that, you enter the state of allowing and everything will flow to you. If you keep reacting the same old way, you remain in the state of resistance and you go no where. The universe sees all of this. There is no where to hide from the universe.
Joshua
