Dear Joshua,
I spoke with my mother today who told me that she wants to give a gift of some money to my sisters (and that would also mean to me - which are in fact the words she used). It is super kind and generous of her if she does it. My oldest sister (as you know), has had trouble holding on to jobs in NY, and has just found a new job, but NY is expensive etc. And my little sister, well, that is a whole other story (but she seems to be doing ok - smile).
I turned her very kind offer down. In part because I don't "need" the gift (not in the same way it could help my sisters) and in part because I don't want to leave my mum high and dry (for a short period) due to her super generosity with us). I'm ok with that decision (even though I felt a brief pang when I thought it could have paid for my new computer, but feeling completely fine now – I'm hoping this gift brings pleasure to everyone). But my question is, even though it didn't feel right to accept (and she seemed to think the same thing although she didn't say it), given my apparent resistance to increased, flowing abundance up until now (or recently), should I have said yes?
I would tend to say not, since I wouldn't have felt good, my mum isn't my source, money flows from easier and more comfortable sources if I can just allow it in, and the talk and offer at least show me that something is letting a bit loose in my resistance (which I think is mainly resistance to being given financial gifts from loved ones who I know don't have a lot of money).
Am I hindering her and her flow (no, that isn't possible, right)?
Kate
Dear Kate,
We will start by saying that abundance flows from every angle and when you pick and choose which source is acceptable and which source is not, you limit the ways in which the money can flow. Your decision not to accept the money from your mother limits how money can flow to you. But that's okay because there are limitless ways the money can flow. If you don't want it to come from there, it will come from some other source.
When your mother offers money to you and your sisters, she does so because she see's lack and she wants to make herself feel better. That is her right. She also wants to be fair. While she sees lack with two of her daughters, she does not see it in you. She is extremely proud of you and views you as a success (even though she might not share that with you for reasons that are hers alone). However, she feels that if the other two are to get money, then it is only fair that you get an equal amount even if you don't need it. Your polite refusal of her offer was indeed what she had hoped for. She receive the joy of offering the money and the feeling of pride when you declined.
But remember, she is choosing this for herself and you could have accepted the money without fear that she was giving too much. Source supports her just as it supports all. She receives inspiration to act and she can trust that this inspiration is for the higher good of all. Just as you cannot see where your abundance will come from, you can't see how it is coming to your mother either. Trust that everything is working out nicely.
In general, we will say that it is better to be open to all sources of abundance. If it came to you, you attracted it. If you don't think it's coming from the right source or in the right manner, or in the right amount, you can be sure there's a limiting belief supporting your reasoning. There is an irrational fear that is causing you to perceive that how the money comes is wrong. If it comes, it is right. If you choose not to accept it, that is okay. Just realize that sometimes you are refusing the money out of fear and sometimes you're refusing the money out of faith that it will come by a means that you prefer. It is all right!
Joshua
