Dear Joshua,
Thank you for your answer about work; Yes, we all do it a bit differently, and there are people who appreciate me and others who don't and I think that is the same for most of the sales people on the desk. Although one of the guys seems to have clients who are a lot bigger and more generous in their trades, and that is ok too - I'm not competing with him. I really just want clients to be happy and interested and work with me.
When I lose a client because they go to another service provider is when my buttons get pushed because I see it as me not having been good enough to keep them, even while at the same time I know the other service provider suits the client more, so I should be happy for everyone. But my ego is affected. Clients come and go - my fear is that one day, I will run out of the list of new potential clients to work with - on the other hand, all is good, it is working out perfectly, I can't see my future and I am being taken care of, so I can appreciate to the hilt the ones I have (which I do), let go, go with the flow, and keep doing what I'm doing since it seems to work for some.
Kate
Dear Kate,
You have a very positive and valuable attitude toward your clients. You appreciate them. The more you appreciate them, the more they will grow. Appreciation, as you know, creates growth. Whatever you want to grow, simply appreciate.
When we think about how you are creating the emotional state of allowing when it comes to your work, we see that there is a tug-of-war going on. On one hand, you very much enjoy working with a certain type of client, in a certain style. You feel ease with this part. On the other hand, you compare yourself to others, you care what others think, and you try to be who you are not in order to please them and sway their opinions of you. So, as you go along being who you are in some instances and who you are not in others, you get mixed results. For you to completely enter the state of allowing, you must be who you really are at all times.
You can no longer behave other than who you really are. You must set specific boundaries. You must be firm. You must stand your ground. You must only do that which you enjoy. You must do only that which interests you. You must do only what's right for you. You must compare yourself to you, not to others. You must remove them from the equation. You may accept helpful advice and criticism from others who have your best interests at heart, but you must not listen to those who will attempt to change you into something that benefits them. If they cannot accept you for who you are, then that is their issue.
When you act as who you are, when you do what you want to do, when you are moved to follow what interests you, when you do what you know is right, you are being who you really are. When you are asked to do or be something different than that, and you go along because you do not want conflict, you are acting out of alignment with who you really are. When you do this, you'll feel negative emotion and this is your indication that something is awry. You must stop and return to being who you are. When you act as someone else to please others, you do so for only one reason; FEAR.
Fear keeps you from operating as who you really are. Fear keeps you from doing only what you want. Fear limits the full experience of life. Fear keeps you from entering the state of allowing. Fear is ever-present, but there is a way to deal with this fear. The reward for overcoming a fear is exhilaration and a very real shift in your reality. When you overcome irrational fear, such as not being who you really are, you enter the state of allowing and your world will shift to match your new vibration.?
The world you observe with your senses is simply a reflection of how you feel on the inside. Imagine if you started operating as who you really are. Imagine if you fully engaged that side of you and let the other side (the side that behaves in a way that attempts to win others' approval) go away. When you are fully engaged as who you really are, you will see incredible things show up in your reality. All you want will come from you being you instead of you trying to be what others want.
Joshua
