Isabelle Question #46

 

Hi Joshua,

I'm not sure if you felt my fear from question #43 but my persona and ego reared their head. I was irked and angry; yup kicked out of alignment. I had a lot of support to help me process the fear and I'm ok being highly limited and playing it safe. I know it is not forever and I will be become a master at processing fear with lots of practice. Nothing going on is serious, it is all for fun anyways. It is my purpose, it is what I came here for. To play in the realm. So I love you fear! You shine light on my limiting beliefs. It is all for me, and it is out of love. I can set my intentions for it to be easy and allow it to unfold. I can be out of alignment, it is no big deal. I can be mad and stomp my feet, it is no big deal. I can be called a bad ballerina. It does not define me. So I thank you Joshua!

With all my love,
A highly limited, playing it safe student Isabelle.


Dear Isabelle,

Isn't it interesting to note the role your ego plays in how you feel? You feel fear and take a limited perspective on the subject at hand. It's no big deal. You feel fear. That's all that is happening. Instead of processing that fear, the ego jumps in to protect you from the subject of your fear. The ego engages a fight or flight mechanism. You tend toward one or the other. If you tend toward fight, then you will make the subject of your fear wrong. If someone says something that gives rise to fear, you might argue with that person and make them wrong rather than processing the fear. If you tend toward flight, you will simply shut down when you hear something that causes you to take the limited perspective. It's not you, it's your ego.

Your ego jumps into action in order to defend your persona (that limited idea of self). The way to mitigate the extreme response of the ego is to create a highly open and malleable persona. If you can do that, the ego will be weakened and the responses will be more mild. The more rigid the persona, the more active your ego will become. If you have a very narrowly-defined persona, the ego will perceive more threats. If you can create an open and flexible idea of self, your ego will lose its need to protect the persona in most instances.

We see you as the most magnificent version of Isabelle. If you saw yourself the way we see you, your ego would have nothing to defend, because you would live life surrounded by love energy and you would not perceive danger in the way you now perceive it. Fear creates the illusion of danger, but as you feel more confident, you see through these illusions and you return to your natural state of being.

So let's look at this in the most practical manner. There are only two states of being. You are either in the state of love and existing above the horizon line, or you are existing in the state of fear. If you are in love, you cannot be in fear. If you are in fear, you cannot be in love. Love is your natural state and so whenever you are not in fear, you are in love. Imagine moving along your day and seeing yourself dip in and out of fear all day long.

If you know that you can only be dragged out of love by perceiving something in a way that causes you to feel fear, then you can realize this and alter your perspective to resolve the fear. However, the ego jumps in to defend the persona. This complicates matters because it brings forth fear energy and fear-based thoughts and ideas. The thoughts and ideas that are attracted from a limited view of life are designed to alter the conditions so that you can feel good again. However, since these are fear-based thoughts, they do not generally align with who you really are. Therefore, they are not authentic thoughts and do not lead to authentic actions.

If someone says something to you that causes you to feel fear and you take a limited perspective, you must think about who they are and who you are. If you are being inauthentic, you will receive thoughts to make them wrong. If you attack them and try to make a stand, you are not being a being of love and therefore, you are not being authentic. If you shut down, you do so only as a strategy to make the other person wrong. Either way, it is your intention for the other person to retract their statement just so you can stop feeling fear and go back to feeling good. However, as you know, this approach does not work. Conflict never makes you feel good. As an authentic being of love, you truly do not want to create conflict with anyone. You want to feel good and you do not want anyone else to feel bad. You want to express your love, not dictate how others behave. You truly want to control your own fear and allow everyone else to be however they are being.

Notice that if you had no ego, this process would be so much easier. It's the ego who rises up to attack your attacker. But the ego would not rise up if you felt no fear. Right? You must feel fear in order for the ego to come to your defense. Think of the ego as a knight in shining armor. If you are not being attacked, the knight cannot save you. So thank your ego for trying to protect you, but use your own powers of perception to make the ego irrelevant. You make the ego irrelevant by having a flexible persona.

What does a flexible persona look like? If you felt worthy, you could not feel fear. Since everyone feels fear, everyone feels some degree of unworthiness. The more worthy you feel, the less you will perceive your reality in a way that causes you to feel fear. So, think of yourself in terms that expand your idea of self. Think of yourself as more powerful, more magnificent, and greater than you think of yourself now. Work on experiencing the magnificence that is you. Work of talking to yourself in more empowering way. Work on believing that you have a message of love to share with the world. See yourself as the natural leader you are, but in an even more impactful way. Think of what you have to offer the world. You are not saying that you are better than anyone else, you are simply stating that you choose to bring forth what you have come here to share with the world as fully as you can. If you can do that, your ego can take a break.

With our love,
We are Joshua

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