Allyson Question #66

 

Dear Joshua,

I had a large manifestational event last night. But to keep it short and to the point of my question this morning... Rick and I had a discussion about our house and future houses.

I guess he was under the impression that I didn't like our house - which he bought and we moved in together and have enjoyed for 5 years now. He has overhead and I've told him that I look forward to having another (either second or just next or just mine) house that is a cottage style and surrounded by flower gardens and filled with color. (As for our house now--I am pretty 'rude' about how it's HIS house and it's all browns and boy decorated. Not totally true as it's my bad-self being nasty and I'm not sure what else -- but I know it doesn't spread love and appreciation.)

I've been 'feeling' my way toward my cottage for a long time. I have no idea where it would be, I have no idea how it will come, I have no control over the specifics at all. It's a 'cottage' with flowers all over the garden and the interior is light and colorful. That's it. I can really feel the joy, the peace, the love, the 'real me happy place' but I do not have any control in the specifics...just lovely feelings.

I felt like I had to argue with him to get him to understand that I do love where we live now - the house, the people, the life. YET - I look forward to a cottage life. I know that I can't make him understand. I can't explain to him his reactions are based on irrational fear (and the potential list of those fears). How can share and not fight for my beliefs, my dreams against his "be logical" and on and on? The fear (and very stubborn reaction) that arises in me during these events is - Fine. I'll just go. I'm going to leave you and then I'll do it on my own. Thank you, very much, jerk.

Of course, this is more than likely not going to happen and it won't solve anything on the inside for me :o) I get that. So what's my lesson here?

Thank you!
Allyson


Dear Allyson,

The fear is within you that you cannot create the reality you prefer if Rick doesn't agree with you. We understand that idea perfectly, but it is based on a false premise. You are the creator of your reality, not Rick. Rick does not need to agree with your desires in order for them to manifest. You think that you want Rick to also want the cottage and in order for you to have Rick in the cottage, you will have to make him have the very same desire. How is it going to be possible for you to have the cottage and Rick if Rick won't leave his house? You can't know how this is possible because you are not at the vibration that would allow you to know how it is possible. From your perspective, it seems like an impossibility unless Rick signs on and agrees to your desire. This creates fear and so you are inspired by fear to have a totally inappropriate conversation. You are not having this conversation to convince Rick to join you in your quest for a cottage because you want him to enjoy the cottage with you. You simply want his agreement so that you can feel better. When he disagrees, you feel fear because you think you need him to agree.

If you have a desire, the most elegant manifestation of this desire can unfold perfectly into your reality. The desire must be pure. It can be anything you want. The more specific the desire, the harder it will be to believe that it will come true. Unless you believe it, you will feel fear and the fear will stall its manifestation. Therefore, the way to manifest anything you desire is to think of it in terms that do not bring up fear. The way to manifest what you truly want (as opposed to what you think you want) is to have faith that only the universe knows how to make it happen. Give up your control and hand it over to the universe. The universe knows how all the moving parts work together. It has full access to all the information. You have limited information.

You think you know how to make things happen. Now, we understand that you are more of an allower than most, yet you are still trying to make things happen. You are still maintaining control. Give it up, because it is an illusion. You have no control over anything other than your point of focus. If you can control that, and focus on allowing everything to come to you at the right time, you will allow the manifestation of all you desire. If you try to control it, it will either not manifest or it will be shoddy compared to what would have manifested if you had just gotten out of the way.

You have a dream of having this cottage and having Rick as well. Since you believe the two desires cannot manifest together, you feel fear. You have doubts. So we say that you must get more general. Don'y worry about the details of the cottage, just maintain how you would like to feel. Don't worry about having Rick there in the cottage, just focus on how you want to feel with Rick. Then give it all up and do nothing but focus on these feelings. These feelings are not incompatible because you are feeling them now. If you can feel them now, then reality can create conditions where you can feel them in response to the conditions that appear in your reality.

If you feel fear, you restrict your connection to the nonphysical. This is very important, because in order to receive the inspiration to act that will lead to the perfect manifestation of your desire, you will have to be connected to the nonphysical. You are really only connected when you feel good. When you feel bad, that connection is shaky at best and inspiration has a difficulty coming through. You also tend to feel more fear when you are out of alignment and so even if you receive the inspiration to act, fear will prevent you from acting in the moment.

What you want to do is maintain a state of allowing. In that aligned state, you are most receptive to inspiration to act. You are less likely to allow fear from preventing you from taking action and so you move towards the unfolding of your desire. You can create things and experiences rather quickly now and so your wildest dreams have the potential to come true in a relatively short amount of time. The fact that you can't see how they will come true is the most important piece. You do not have to know how or when, you only need to focus on why and then be delighted when it actually happens.

With our love,
We are Joshua

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