Dear Joshua,
I feel like I have been asking an awful lot of questions related to my work lately, so it's about time I widen the net a little.
This question occurred to me the other day, about physical desire and chemistry. We have all faced that situation where we see someone in the street that stops us in our tracks or we meet someone that we find immediately physically attractive. I am talking of someone who really makes our heart skip a beat, and who, we feel, embodies everything we desire. Our next thought, however, is that they are out of our league. It happened too me last week, in the street, just a fleeting thought and feeling but I thought it would make a good basis for a question.
What does it say about us and our sense of worthiness? What fears does it tell us to overcome, and what empowering perspectives can we take on this reaction? How does physical attraction and sexual chemistry work on a vibrational level?
I would really love to explore this side of reality more.
With love,
Arnaud
Dear Arnaud,
The manifestation of anything is the same. You birth a desire. The desire is created and the universe sets you off on a course toward the manifestation of the desire. As soon as the desire is created, it is given. It exists. It doesn't matter what it is. The desire is alive in reality, just not in your reality. In order for it to exist in your reality, you must become a vibrational match to it. It could be a job, a home, a pile of money, a passion, or another person. It could be a new friend, a new employer, a new customer, a new enemy, or a new mate. When you become a match to that which you desire (or need), you will know it. The person cannot exist in your reality if you are not a match to them. If they exist, you are a match in some way.
How are you a match to this person? How did you come to them? Are you aware of them now because you have birthed a desire for a new mate, or have they come to teach you something? Are they here because you have a desire to change the conditions you do not like? These are the questions you must consider when anyone new comes into your life. The spark that you feel is the indication that this person represents some part of the manifestation of your desire. The spark is intended to move you toward that person. The spark is the ignition of your desire. Your fears are the brakes. Maybe your desire has arrived, but you are not ready. If you're ready, you'll push through those fears and you will introduce yourself. If you're not ready, your fear will limit your actions. You will be quite literally frozen in fear.
You birth a desire and you become a vibrational match to the desire and the object of your desire appears in your reality. That's the first part of our story. Good for you, you've become a vibrational match, but are you ready? You are ready if you can push through your fears. You are not ready if you can't. That might seem like a contradiction. You believe that the process of manifestation is the birthing of desire and becoming a vibrational match to your desire, and you're right. However, here we are with a desire for a mate and here is this person. Is that your mate? Is that person the manifestation of your desire? At this point, you cannot know. You cannot know until you actually consider them to be your mate. All they represent to you right now in this very moment is potential.
This person represents the potential manifestation of your desire, but maybe not the actual manifestation. You have reached a vibrational level high enough so that this person manifests into your reality. When you see them, you feel the spark of attraction. This is your indication that you are on the right tract. A potential mate has been inserted in your reality. You see a version of a person who you consider a fit with your desire. This is part of the manifestation process and your feeling of alignment is the signal to the universe that you have a set of beliefs and preferences that recognize this person as a potential mate. Now what? Now we take a look at your vibrational state at this juncture. What is preventing you from becoming a match? When you look at this person, what are your fears and doubts? What are your fears around yourself? What are your fears about the possibility of a relationship? What are your fears regarding the other person? If you had no fear, you would introduce yourself and take things from there.
However, if your fears stop you, then you must resolve those fears. You have some work to do. You must reduce the intensity of your fears so that in the next situation, they do not stop you. You will face a series of manifestation events designed to highlight the limiting beliefs that give rise to these fears. Before you can reduce the intensity of the limiting beliefs that prevent you from moving to the next step, you must be made aware of them. Alternatively, you might spend a bit of time analyzing your fear and uncovering your limiting beliefs on your own. If you saw someone walking down the street and you felt that spark of attraction, what would you want to do? What would you actually do? What fear would prevent you from doing what you want to do? That fear is based on some limiting belief. What's the belief? Is it true? Is it always true? Is it true for you? Can you find evidence that it is not true? If so, find all the evidence you can and prove to yourself that's it's not true. Prove that the belief is false and it will diminish the intensity of your belief. If you've done the work and if you are able to analyze your fears in the moment, then the next time you are presented with someone who sparks the feeling of chemistry, you will push past your fear.
When you meet someone you find attractive, that person has entered your reality because there is something about them that is a match to your vibration and vice versa. Now, that aspect of your vibration that is a match is simply the reason you find yourself in the same room with them. They may be here to expose a limiting belief and that is good. They may come to introduce you to someone else. You might need a new teacher or friend. You might even need a new enemy. They are here to further your vibrational journey toward that which you desire. They may be the final manifestation of your desire or just a signpost along the way. At this point, upon first meeting, you cannot know. They may simply be here to expose a limiting belief. In this case, the limiting belief is that they are out of your league. That belief is untrue and obviously quite limiting.
Let's start with the limiting belief that this person is out of your league. What are you basing this on? You do not have much information. If you are a limitless being of pure positive love and acceptance, could anyone be out of your league? Are you comparing yourself to others. If you are worthy of all you desire, and you desire this person, could they be out of your league? If you are interested in it, you are worthy of it. Only your own self-doubt could limit you from anything you desire. If you want to observe how worthy a person feels regarding their value as a mate, look at who they are with. If you want to attract someone who feels worthy, then you must heighten your own feeling of worthiness. No other aspect of you will make a difference in this regard. How worthy you feel determines who you will attract. Feel worthy before consciously attracting anyone and you will receive a perfect match to how you feel. It's the most basic law in the universe. It is the Law of Attraction.
With our love,
We are Joshua
