Dear Joshua,
I had a question about relationships pop up in my head during my meditation last night. How come we sometimes feel more closely connected to friends than to close family members? What are the energies at stake in those relationships?
With love,
Arnaud
Dear Arnaud,
You do not feel the connection with people. What you are feeling is the connection to your inner self. It is alignment. When you are flying high and having fun with a friend, what you are feeling is alignment. When you are with a family member and things are tense, what you are feeling is fear and this is what takes you out of alignment.
Parents of newborn children feel a connection with their babies because they are simply using those children as their excuse to feel good and to choose a perspective that is very close to their inner self's perspective. Yes, we will agree that this perspective is hard-wired into the consciousness of the parent and so part of this is the momentum of instinct. But you could look at any family member, any friend, and in fact, any human and feel the same thing. You call it love. It is really alignment.
When you fall in love with someone, you are using them as your excuse to maintain a strong connection to your inner self. You are now choosing such a high perspective that what you feel as love is really strong alignment. When you break up with that person and look at them as if they did something to you, you have simply chosen a limited perspective and your inner self is not agreeing with you. This is why it feels so bad. If it feels really, really, good, it is strong alignment. If it feels really, really bad, it is the result of strong fear and difference of perspective.
You choose what will be your excuse to maintain alignment or to come out of alignment. It it feels good, it is alignment, i.e. love. If it feels bad, you are out of alignment, i.e. fear. Now, you must understand that you choose it either way. Love just doesn't happen. You choose to view the conditions from a high perspective. Fear just doesn't happen. You choose your perspective. You are making it all up. You have total control of the perspective you are choosing. Choose the higher perspective more often and you will exist in a state of love and bliss.
With our love,
We are Joshua
