Dear Joshua,
What's up with what we're told about being Vulnerable?
In my mind, I consider vulnerable as being open to sharing the real me. Being vulnerable is not an easy thing for me. Of course, I guess it also depends on how you define it.
I'm very trusting. I don't automatically worry or shy away from new people or situations. But, I am famous for having a wall up, not being overly sharing with my personal feelings and such. I don't call that distrusting or not vulnerable. Would you please help me understand Vulnerability plays in becoming a more conscious creator?
Thank you,
Allyson
Dear Allyson,
What a wonderful question! As you know, there are only two emotions: fear and love. There are only two perspectives: fear and love. There are only two ways to define anything; from a perspective of fear or love.
When you define being vulnerable from a perspective of fear, you choose to see it as being a victim, as being an open and easy target. You see it as a weakness. From a position of love, you see it as being authentic and allowing. If you are vulnerable from the perspective of love, you are open to receive. You are not trying to protect yourself. You can be open and vulnerable without the fear of being taken advantage of. Vulnerability, from this perspective, would be your natural state.
Trust is key to living by the new approach to life. In order to be the authentic version of you, you must trust that what you are receiving is a mirror to what you are emitting through your vibration. Alter the vibration and you can trust that your reality will also be altered. Trust that what comes to you is for you and that nothing can happen to you, it can only happen for you. Therefore, there no need for the wall, as long as you are being authentic.
What does it mean to be authentically vulnerable? It means to lower your defenses. The reason you have erected defenses is to protect yourself from some threat. Since all threats are perceived or attracted from a stance of fear, you must first remove your limitations caused by irrational fear. There's nothing wrong with putting up a wall and keeping your feelings to yourself. That is a perfectly valid approach to life. However, it is fear-based and therefore, limiting. Remove your wall, lower your defenses, and open up, just a bit. You will find that might feel a little scary or awkward at first, but you will also find it to be liberating.
The more confidence gained by becoming vulnerable and authentic, the less you will rely on your wall. You will find it more interesting to be your authentic self, rather than hiding behind some unnecessary defense mechanism. There is some momentum there, but the fact that you have even asked this question shows us a willingness to approach life from a stance of love and trust, rather that fear and defensiveness.
With our love,
We are Joshua
