Allyson Question #16

 

Dear Joshua,

Continued conversation over recent Q/A #15:

"Your job is not to make them wrong." I think I see that clearer now. Thank you!

"You see, she's not making you wrong, you are. She's just the mirror and you wish she would reflect back something different. It's never her, it's always you." I need more explanation on this point. I am confused about the mirror and reflecting. "Thank God that you forgot that computer or all hell would break loose." You were so right and as I think I said in an earlier email, it was such a blessing not to take it with me, or better said, forgot it!

Your questions to me: "What do you want? Think about that. Do you want her to leave you alone or do things your way? Why?" Yes, I would like her to hear my instructions (teaching computer skills) and I want her to hear and comprehend my instructions and then not bring up the differences repeatedly. I would like her to recall/acknowledge that we have different equipment thus we see a different image on our screens. But now that I type that out - what a funny thing! I want her to see things differently. Yipes! "What is wrong with the way she does things? Nothing. It's perfect, because it's a perfect reflection of how you are feeling about yourself or the situation." Again, I don't clearly understand the reflection point... I can't put it together.

"Change the way you feel and how you interact with her and the work, and you will see a completely new reality reflected back to you." And this did happen. I had a better experience. But I don't know about the reflection.

"We want to know how she is being right." She's a very strong-willed woman and my take on her response to my teaching is that because she sees it on her screen, then it's fact. It's this particular layout (which is wrong in her mind) for everyone and it's not right enough. She wants everything to be in perfect order. According to her view of it, which I repeatedly say - there are as many views as there are people receiving your blog. "How is her approach perfect?" I have no idea :)

"What do you need to change about how you feel that will reflect a different reality? If you can figure that out, we can move to the next step. Please let us know what you figure out and we will work on that together.' Before I answer this, I would like to get clearer on the reflection topic.

Thank you!!
Allyson


Dear Allyson,

For her to believe that there is only one reality that everyone see's is the perfect analogy to our description of a mirror. This might take a few questions before you understand our meaning, because this is a rather lofty idea and we will do our best to explain in a way that makes sense to you. Your step-sister is looking at her screen and she believes that everyone sees exactly what she is seeing. You explain that everyone has a different operating system and so people don't always see the same thing. In fact, many people see things very differently and that it is important to understand that what she sees is different than what a lot of other people see.

You have a certain belief about your perception of reality. How you believe you see the world is how you believe other people see the world. However, everyone has a different perception of reality because everyone has a unique operating system. What your stepsister believes about what she sees on her screen is what you believe in general. She believes that everyone sees the same thing and you know that as far as the computer is concerned, that's not the case. However, you believe that she should be able to perceive reality as you perceive it and so this frustrates you not only with her, but with all people who have different perceptions.

Your perception of reality is completely unique to you and no one on earth can see reality the same way you see it. Everyone has a unique perception of reality. This is by design, because there would be no purpose to a physical experience if the same perception could ever be repeated. If you think about it, every single life that has ever been lived or will ever live has a unique perspective of the world. Everyone sees things differently based on the vibration they are emitting. When you look at a tree, the tree is unique to you and no one can see what you are seeing because the tree you see is perceived through the unique lens that is your unique vibration.

The only way you can have this apparent conflict with your step-sister is if it has something to do with your perception of reality. Play with us for a minute. What you are frustrated by is the same issue that you have or otherwise this could not cause you to feel any negative emotion. Therefore, the issue that causes the negative emotion is a mirror to an active issue that exists within your vibration in this moment in time. Now, the issue that revolves around how people perceive reality would not matter to you if there wasn't something you desire that requires a change in belief in this one area. That is the concept of mirroring.

The person you are in conflict with causes you to feel negative emotion because they are approaching the subject in a way that reflects your issue in general. This negative emotion is based on a limiting belief. The limiting belief is high enough in intensity that it will limit you from receiving something you desire. You must resolve this issue before you can become a vibrational match to whatever it is you desire. You must make the vibrational change.

This little manifestation event sticks out because you are supposed to alter a belief and the action of the person that you find wrong, is a mirror to the issue stuck in your vibration. If you believe that it's silly for her to expect everyone to see the same thing on their computer, then you might extrapolate this to the belief that it is silly for you to expect everyone else to perceive reality as you are perceiving it. This leads to the beneficial belief that everyone sees something different. What you consider fact, is not necessarily fact to all people because their perception causes them to see something in a different way.

The benefit of having the belief that everyone sees things differently will allow you to do whatever you need to do from a much higher perspective. This belief will help you ease all conflicts where someone else perceives something differently. If you can change your belief in this area, you will have raised your vibration and are one step closer to receiving that which you desire. If you can look at what bothers you in any situation (and there may be many layers to it), you can see how they are mirroring an issue that you must resolve in your own belief system.

For now, simply be aware that when you want another person to be different than they are, they are mirroring something back to you that has to do with an issue that you must resolve in order to become a vibrational match to what you want. It is no longer appropriate to view them as wrong. Now that you know what you know and that you are actively creating the reality you prefer, you must understand that there are no coincidences or mistakes. Everyone in your reality is a mirror to you. If you feel positive emotion, then that is a reflection of a beneficial attitude and belief. If you perceive something as wrong, you must now dig a little deeper and see how it reflects back some issue that might be based in a limiting belief you have.

Nothing is ever wrong, it is simply a judgment you make based on a certain set of beliefs. If you think something is wrong, then you must dig a little deeper and try to understand what belief causes you to perceive it as wrong. If you can do that in situations like this, you will become an allower and you will allow all that you want to flow easily into your reality.

With our love,
We are Joshua

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