Dear Joshua,
Last night I was not a happy camper and I wrote you a question about that. I don't recall saying or thinking anything in particular before bed - got up and faced the fear of not being good enough to go to spin class after a week of not going.... But I intended to have fun and intended to enjoy what I could do, and I survived just fine.
Then, my morning went like clockwork - lovely early morning reading a few of my past questions, easy breakfast with neighbors (that I'm not close to and in some ways did not want to go but felt an ease about it and it was easy), went to see a delightful 94-year-old client who I adore - we had so much fun and she gave me a $10 tip on the bill and wanted a hug, too. While I was working with her I had two clients call and request appointments - both I had not heard from in ages.
Not 5 minutes after leaving Client 94 - I ran into client #2 from the phone calls. He's such a hoot and we chatted and scheduled a visit next week. There was a gas station right there - when I decided I needed gas (I usually go far down the road) and that saved time. I think this is way too much Who Cares Details but the point is ... Did my crappy feeling night question to you expand me into a happy camper? How did I get so connected to those who bring me joy (and fun work), and all done with ease? It's so different and I didn't "do the work" ... (analyze fears). I'm just happier and productive.
Whatever it was ... I'm very grateful.
Allyson
Dear Allyson,
When you think that you did not do the work, you are mistaken about that. You did do the work. You thought about what you wanted, you noticed that you didn't feel good, and you birthed the desire to feel better. You might not have consciously taken out a pen and written it down, but you paid attention to how you felt. When you noticed that you felt bad, you went to sleep you reset your life. It was a new day when you awoke and you did not focus too much on what was bothering you. You had a good-feeling momentum carry you forward into a new day and a new life. As long as you don't pick up where you left off, or as long as you turn your attention to how good things are, then you naturally float back up to the surface and all these good feeling things come into your reality.
There is the lag of time. When you feel good, good-feeling experiences will come to you, but not always right away. Sometimes, the momentum is being built up and they surprise you. Your general desire was to experience joy and as long as you are not completely focused on that which is not wanted, joy comes to you because it is natural. You have to concentrate really hard on things you don't like, things you think are wrong, or things that you think aren't working out, in order to feel bad. Since feeling good is natural, you really have to maintain a limited perspective on something for a while so that you can keep feeling bad. Usually sleep is all you need to reset your focus.
If you feel bad, take a nap. If you are focused on something you don't like, meditate. You need not dwell on the thing you think is wrong. You do not have to maintain a negative mood. All you have to do is wake up from a nice sleep. Sometimes, that is all that you need to feel good again.
When you feel bad, knowing what you now know, your mind births the desire to feel good. Since you know so much already, you understand the importance of feeling good. You are getting more accustomed to feeling good and when you feel bad, you really notice it. You know that you will feel good again eventually, so you worry less now about feeling bad and you naturally just turn your attention to something you like. You also notice when things are going well and this alleviates the negative momentum and builds positive momentum.
Appreciate that you've risen to a new level and are vibrating at a higher frequency now. Know that as your vibration raises, your normal set point for how you feel is also higher. It is easier to feel good and it takes more focus to feel bad. Things are getting easier and you are getting better at this. You are naturally coming to view things from the higher perspective. Yes, you will notice when you don't feel good. This is a good thing, not a bad thing. You are meant to dislike feeling bad and you are naturally meant to turn your focus toward better-feeling things. You are doing that now and it is all working out beautifully for you.
With our love,
We are Joshua
