Kate Question #24

 

Dear Joshua,

It was pointed out to me that I am jealous (or envious - maybe not the same thing) and I have to say that I have noticed in the last week instances where that would be true. Of course while I don't like that aspect of me at all, more importantly I would like to see it diminish and I now know it is a question of faith and confidence and looking at situations happening for and not to me .... but wow - I have seen it (again and again) in the work place (and also frustration - my colleague, who is doing well and good for him, is stepping on my toes a bit and while I do want him to thrive, I don't want it at my expense), and then even with people who "get" the whole "going with the flow, leaning into life". I feel like I need to start working on myself, my views, and situations way upstream and I guess I'm in a hurry (to where? I mean, really it is not as if I'm going to get anywhere faster ... this is exactly where I'm supposed to be). All this comparing is not helpful and I'm not sure how to have it stop?

Kate


Dear Kate,

Envy and jealousy are negative emotions. They come from a limiting perspective which says that all things are finite. This is not true. Your reality has the infinite ability to bring you all that you allow and everyone else all that they choose to allow. When you compare yourself to another who appears to be doing a better job at allowing, and you believe they are taking your share, or that you might not get some because they have so much, you reinforce this limiting and fear-based belief. Find the fear in the belief and show yourself evidence to prove it's false.

You consciously and rationally know that the success of another does not prove your failings or unworthiness. You know that they cannot create in your reality. You understand that it has nothing to do with them because it all has to do with you. What you truly envy is their ability to allow abundance even without any understanding of universal laws and the mechanism of physical reality.

Some people simply have an abundance mentality. They don't have to work at it. They feel worthy in this one area (however, they may be lacking in other areas such as relationships, health or spirituality). Without even knowing about universal law, they somehow receive the abundance you desire. How do they do it?

Would you say it is easier to be financially successful by seeking money because you want to remove the insecurity that comes with a lack of money, or by simply doing what interests you and thus moving into a state of allowing which allows the money to flow? By focusing your desire to earn money, you maintain a complicated and stressful relationship with it. It is a tug of war and you receive the bare minimum that you require. This is because you feel you deserve that minimum and you will not accept anything less. So the minimum keeps coming.

Your colleague is focused on the fun in winning and making it happen. He enjoys the game and has great confidence. He struts his stuff. He wants you to think he's successful and powerful. He gets more from what others think about him than from the money itself. He is proving his worthiness and for him it is rewarding. However, he will never be satisfied because one never needs to prove worthiness. Everyone is already equally worthy.

So your colleague has found a way to allow abundance. While he successfully creates a feeling of abundance, he does it because he wants to prove himself to others. Now, knowing what you know, what will you do? Let's take a look at this.

You are already at a very high vibration relative to those around you. You understand more about universal laws and the mechanism of physical reality than most. You have an advantage. You know that you create your own reality. You have an idea how this all works. You know that you are already worthy and that you have the ability to be, do and have all that you want. You see others getting what you want and you wish you could do the same. But since you know more about the universe, it's actually more difficult for you.

You cannot follow a false desire. It's too late for that. You cannot prove your worthiness by making money, because you know you're already worthy. You will find satisfaction in what you do. The money will come as a side effect of that. If you feel confident and secure and believe that the universe will deliver the money you need as you need it, then you can relax about the money.

You are in a profession where the score card is money earned not satisfaction or reward for a job well done. It is contradictory. In a profession where return on investors income is the perception of the investor and actual commissions generated is the perception of the company, a dichotomy is created. It is a divided game where the goal of the client is different than the goal of the firm. As a conscious creator, you are caught in the middle.

The solution to your problem is to remove yourself from the desires of both the firm and the client and focus on the aspects of the work that appeal to you. Remove the fear from it and everything will improve. Do not care what your boss wants or what clients want. That is not for you to serve. You serve you and they will take care of themselves. By them relying on you to provide what they both need, which is often in opposition, you are caught like a rat in a trap. You are trying to serve two impossible masters with completely different agendas. So we suggest that you give it up.

You have a very limiting belief that if you stop serving the desires and wishes of those you feel provide your income, you will lose your employment. The fact is that the fear is keeping you from performing at your best. If you removed the fear, you would be inspired to act and you would receive ideas and thoughts that aligned with your best interests. You would excel. You would reach new heights of success and the money would flow to support you. It is the insecurity and fear that keeps you operating at levels below your abilities.

Imagine if you could not fail. Imagine if your only goal was to feel good and have fun. You are attempting to change the opinions of those around you by doing things in ways you think they will want. You are not being who you really are. You are limiting yourself out of fear. You see your colleague doing what he wants to do and this is the basis of your envy. You know that's how you should be as well, yet you are afraid to do it.

It is time to start being brave and bold. It is time to start focusing on what you enjoy in the work. This work is meaningful and rewarding when it is done without fear. You will find great joy in it as soon as you start performing as the highest and most loving version of you. Forget about what others want and focus your energies on what makes you happy. This is the key to your success. If you get fired, then it will be the excuse you need to move on. If you do well, then it will be the proof that your way is the best way for you.

You are more powerful than you can imagine.

Joshua

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